While the 14 year old daughter is not allowed to have any.
The mother at the same time cannot make up her mind if she even wants the 14 year old to date. Also this same mother has allowed her 11 year old to ride in cars with highschool guys and sad to say she thinks it's cute, but the 14 year old don't dare. I always thought the oldest than the youngest. The last thing I heard is that she bragged to the 14 year old as to how another sister who is five got kissed by a boy, and oh no the 14 year-old don't dare get kissed; she almost did once and her mother literally accused her of wanting sex, this happened when she was 12.
11 can date 14 can't and can't even get kissed without being accused of wanting sex. Now I do know the 14 year old was molested when she was 11 and to me that is still no excuse.
First the oldest than the youngest comes after is what I always believed.
2006-12-13 08:53:12 · 29 answers · asked by Laela (Layla) 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Sounds like she is setting her daughters and herself up for DISASTER!
2006-12-13 08:58:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
The mom may not be looking at it as the 11 year old dating. She probably thinks its cute because she sees it as innocent like she does the 5 year old getting kissed. She may be overprotective of the 14 year old because of the past and also because the 14 year old is at an age where an innocent kiss can turn into sex. I would tell the 14 year old to talk to her mom about this. Don't start off with an attitude but by saying: I'm confused about something that's going on. I might be misunderstanding things but the way I see it is that ......... Maybe this can start a much needed conversation between mom and daughter. So many times, kids see it one way and parents see it another. The key is communication which the parent should be the one initiating but looks like in this situation the child has too. Good Luck and Take Care.
2006-12-13 09:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The mother must be strange,but what i'm wondering about is what does a 16 year old see in an 11 year old???
2016-05-23 20:41:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dorothy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that the mother is a little bit (ok alot) confused, and what's even more disturbing is that a 16 y/o boy WANTS to date an 11 y/o girl. Sounds like the mother is being overly protective of the 14y/o and not being nearly protective enough of the 11 y/o. She thinks it's "cute" for the 11 y/o to go riding around with the teenagers?? Is she going to think it's as cute when the 11 y/o comes to her and tells her that she's pregnant or has some sort of STD???? Makes me wonder what kind of drugs the mother is doing..........
2006-12-13 09:06:24 · answer #4 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is bad parenting. Does she have a mental illness? If the older one was molested when she was 11 why would the 11 year old be allowed to ride around with horny teenagers? Is there a father around? I think she may need a psyciatric evaluation
2006-12-13 15:16:19 · answer #5 · answered by .. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"Now I do know the 14 year old was molested when she was 11 "
And therefore mom lets the next 11 yr old daughter be put into similar circumstances???
I am guessing that Mom has a problem and maybe should not be around little girls anymore.
2006-12-13 09:09:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the mother had an older sibling that she hated so she taking it out on her oldest daughter kiknd of like a revnge or something. But that is totally unfair!!!
2006-12-13 08:59:14 · answer #7 · answered by Tena Bena 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 11 year old shouldnt even be dating in my opinion. All a 16 year old boy wants his sex most likely and an 11 year old shouldnt give it.
2006-12-13 08:57:06 · answer #8 · answered by LP's Mommy, RN 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she wants to be a grandma soon. The 14 year old is going to sneak out and rebel, and the 11 year old won't have to sneak.
2006-12-13 08:55:44 · answer #9 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Disgusting! Has this lady ever heard of statutory rape? She's a nut-job for letting her 11 yr old hang out with 16 yr olds... and to treat her differently than her 14 yr old? She's a terrible parent. I'm sorry to say.
2006-12-13 08:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by PT&L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OH GEEZ. Her mother is very careless, and she seems to not care. It probably makes her 14yr old feel 2nd best! I think its wrong! I mean 11 years old COME ON! Looks like her mother has a screw loose somewhere in that walnut size brain of hers!!!
2006-12-13 08:58:12 · answer #11 · answered by basenjicrazed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋