Babies having babies?

Question

What are yall thoughts of teenagers having babies. Weather they was raped a accident or whatever. What you think of it?

to chrissy dis teen just turned 14 there for she's a baby lol

Answer 1

It's terrible and should be avoided at all costs - but if it happens, it happens, and the parents and the pregnant child need to try and make the best of it perhaps with some assistance and outside help.

An abortion at those young ages just seems too risky for being able to have children later in life when the teen is ready.

Answer 2

I had my first son at 17 got pregnant at 16. Got married at 17, it was hard at first but we made it thru. Having a baby was something I wanted to do and believe it or not my mother was not ageist it. My boyfriend (now husband) wanted a child with me also. We knew we were in love, were going to get married someday anyways and wanted to have a family, so we didn't bother to wait.
We never went on food stamps or any government help, we even moved out of the projects cause we felt that sense we made the decision to get pregnant and have a baby at such a young age, we shouldn't expect ANYONE else to help us. We both got jobs and paid our way thru, we sacrificed a lot to get what we have now (which is a lot) but were sticking it out together and making it work. We now have 2 boys who we love more then anything in the world. We have been married for 8 years and were still happy and in love. I don't think we made a bad desion and would never change any of it.
But I don't think that it is what most teens should do, and I would not want my daughter (if we ever have one) to have to go thru some of what we went thru. I believe that having a child and keeping it is a decision someone makes, it's not something that they have to put up with. And if a person has a child, teen or not, they shouldn't expect other people to take care of it for them. Being married and having a family is hard no matter how old you are when you start.
People need to be sure they know what there getting there selves into and what there giving up, only then can they do what’s right for themselves and for the people they love.

Answer 3

I think it's a really big problem in this country today, whether it's accidental or with teenagers wanting babies. For some reason, misguided I might add, that having a baby will somehow make them feel like someone needs them and will love them. Maybe it's parenting these days, half of the parents are too busy for their kids, and only interested in their own wants. I've found that most kids today are good and just need guidance. Sad we only hear of the bad ones. I'm not sure how this problem can be solved but I do know family's need to spend more quality time together.

Answer 4

I think it's something to be concerned about. These kids are being raised by other kids, so the babies will likely grow up being ill treated and not raised by a mother and father, but rather by a mother and a father that the baby will likely never see.

It's an ever increasing problem and it's no surprise that children and teenagers in this day are becoming worse and worse in terms of respect and responsibility. It all stems from the home. When you have a teenage mother who just doesn't give a crap, and hates her life, how do you think her child will act, and feel? Insecure. Unloved. How does he express those feelings? Being tough. Being 'cool' to his friend. Being disrespectful in attempt to feel better.

Teenage disrespect is not due to school. Not due to drugs, or smoking, or computer games, it has everything to do with parents and what happens in a home.

Answer 5

I do not agree with it.

I'm 19 and I couldn't imagine having a child, nor would I want to.
I'm in a long term relatonship, we live together, work together and are very happy and at this time I don't feel the need or want for a child.

I have a friend who is my age and had 3 children the last time I talked to her at 17....and that's just wrong.

I think only adults should have sex because of the emotional and physical maturity that comes with it. And I can say adult because I was 1 month and 1 day away from my 19th birthday and you're an adult at 18.
A teenager cannot support a child. They're too busy doing drugs, getting drunk, having high school dramatic fun. Plus a child before your education is done and career is started to me is just dumb.

I don't think for any reason a child should be born to someone who cannot take care of them properly.

Some teen parents may be good parents but for the majority, they're not. The grandparents end up raising the child and that's not right.

Answer 6

I feel the child's parents should have informed them of everything. How much work it is to have a baby of your own, how much it costs, different ways you can get pregnant, how you must devote all of your time/energy to the child taking away your free time, etc, etc. There's so much children need to know about having babies of their own. So if they are not informed, I feel it could lead to pregnancies. Now there are some kids who feel they want a baby... if you know your child is this way- the parents need to take some action! They need to have them take a parenting class, or babysit for an entire day, things like that. Forms of birth control should be discussed, but also how it isn't fully protecting them.
Now if a teen is raped, that's a whole different story. It wasn't the teens fault at all. Nobody wants to be raped, so the blame should never go to the child. Again, I feel even this topic should be discussed with a teen. also so should abortion, adoption, and keeping babies.

that's some of my opinions on this subject- parents really do need to get involved with their child's life and be there if they have a question, and to teach them everything they can to keep them safe and on track.

Answer 7

Being a teen mother or mother-to-be ( 19 yrs.old, 4 mos along), I can definitely say that it is alot to handle. I have never been "for" teen parenthood, or should I say never agreed with it, whether or not it was a common thing. I've always felt that the parents (notice I used the plural tense) should be stable mentally, and financially. Many times, the mental and emotional stress that comes along with having children at a young age breaks the parent(s) down, alone. This is, of course, in some but not ALL cases. Teen parenthood can be successfully achieved, given that many of us are the product of teenage pregnancies...no exception to the fact that the expected stress and frustrations is often-times, if not always multiplied.

Answer 8

I had my son a few days before my 17th birthday. I am now 20, and have another one on the way. I dont think I would have done things diffrent if i could do it over again either. i think it depends on the person.
My life had totally gone off the rails. I had left school, ran away from home (in a very abusive relationship)... just thought i knew everything. As soon as i found out i was pregnant, I Pulled myself right back into line. It did me ther world of good.
I now have a gorgeous, happy 3 year old son, who i wouldnt give up for the world!
But as i said, everyones diffrent.
I think its wrong that people dicrimatate agains s because we're so young. We can do just as good of job as a 30 year old having a baby. People just automatically assume we're having them for money, or because we're irrasponcible.
I attend a young mums group every week, and the girls range from 16-25, and i think they're just as good (if not better) than the parents in the older groups!

Answer 9

I was a teenage mother, and even though I was married, it was still one of the hardest things to do. It was hard to juggle trying to take care of a baby, and finish High School. Even though I had the help from my parents, it was a constant emotional rollercoaster. Parenting is a tough job, even for an adult. I think that some teens can do it successfully and then there are others who I think should wait till they are more mature. I think it all depends on the teen. There are some that are highly mature for their age. Then again, there are even some "adults" who shouldn't be parents.

Answer 10

Teenagers have an uncanny knack for putting themselves in compromising situations, and not having enough sense and knowledge to protect themselves, and get out of them.

This is why they need constant education, encouragement, and SUPERVISION from their parents.

ive been molested for months on end as a 13 year old, and drugged, and most likely raped, since i cant remember about two weeks of my life, and the man claimed he 'only tried' to rape me.

I can say that while my parent should have been monitoring me more closely, and being careful to notice certain things happening in my life, i certainly walked into those circumstances where I was unsafe, THINKING that my parents warnings were nothing but foolish.

There are no accidental babies. Only irresponsible copulations.

In the vast majority of cases of teenage pregnancies, its children who, despite being underage, take it upon themselves to defy their parents and their better senses and make the adult decision to have sex.

Then they end up with the adult responsiblity of being parents. And thats how it should be. You make your bed and you lie in it. None of thise swooping in to kill the baby and relieve the teen of the situation, its just teaching more irresponsibility.

Theres parents, adoption, and the state to handle the child parent, and the baby.

The teens are responsible, but even more so, are the parents.