It's like fast food sex, you just type in what you want and there it is! I think it's horrible. If people would put half the energy and attention into their marriages as they do trying to find some on the side, the divorce rate wouldn't be nearly so high. Agree or disagree?
2006-12-13 08:21:38 · 26 answers · asked by Lotus 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thanks for all the great answers. And for all the, um, others, well, you're entitled to your opinion, too. You know who you are, Bob.
2006-12-13 09:22:26 · update #1
I both agree and disagree with this! I agree with the fact that more married people need to focus more on their marriages instead of focusing on finding something on the side, but you can't sit here and blame it on internet dating services...they are here for people looking for love, they have no control over the people who join the sites, yes it is wrong for married people to claim they are single or seperated when it's not true but it boils down to the person not the dating site
2006-12-13 10:13:37 · answer #1 · answered by ~Sabie~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both.
I agree that people shouldn't spend time online trying to find "something on the side".
But I disagree that internet dating contributes any more to the divorce rate than meeting people offline.
Consider this:
When a friend sets you up on a blind date, you know absolutely nothing about the person. Well, you only know the few tidbits of information your friend shared with you.
When you meet someone from the internet, you've had the chance to read profiles and exchange emails, such that you "know" each other to a pretty high degree before deciding to spend any time together. That being the case, you can "weed out" the people that, off-line, you might otherwise have to go on a date or two before you'll know they aren't right for you.
Internet dating is not any more desperate than newspaper personals or blind dates through friends. Is it desperate to ask someone out at the grocery store? Then why is it desperate to seek someone out ahead of time that you can find out if you would even bump into them in a particular section of the store?
Internet dating is merely a new method. Personally, I think it's a more complete method, and I wouldn't be surprised to see the divorce rate drop because people can pre-screen potential partners even more than in the past.
Also, don't forget, divorce often has nothing to do with HOW you met your partner. It's more a function of choosing someone with whom you weren't very compatible, but you didn't realize that ahead of time.
2006-12-13 08:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by T S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 01:23:41 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does add to the divorce rate, yet I think the divorce rate is what it is sans the internet. The internet provides more communication in order to seal the deal and more people are being caught cheating. It doesnt take away from all other vices that people use to cheat.It is not fair to assume that people have not invested to save their marriages, some have, maybe some have not.Maybe one partner is willing to work on it and the other isnt, maybe a partner is being abused emotionally or physically.Do not blame the divorce rate on the internet, blame it on the person.
2006-12-13 09:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame the internet for every instance. Before the internet became mainstream I was married for 12 years to a man who wouldn't give me the time of day. He was always gone (sometimes for days at a time without reason), and when he was home we would argue about him being gone.
Eventually I decided to go back to college and got a computer, which I used to socialize, talk about current events, politics and religion and such in various message boards, and through that I started to spend more and more time online, until my husband had the nerve to complain that I was never spending time with him, even though his own behavior didn't change. I just stop caring.
It would be another seven years before I met the true love of my life online, and THANK GOD for that. We dated online for several months before we met in person, and then we realized we had a lot more in common than I had with the person I was married to.
You would think that my husband would have thrown a fit when he found out I found someone else? Guess again! He gave me and my then boyfriend his full blessing, and we got a divorce on my birthday (the day it became final).
I remarried nearly 5 months later, and I'm happier today than I have been in my entire life, because I have a man who is very loving, very considerate and he spoils me rotten on a daily basis.
In other words, if it hadn't been for the internet God knows where I would be right now. But I have a feeling that I would not be with my ex-husband, because I would have very likely killed him or myself. The internet saved me and my sanity.
2006-12-13 08:57:30 · answer #5 · answered by expatriate59 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what to tell you about that. I personally know someone who met his wife on the internet and they are very much in love and a great match (no, it wasn't through a match service but through a relative). Marriage is a committment, period. The reason marriages break up is because usually one of the people involved breaks their committment. People all the time talk about how much they are in love but love is an action, not an emotion.
Tell me you still love each other after 30 plus years of marriage. Tell me you still love each other after years of financial troubles or sickness or weight gain or infidelity or disagreements...then I'll believe you. Most marriages break up because people think it will always be wine and roses and when they find out that there are dirty diapers, hard work and sacrifice involved, THAT'S what contributes to the divorce rate.....
2006-12-13 08:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Disagree. No one has gotten married because an internet service told them to. The service tells them someone they might like, these two people get together, and if they enjoy each other's company they meet again. If divorce had always been an accepted part of society, the divorce rate would have always been high.
2006-12-13 08:27:44 · answer #7 · answered by slogan909 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disagree. They are people on-line that try to find serious relationships and true love. These days in such a busy world, the Internet helps you make up for lost time. People that don't use the Internet do things to contribute to the divorce rate as well!
2006-12-13 08:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Disagree. There are so many factors contributing to the higher divorce rate, it's silly to single out Internet to be the villain. People who are looking for trouble can find it anywhere. Guys used to go to hookers and bring home nasty diseases - and their wives couldn't say anything because of "what will the neighbors think" mentality. Now, these same guys don't have to go far, they just look for cyber sex - and hey, the wives don't have to put up with it anymore, we can give them the boot anytime. To hell with the neighbors, they're divorced too! At least, you don't get herpes from cybering.
2006-12-13 08:39:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I disagree the only thing that makes the divorce rate go up is the lying husbands who get online and say I am single and then when you go out them you find out the site is not the problem dont blame them beside my boyfriend and i have been dating for 16 months and i met him online the sites or not the problem the lying cheating husbands are. Thank you
2006-12-13 08:39:41 · answer #10 · answered by toofavorable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋