me and my boyfriend's relationship has been on the rocks lately..and now it has gotten to the point to where he won't even speak to me. but the thing thats bothering me most is his ex. see 8 months ago after they ended their relationship on bad terms...we started dating each other and everything was going fine all the way up until now. see i just recently found out that he has been asking about her even during the time our relationship was going good, i also found out that he emailed her a few days ago....and just last night he added her back on his friends list after he deleted her a few months back.... and not to mention he's been telling ppl he's single i mean what the hell is going on here?? do you think he's doing this to get up under my skin? or could it be that he misses her and that he's trying to patch things up so they could start all over again? i mean why would he want to go back to someone he's had a bad relationship with in the past???
2006-12-13 08:11:40 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's probably not that he WANTS to be with her, but it's just a familiar environment, and maybe he wants to go back to something that he knows. let him go. why would you try and hold onto a man who has so much disregaurd for you. if he doesnt want you, dont bend over backwards to make him stay it'll just get wose
2006-12-13 08:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've got 2 words for you: Dump him!!! If he has you now, then there's no reason to be asking about her or worrying about what she's doing. My mom married a while back, and she told him the day and weeks before, that she was going to be the ONLY woman in his life besides his friends and mom. She told him that she wanted all the pictures of his exes boxed up.
These days, someone can look like a cow...and still get a guy. Guys are pervs. Ask him why he needs to associate with her? Straight up tell him that it bothers you. Say,"Why are you associating with your ex and asking about her all the time? How would you like it if I was asking about MY ex all the time? I doubt you'd like that."
If he keeps asking about her, leave him. He's not worth it, and there are plenty of fish in the sea. There's absolutely no reason for him to have anything to do with her. You're not going around asking about your ex, and he should respect you and not do the same. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-13 17:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um........ I been through it. He obviously still has feelings for her. And there might be a posibility that they might end up going out again. You should confront him and ask him about the things you've heard.
Then after he finishes answering, you tell him, "Ok. Im being serious, and i wanna know the truth. Do you wanna be with me or no?"
If he says yes, ask him, "Why have you been acting this way?"
If he says he doesn't want to be with you, you tell him, "Why couldn't you have been a man and tell me in the first place. So i sin't have to hear all these rumors etc..." But don't argue, then when yours done proving your point, you just say, "You have lost something good." And then walk away....
And you might get resalts later...
2006-12-13 16:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Cute Mami 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to him about this, sounds like he may not be completely over here, why else would he be telling people he's single? as for as the bad relationship with her maybe he likes that and misses her.
2006-12-13 16:15:39 · answer #4 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a boyfriend who won't speak to you, isn't that more of a clue than the fact that he's talking to someone else? I mean, you said he won't even speak to you- but totally bypassed that issue to go on to what you think is your bigger problem, his ex.
What part of "he won't even speak to me" makes you think you still have a boyfriend? It's over. Move on.
2006-12-13 16:33:28 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello....if he is no longer speaking with you, he is telling people that he is single, he is communicating with his ex again what do you think is going on????? He's not just trying to get under your skin...he is dumping you...wake up!!!! Move on...good luck
2006-12-13 16:15:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he dosent act like he used to or talked about his ex around you you should sit down with him and talk to him and see what he says you dont have to belive him but take it in conciteration. and if you love this guy as much as i think you do you would go to his ex- girlfriends house and ask her a few questions but dont be rude. listen to the saying in your heart if it tells you to leave then go if it tells you to stay a litte bit longer then do so.
2006-12-13 16:23:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you were his rebound person and now that some time has passed he is thinking of her again. That's probably why he wont talk to you anymore. It happens. Just move on.
2006-12-13 16:16:45 · answer #8 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds likes too much drama to me. you should let him go. I know it is real hard to because we do not know what is on the other side of the door when we walk out, but it is better for you to go now before it gets ugly
2006-12-13 16:15:12 · answer #9 · answered by cinnamon43212002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is really over b/c if they that they are single then they dont want to be in a relationship what you should is just get rid of him.b/c all you are going to do is just get hurt heck i would leave him if he added his ex and if he has been sending messages but you should just get rid of him trust me its not worth getting hurt over
2006-12-13 16:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by baby girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋