My husband and I enjoy the "Swinging Lifestyle". We feel it has enhanced our relationship and really kicked our sex life up a few notches.
Am curious if some of you have had the same experiences and your thoughts on them.
2006-12-13 08:55:44 · 26 answers · asked by Alexandra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was involved in it for a few years, both as part of a couple, and as a single when I moved to a new state and left my former bf behind (the lifestyle had nothing to do with our parting).
I liked it better as part of a couple...met some great folks, very open minded...had some neat experiences...learned a lot about people and relationships...and loved the parties and socials (even when we didn't "play").
As a single, I felt too much like a p*ssy with legs...it got old going home alone at the end of the night, when others had their partner to snuggle with.
I don't regret a moment of it though...I was probably around 36-ish when my bf and I first got involved with it...
2006-12-13 09:24:56 · answer #1 · answered by . 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
We have done the "swinging/swapping" thing with a couple who are our friends. It's happened 3 times, we all enjoyed, all benefited in some way, and yes kicked up our sex life a few notches. I wouldn't do it with any other couple and we're not entering the lifestyle, just having fun with our friends as a group. It's not something every couple can handle. And it's best to be honest and open to your partner about the situation.
2006-12-13 09:25:45 · answer #2 · answered by october g 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally against this lifestyle personally because I've seen some of the most wonderful people get hurt by it. I understand why people enjoy this lifestyle, but many many times it's not without it's consequences!
2006-12-13 09:00:43 · answer #3 · answered by ~Sabie~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. My wife and I have always had an open relationship, even before we were married. We don't let it rule us, but we find that we are happier when we are together when we "get it out of our system" when we have other desires.
For example...
My wife is a brunette, but she knows I have a soft spot for blondes. Instead of having her dye her hair all the time, especially since she's a knockout as she is, I sometimes feel the need to be with a blonde. Sometimes I even want a redhead. So, by being swingers, I'm able to fulfill that temporary desire without causing any issues at home with "why don't you just change for me".
Sometimes my wife wants a guy who's shorter than her. I'm about 8 inches taller, so some positions can be difficult for us. She is able to fulfill that desire and then come back home to me where she's most comfortable and happy.
In the end, it's all about boundaries and overall comfort. My wife and I are totally comfortable with being swingers. We don't get jealous. We never sleep with someone on our own; it has to be in couples (the "activities" are always in the same room, never off alone without each other).
2006-12-13 09:03:23 · answer #4 · answered by T S 1 · 5⤊ 3⤋
Your going to get chewed a new one on this board for this topic. Happens all the time.
Anyway, No. My husband and I do not participate in swinging. I am however, happy for you and your husband finding new joy to add to your life together. Play safe! And remember communication is vitally important...more now than ever.
2006-12-13 08:59:41 · answer #5 · answered by Poppet 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did several years ago. Didn't turn out to be what we wanted. Maybe just met the wrong people. Seems like a lot just wanted a new partner/spouse or to just play mind games. Costly. Also, adultery. Wrong.
2006-12-13 08:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well.....I guess I have thought about it but just never met the right people. My husband and I are homebodies. ( and no I dont consider myself old & ugly) I'm sure it will always just be a thought in the back of my head though. I'm to chicken.
2006-12-13 09:06:40 · answer #7 · answered by robyn b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 26, and my gf is 20, but we have both talked about it before. We both feel that it is probably something that MIGHT happen down the road, but neither of us seems to be sure how we feel about it yet.
I am always interested in different peoples experiences with it (good and bad) to see if it might be something we want to try.
If you'd like to talk to us, feel free to email me, we'd love to chat with you sometime!
2006-12-13 09:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by Raven 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we have just had 3somes and we would agree that it has enhanced our relationship and kicked up our sex lives as well. We would consider being with other couples in the right scenario.
2006-12-13 11:18:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have not ever experienced swinging. Truthfully I think it would be fun and interesting, but it is something I would never participate in. I feel it is moraly wrong and would only lead to problems in my marriage.
2006-12-13 08:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jewells 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋