Is it possible to love someone too hard? My husband who is a very humble man has family out of this world. On one occassion, he let his father use his truck and he didn't pick my husband up from work. No call No show. I was actually furious at him for being so calm and humble. I know that it was between him and his dad, but I just hate it when people mistreat him. Do I just love him too hard?
2006-12-13 08:48:18 · 19 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
that would realy make me made as well. All you can do is talk it through in a calm way, and watch as it floats around and he keeps his cool about it. He just loves his family and he seems really laid back. Would you rather him be a rage-a-holic and fly off the handle?? take the lesser of two evils and love him as much as you want.
2006-12-13 08:53:01 · answer #1 · answered by hotmoma_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While I believe that there is such a thing as too much love, in this case, I don't think so. What you have is strong feelings about your quiet, shy man being taken advantage of and walked all over. It irritates the LIFE out of me when my husband's family or friends do the same thing to him. Its perfectly normal if you have any compassion, empathy or feelings at all for your husband. However, you should never be mad at your spouse for the way his family makes you feel... I made that mistake and it was a long time till we could talk about mistreatment without an argument erupting. Good luck.
2006-12-13 08:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just don't want your husband to get hurt and wanting to protect him from harm. Tell him how you feel about the situation and let hime decide what to do. Since it is his dad, he needs to make that judgement call not you! Plus, I would ask dad why he did not pick up ur husband....maybe, there is more to the story! One day, Your hubby will figure it out!!!
My husband is slowly figuring out that his sister is a rude, snotty little ^&*^%! And we have been together for 9 yrs! I know how you feel...just be honest with your hubby and but don't be to hard on him. He can't control his family! Good Luck!!!
2006-12-13 08:59:46 · answer #3 · answered by September Sweetie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you must evaluate is if you have treated him in the same way. Sometimes you might step on him, but you don’t want anyone else to step on him. Putting that aside. You are right, that is something between him and his dad. I’m sure it’s okay for you to voice your frustrations to him when you guys are alone, but don’t make too much of a big deal out of it. If he understands the situation, then leave the man alone. You’re not going to make things any better by bring up major faults of his father, which he is the person who took care and raised the man who you love now.
2006-12-13 08:58:22 · answer #4 · answered by heavenly_bluestar1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your husband is a very sweet man. You are a good woman for loving him too much. And I don't think that is possible. Have you talked to him about how this makes you feel to see him mistreated? Talk to him and his family.
2006-12-13 08:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by daisylou 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's loving too hard. I think it's wanting to be loved and accepted by the other people. My husband is like that. His family craps all over him and he still goes back to them looking for a relationship, a connection with them.
2006-12-13 08:52:06 · answer #6 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not over love, but caring for your husband as it seems hes easy going and people just take advantage of him. Your concern is basically over his eagerness to help others way too easily. You just love and care for him and are tired of seeing others use him for whatever. Nothing wrong with this. He just needs to see his ways and not let people take advantage of him so easily and realize where youre coming from
2006-12-13 09:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thik you can love someone too hard. I think you are protective of him and can see that they are taking advantage and flagarantly abusing his tolerance and generous nature.
Fortunately you married him and not them.
Think of it like this, when they abuse his kindness and good nature and he fails to react with anger or aggression at the end of the day, when the lights go out who is the better man ?
2006-12-13 08:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Vogon Poet 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your husband is a pushover.
There is no such thing as too much love.
2006-12-13 08:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by smoochesjf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! I don't think you love him too hard. It seems like his father takes him for granted and doesn't appreciate what he does for him. Your husband sounds like mine. My husband rarely gets angry or upset. He stays calm when I am freaking out.
2006-12-13 08:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ Tori ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋