How many of you have problems w/dead-beat dads?

Question

I am having issues with my children's dead-beat dad. He doesnt pay a lick of child support, but I guess I am one of the luckier ones, as I get child support once a blue moon (2 small payments since beginning of August). If I use Child Support Services to take my child support payment out of his check, he changes jobs. It's always a constant excuse as to why he cannot give me any money that week. Always. He sees his kids very regularly, but doenst enjoy them quite enough to help support them, by helping out w/clothing, skyrocketing daycare costs, and school field trip money, lunch money, diapers......it's driving me crazy.
We have a court date to reinforce child support in January. He's only had his current job maybe 2 months, if that. What do they do to a father that hasnt paid??? He's behind over $3000 since we split in April, and I was granted full custody (he has every-other weekend visitation w/the kids) and c.support. $3000, in 8 months. What a loser!

Answer 1

I know your pain. I've been battling for 11 years now. My ex owes me $60,000!! My ex hasn't paid in so long that I've pushed for criminal prosecution. He's going to get a nice summons for his new year!

The only advice I can give to you is to call the Child Support office every week, twice a week. Squeaky wheel gets the grease.

Answer 2

I totally understand where you are coming from.I have had two dead beat dads.. First 3 are all grown so don't have to deal with him anymore. The last one is the problem. He is a over the road truck driver, who makes good money, I know because he was one when we were married..He only has to pay a measly 90 dollars a week, and also may for insurance. Well we see nothing. The only way I get anything is to take him back to court and have a warrant out for his arrest. Right now he has changed jobs again and is on the loose somewhere, but his day will come and it will be sweet.
One thing to remember and I do this daily, is the father might be a dead beat dad that is worth nothing, but he gave me a beautiful child , and for that I am grateful.. good luck

Answer 3

because the 2d lady has as little moral or maybe worst moral than the deadbeat dad. She's in there only for the money or companionship. or only because she needs a baby a lot, no longer being concerned no matter if there is adequate components to deliver the newborn up. She only have her organic and organic clock yelling at her announcing she needs a baby now, any newborn. that fairly says some thing about the 2d lady. The deadbeat dad under no circumstances appreciate the 2d lady. I actually have heard that some even go on announcing that they fairly appreciate and love the first lady more desirable. Making relaxing of the 2d lady.

Answer 4

Well, I was the child with the dead beat dad - my dad moved to another city 20 hours away when I was 5 years old. The agreement between him and my mother was that he didn't have to pay monthly child support, but he was expected to pay for half of my post secondary school costs. I have seen 200 dollars and I'm now 25. I've completed university and have a degree that cost me about $18,000. (btw, should mention that I am in Canada - I hear post secondary is expensive in the US) I'm now back in school and he knows it - I still don't get any money. For me, the thing that hurt most was not that I didn't get any money from him, it was that he moved away.

He left me and my sister here and we saw him about once a year after that. Your kids are lucky that they get to see their father as often as they do - he obviously still cares for them alot.

Perhaps you should ask him directly but evenly why he can't make the payments? Also - did he mostly support you and the family when you were together? Maybe the payments need to be lowered to something that he is comfortable paying regularly.

If things don't work out monetarily, all I can say is - don't restrict your children's access to their father and don't say bad things about him to them. They don't need to know that Dad doesn't love them enough to pay for food.

Best of luck to you however, I hope it all turns out !!!!!!!

Answer 5

the honor system doesnt work, thats for sure.

1) NO its not all about the money dude, we'll gladly take a kidney if we are allowed to sell it to feed our kids ;)
2) its "CHILD SUPPORT" not "CHILD TRUST FUND" to those who think we should just hand our children money to pay the bills.
3) we dont wanna hear "boo hoo we cant afford it", when your out making more babies and these ones need shoes.
4) we know you all think your slick working under the table, thats why we hire PI's to video you and put leins on any property we find that you own.
5) deadbeats should be thrown in jail, for its a CRIME to hide money to screw your kids. in some cases, the good 'ol orange jumpsuit and sack lift does wonders to start payments coming again ;)
6) yeah were gonna have it put on your credit reports, have your tax refunds intercepted and get a court order to sell your boat. and when we find something is in your mommys name, we'll attach that too.

anyway, every state is different, so i would contact legal aid in your area. all states have them in most counties also. look in the phone book or call the county court clerks office for the number.

call your CS case worker; request an enforcement hearing. if they are not doing their job, contact the regional federal office, they'll put some heat on.

its a federal offense for them to run to avoid child support (over state lines).

post thier deadbeat face on a deadbeat site online.
Check the links below; click on your state, and find the child support section. last three links are to help...

Answer 6

yea at this point your not far enough into it for it to be too big of a concern with the thousands of cases they are dealing with....that owe much more than he does...plus as you said, he DOES see them regularly....and that is a major plus, not only for the kids, but in the courts eyes as well. It sounds like a lot of classic cases where he's still struggling too, trying to adjust...and make a new life for himself as well. It will work itself out eventually.

Answer 7

I haven't received child support in 7 years. My ex is $52,000 behind at this point. He doesn't call, write or send birthday or Christmas cards. The few times he saw her in that time, all he did was talk trash about me. So, yeah, you could say I have problems with a dead beat dad. Losers!

Answer 8

Maybe he should sign his rights away as the father? What good is going to be to the kids if he's in jail? What good is he now? I know, it was all about the money from the beginning right?? Whatever. Move on. Try to get a better job and take care of your children. Quit relying on a father that doesn't give a sh*t about his kids welfare.

Merry Christmas

Answer 9

I feel for you. He is a total piece of crap.

Try this link: http://disc.server.com/Indices/191834.html

If you have a picture of him and your order of support www.angrywhiteboy.com will plaster his face all over the internet as a deadbeat dad along with a bunch of other criminals and when somebody googles his name he will be indexed as a deadbeat dad.

I know this total jerk who owes his wife over $12,000.00 and the scumbag has his boss claiming he only makes $70.00 every two weeks, so his ex-wife gets a check once a month for $24.00

here's a link on him:

http://www.angrywhiteboy.org/index.php/2006/11/28/bad-guy-gets-warrant-removed-from-imw/

By the way, you can get a court order to suspend his visitation until he pays up!

Don't get mad..Get even!

Answer 10

My kids father has only made two childsupport payments in 5 years. He owes over 15,000.00. Don't count on him. As sad as it sounds, your children will see what kind of parent he is and what kind you are. My children are now in their teens and can't stand him. It finally caught up with him and he is serving time in jail for it. How do I know? He sent my kids a letter asking them to come visit. My kids laughed!