Okay how do i tell my friend how i feel without being kicked out of her life forever. she lives about an hour away so i dont see her very often but we are still best of friends. she just made the biggest mistake of her life. she got pregant by a guy that is 2 years older than her and just got out of prison.and he also already has a baby with some other girl. this is so not like her and i do not know what she is doing. she is way to young to be having a child and shes a teenager and is caught up in the big party scene. her parents dont care and i dont know what to tell her. can someone help me.
thanks.
2006-12-13 08:31:48 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first how are you doing, I'm hear to tell that if she was really your true friend she would understand how you felt bout her and she would see that you are trying to help her from making a big mistake in her life.and if she does not want to listen to you just let her do what she think is rite and just try your best to support her.
2006-12-13 09:29:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, there may be nothing you can do for her right now. It sounds like she blinded from reality. She won't listen to a thing you have to say, but one day the light will come on and she'll realize what a mistake she made.
However, I do think you should try to talk some sense into her. Get her to realize the impact a child will have on her life. There's no parties to go to, no going to the bar when you're 21 and coming home drunk and hung over. There's diapers, food, money problems, and a child is a full time job on top of everything else she will have to do. Be aware she may get mad at you for what you have to say, but you need to try to brush it off and get ready to be there for her when she'll really need it.
I wish life was more friendly. Best of luck to you and your friend.
2006-12-13 08:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's trully ur friend, [friends are alwayz there 4 each otha] this is not the time to leave her it's the time she needs you the most stick by her and support her since her parents aren't there for her. Show her how much you care. People make mistakes and unfotunatly your friend has made 1 big 1 and so will u 1 day i dun think u'd appreciate her leavin u wen u made a mistake. Encourage her to talk to a proffesional councelor or a church minister or some1 she trusts like a family member. JUST DUN LEAVE HER!!!!! :]
2006-12-13 08:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably doesn't see the bigger picture of how she is ruining her life my best friend is very honest and when I got pregnant at 20 by a guy who already had a wife and a Kid She told be how stupid I was being and I will never forget how she opened my eyes, To the reality that I was about to have a child and most likely I was going to do it alone..
2006-12-13 08:49:43 · answer #4 · answered by 21&lovinit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, there is nothing you can do that will help. This girl has been neglected at home by her parents and if they don't care, why should anyone else. You just can't teach an old dog new tricks and she is old enough to know better. This is probably a universal problem and too big for you.
My advice is to stand by her and continue to be her best friend.
2006-12-13 08:42:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dinman83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess that I'd try to talk to he rt but let her know that you don't want to hurt her. Try telling her to think of the baby. It's the baby that will suffer. Find out if the guy says that he'll stand by her, and then let her know that what ever happens with him she can't count on any one to help her out with the baby and that she better get used to raising it on her own, and ask if she ready for it. There really isn't a lot you can do at this point but watch what happens after the baby gets here. If it gets to bad you might trying to talk to social serves to see if thy can step in for neglect while she's pregnant.
2006-12-13 08:48:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
U could have helped her earlier than now by telling her the consequencies involved with that guy but now that she is pregnant i dont think abortion is the best advice, if the guy truely loves her, it will be a good idea to take both ur friend and the guy to a psychologist and have a mutual conversation ...........all 3 will come up with something usefull.
2006-12-13 08:38:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 06:49:09 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend put herself in this situation. Because of her own actions that she decided to commit on her own, she is now pregnant at a very young, pressured age.
Tell her how you feel, but don't explode. If my friend got pregnant, and I told her how disappointed I was in her but I would be there for her, she would not kick me out of her life.
Open up to your friend -- you need to support her now, but you cannot support her until you get rid of the negative feelings you have toward her past decisions. She needs you now more than ever.
2006-12-13 08:37:16 · answer #9 · answered by Tawny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk what you think calmly with her. I know what it's like and she might kick off but she will soon see why you said what you did. She is probably eaten up inside and is feeling the same as what you are saying, she is just refusing to accept it right now.
Hope that helps.
And remember, things will only get better
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2006-12-13 08:37:03 · answer #10 · answered by clairejoyx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋