(i found out from a mutual friend that was in the same prison as my friend)he has been in jail for six months but he is supposed to do five years...i dont take his calls or write him anymore...and i dont wanna see him or talk to him when he gets out...i dont have anything against gay people i just dont want my close friends to be gay...would you still associate with him?
2006-12-13 08:17:18 · 9 answers · asked by the one 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes, I would associate with him. You want to be a true friend, right? Well, then you're not being a true friend right now. Friends are there for each other no matter what. It doesn't matter if he's gay. Was he a good friend? If he was, then that's all that matters. And by the way, how do you know this "mutual" friend is telling the truth? Make sure you're positive 100% that your other friend is gay before you decide to ditch him. You shouldn't ditch him, even if he is gay. Just be there for him. Think about all the people he probably hasn't told yet. He's probably going through a lot right now. And ya know what? He doesn't have a friend by his side. You could be there for him, and you could help him get through this. There aren' a lot of true friends out there, so it's good to finally get one. Make your friend be able to say,"Even though everyone else turned their back on me, this one *true* friend was always there for me and accepted me." Good luck.
2006-12-13 09:23:22 · answer #1 · answered by Abby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, rape in prison and jail does not happen as often as Hollywood and the media makes it sound like it does. But he could have been raped and it could have been out of his control.
Even if he was raped or not, it doesn't mean he is gay. But even if he is gay, he could have still been raped. I would try to figure this piece out if this has not been clearly stated.
You say you have nothing against gay people, but you don't want any close friends to be gay, then it sounds like you have a problem with people who are gay. If you CHOOSE not to be friends with someone who is gay, that is your choice.
I would encourage you to write to this person and TELL him that you want to end the friendship and tell him why. You are not being fair to him by not being honest and upfront. I would also encourage you to let him know that you are not responding to any more letters or answering his calls.
2006-12-13 08:26:51 · answer #2 · answered by Erica, AKA Stretch 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am pretty sure your friend is not gay by choice, If you have never been to prison, please do not condemn the inmates . as for your friend, you attitude toward gays is you do not want to be friends with them, so it probably wouldn't work, although you friend will be suffering another loose, but then this all about you isn't it
2006-12-13 08:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 06:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably wasn't his choice to lose his manhood. He was probably raped and didn't like it one bit. If he wasn't gay before, he is not gay now. Continue to be his friend, he probably needs friends more now than ever.
2006-12-13 08:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats too bad our nation is so sick and our system is corrupt to let these things happen muslim countries maybe are right to kill
inmates accussed of rape and im sure he was niggg any way
2006-12-13 08:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by raul b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes I think you should still be his friend it could have happen to you frends don't come often
2006-12-13 08:32:29 · answer #7 · answered by ruru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like you ain't a true friend!Grow up!!!!
2006-12-13 08:23:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
yea i would but i would be cautious
2006-12-13 08:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋