Me and my best friend...I find it hard to talk to her about what I think and feel because everytime I try to she always interupts me and even when i'm upset and she knows it she'll tottelly change the subject on me and forget about me completly. I sat her down and talked about this with her but then she's always like I'M NOT PERFECT. But today, during T.A.L.K.(Long story, suppose to help people get out of clicks and open up to people more I guess you can say)
and during OPEN MIC people were coming up there crying and telling stories if they wanted to. Of coarse I didn't but instead I cried...a lot. and my best friend was near me...like a few inches away and this girl that was sitting next to me actually asked me "Are you ok?" and my own best friend didn't say anything.I asked her about it and she's like "Oh well...that councelor person that I hate was near there." And that's all she said(she hates him because she just doesn't trust him. That's all) (Continued)
2006-12-13 08:58:19 · 11 answers · asked by DreamfullAngel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and then when I started to explain "I was going to cry even more infront of..." and she just interupted me and went on her own buisness about her locker. and completly forgot about me. (done)
2006-12-13 08:59:10 · update #1
Me and her have been friends for like 5years and I usto be able to tell her everything and she'll listen and I listened to her problems too. But over the past 3years it's been sort of like this but last year and this year I have been noticing it's getting the best of me more and more.
2006-12-13 09:07:49 · update #2
She doesn't sound like a "best" friend to me. Some friends are good for the easy things, hanging out, having fun, Other friends are good for when you need to talk or vent and need advice....a "best" friend is someone you should get both from. Try going to someone else, another friend, parent, teacher to talk about the important things with.
2006-12-13 09:02:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well girl that is something. Well firs of all how long have you known her. because to me a "best friend" is someone I have known for a while. If she interrupts every time that you try to tell her something personal or just want to talk about stuff, I don't known, to me that is not a "best friend". I mean "best friends" at least listen to your stuff even if they don't always give you feedback. You should really think about it is she your " best friend" the person you can count on when you are feeling down or when you have something personal to share, someone you can trust. Or is she just a "friend" someone you can hang around with and just have a fun time.
2006-12-13 09:09:14 · answer #2 · answered by homie101 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! I know you are really distressed & all, & I don't want to belittle you. but I am having a hard time sorting out most of what you are saying.
Obviously you are expecting too much from your friend when you open up to her. She is probably a little too narsisistic (into herself)
Try talking this over with "that councelor person" perhaps that will help you out a little better.
Cheers!
2006-12-13 09:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try creating a best-friend-bond with some of your other friends.. or even you can endeavor on a completely fresh and new friendship. There is no real, opened and honest communication between you two, as your other friend doesn`t want to establish with you.
"When one door closes, another opens. Just be sure to notice it."
and
"A true friend is not one who wipes your tears. A true friend is one that doesn`t make you cry."
2006-12-13 09:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ateviel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what honey, years from now your "best" friend from highschool won't even be your friends anymore. i rarely talk to anyone from highschool and i'm only 21. here's what you can do:
sit your friend down and tell her it really hurts your feelings that she interrupts you all the time and you feel like she's not sensitive tto how you feel. maybe she just doesn't know how to listen and is narcissistic. there are sooo many people out there like that even my own friends. it doesn't make them bad people or that they don't love me they just have to have everything be about them. if she's still not sensitive to you after you very nicely talked to her in private then you will know what to expect from her from now on. you don't have to trust her completely or expect her to always be there for you, maybe just treat her more like an aquantance. you will have many more other "best" friends in life, i promise.
2006-12-13 09:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have so many complaints, which no one is going to read through, its obvious you should find another friend. Plus, what is a best friend anyway. Its a very dependent idea dont you think.
2006-12-13 09:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it may be time to find another friend, because the one you currently have doesn't have any consideration for you or your feelings and doesn't seem to want to be bothered with anything concerning what is going on emotionally with her because if it doesn't concern her then it doesn't matter, find someone else who you can confide in and share your feelings with who will be there to listen to you...
2006-12-13 09:06:22 · answer #7 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This does not sound like much a friend to me! You sound like a sweet, sensitive young woman who is interested in bettering herself...why don't you find another friend?
somehow I don't think you'll be losing much in dumping this one!
Good luck to you sweetheart!
2006-12-13 09:02:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She never learned to be a good listener. Talk to someone else, you can't change her.
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2006-12-13 09:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋