2006-12-13 08:24:50 · 12 answers · asked by misscongeniality711 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hopefully you find a home-like enviroment with nurses and caregivers who are sensitive ans kind hearted, like family members. Hospice is a concept of caring derived from medieval times, symbolizing a place where travelers, pilgrims and the sick, wounded or dying could find rest and comfort. I've included a link where you can read up on as much about hospice as you want.
I know how hard things are for you and your family right now. I hope you'll find peace and the pain you are having will not be too bad. (( huggs))
2006-12-13 08:34:15 · answer #1 · answered by flutteredonby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It should be similar to seeing the same person you have always known, just in another living arrangement. Due to her medical condition, she may be asleep or may not recognize you. She knows why she is living there now. Greet her as you normally would and take your cues from her response. Those who are helping her at the house may give you some indication as to her condition. If she is asleep, be prepared to leave her a short written note. You should not assume that she will live there only a short while nor continue there for a long time. It is uncertain. She may have been given morphine for pain, so that will affect how she responds to you.
Above all, do not stay more than 10-15 minutes at a time. You can visit again, but she is likely to tire easily. I have a neighbor whose wife is likely to die this week from cancer. There are web sites regarding hospice care and what it involves.
2006-12-13 16:37:43 · answer #2 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once hospice steps in you now there final day are here. I just went threw this 2 time this year and it is hard to see people you love in this type of surroundings, but you also need to realize that she is 93 and has had a full life. Just make sure you let her know you love her.
2006-12-13 16:34:08 · answer #3 · answered by c_schreel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not gonna be a pretty sight if she is in a hospice that means she has limited time to be here. At 93 depending upon what has her sick in the first place she could just be laying there asleep
2006-12-13 16:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry that you have to visit your Grandmother in a hospice house, I am sure this will be hard for you no matter what you see or hear. Your Grandmother might not remember your name or your face but in her heart, she will be remembering your love. If she is very ill, there may be tubes and machines and it may all seem very unreal, remember her laugh and the sing to her voice and how much you love her. This is never a good visit but it will be good for you if you remember her love. Good Luck, my thoughts will be with you
2006-12-13 16:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by kathy41449 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on their condition. Most of the patients I have visited were not conscience. It appears they are asleep. I would not be so sure they do not hear you in spite of what you may be told so I would go ahead and speak to her as if she can hear you. Usually they do all they can to make the patient comfortable including some strong medications. The hospice is as close to home environment as possible. Some times I understand the patients are conscience. I can not speak for every case, but I'm told they usually are not in pain.
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2006-12-13 16:49:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is in any stage of dementia, which many on hospice are, she may not be able to verbalize that she recognizes you, and she may not recognize you. But, she will know that someone is there. It may be important, if you read her body language, to reassure her that she is safe and there is nothing to be afraid of. Even if you are not religious, some people just like to hear that God is with them, and that they are being taken care of well. You should stay as long as you feel comfortable. If your grandmother isn't awake, or is not conscious, she will likely still know someone is there.
I hope you can find peace in visiting her. It may be sad for you, and you are entitled to your feelings, but the person who is dying still needs someone to care for them and about them, and your simple presence will mean so much to her.
2006-12-15 14:22:12 · answer #7 · answered by seest12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a very sad sight to see, especially if you have memories of her as an active, young woman. No matter what you see, just remember to not be afraid. Hug her, give her a kiss, tell her that you love her. She needs that.
2006-12-13 16:28:02 · answer #8 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she might not remeber you if you havent seen her for a while
usually they say they have seen somebody thatis actually dead
lots of stuff just be ready fro her to say anything
2006-12-13 16:27:38 · answer #9 · answered by sweet pea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends upon how old you are and whether you are mail or female.
2006-12-13 16:26:58 · answer #10 · answered by Dinman83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋