and I cant stand my boyfriend! He and I have always had the same problem that he is to lazy. I work two full time jobs. I leave the house at 7:20am and dont return till around midnight. I enjoy both of my jobs. But he and his son just wreck my house. I will spend and entire day cleaning and it will be trashed within a day. I try to be nice about it. But now I cant take it. Plus he doesnt think that he should have to clean. That is my job. HELLO!!! He hasnt always been this way either. I am to the point that I would rather be at work then at home. I dont have a sex drive right now and all he does is ask every night. He is more annoying than anything. Then he also has to know how much I make every night. It really is none of his buisness. I told him that if he didnt have a habit of buyin an 8th every day then he would have some money. Should I get rid of him? How? I am to the point of not wanting to try anymore. Because that is all I have done. It has not changed one bit.
2006-12-13 08:12:01 · 28 answers · asked by alainall 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you don't get out, or if he doesnt change it will always be like that.
2006-12-13 08:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey for your sanity at this point and your babys GET THE HECK AWAY FROM HIM! Now if you have tried and he wont even meet you half way..especially with a baby on the way then he is nothing but dead weight to you. You sound like you have your head on straight, STOP letting him be a free loader off of you...what will you do when baby gets here? Will he just all of the sudden work? I doubt it.
If you own the house and dont have him on your lease i would kick him out! But make sure your there when he packs so he doesnt jack your stuff and CHANGE THE LOCKS! Make sure a friend knows whats going on incase he loses it. That or he needs to pitch in A LOT more...you should get more rest too your body needs it :)
2006-12-13 08:18:15 · answer #2 · answered by mommy2be in march! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One thing you need to remember is that you do have a choice of how your life should be and what environement you feel is right to raise your child in. Think about this wonderful life you are bringing into this world and ask yourself if you really want to raise it in an unloving environment. Your anger towards your boyfriend will show through to this new child and could result in psycological damage deeper than a therapist can fix. Make the choice to change now while you still have time. Just make the better choice for you and your family. Good Luck!
2006-12-13 08:28:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jayne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunni leave him he is no good and wont help out once the baby is here. plus he does drugs do you really want your child to grow up having a parent like that.
you shouldnt be working so many hours too as this will add to the stress. tell him to get a job or help around the house or he is on his own.
i wouldnt stand for it and if my partner ever did that i would kick him out straight away.
you need to think about you and your baby and what will be good for the both of you.
i really think you both will have a better life without him and you will find someone who will respect you and love you and treat you like a princess.
just tell him if he doesnt clean up his act then you dont have a future together. if he brushes it off and thinks your just saying that pack his bags for him and change the lock.
2006-12-13 08:19:31 · answer #4 · answered by babytots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to want to change himself..no matter how much you moan and groan, he won't change.
Unfortunately you've decided to reproduce with someone that is insensitive to your needs as a woman and a girlfriend. I don't know him but you do....Is this someone you want to spend the rest of your life with? If the answer is no, please dump him now. Make him move OUT and be a real man.
I am not married to my daughter's father. I met my husband when my daughter was two. Having a child complicates your situation but it doesn't ruin your life.
He's not worthy of you so move on and don't waste another mila-second of your time with this guy.
If you two no longer have the same interest, aspirations, hopes and dreams...the relationship is doomed for failure.
2006-12-13 08:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by Wife~and~Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like you are simply fed up. I would be kind and try to address the problems. Try and work it out. Talk to him and try to reach some common ground. I hope this helps you. Also have some me time. What I mean is do something for yourself, you'll feel better. Buy some girly things like candles and bath and body products. I'm a Christian, praying also helps. Take Care.
2006-12-13 08:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An 8th? Is that an 8 ball?
I would make him leave for a few days, throw him out and see if he straightens up. If he dosen't then don't let him come back. Why should you be having to work 2 jobs while pregnant and he is there?
Why is he not working? I would not tell him how much i make either.
If you had to come onto yahoo answers to ask this then it is most likely dead. You are just wishy washy about it because you are carrying his child but if i were you i would not put up with it any longer.
Good luck and congrats
2006-12-13 08:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well, you probably should have dropped him before producing a child with the lazy freeloader. Not sure what you should do now. If you can make a go of it as a single parent, get some support from your family, and make the dead beat pay some child support. Good Luck
2006-12-13 08:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hun I went through that with my first Husband I worked 14hrs a day came home cooked cleaned everything and all he did was play video games at the time I was pregnant with my first child.I stayed and tried to work thing out until I started to have trouble with the pregnancy..I decided to do what was best for my unborn child and I and move out it was one of the hardest things i had to decide.. Just remember to do whats best for you and your child and only you can make that decision
2006-12-13 08:21:58 · answer #9 · answered by my2sweetangels 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my boyfriend was the same way when i conceived our first child. Smoking weed everyday laying around, playing computer games. Little by little i put my foot down. Now he dosn't smoke weed anymore, he works 2 jobs and just got us a house! And im pregnant with our second and a stay at home mom. Im not saying you should expect miracles but definitely put your foot down! It could help!
2006-12-13 12:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are that unhappy then you need to just explain to him how you feel and tell him you don't need this... you are pregnant and you need to take care of yourself and the baby now. DON'T just stay with him for the baby because when your baby gets older they can sense stuff and you don't want your baby listening to you and your boyfriend fight all the time or you saying bad things about his/her father. Good luck and I would get rid of him.
2006-12-13 09:04:46 · answer #11 · answered by Bunk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋