i go out with my friends about once or twice a month..... to go shopping with no money. been married for 3 years but i really miss having friends, especially when i go to school full time and see girls going to the club or bar or wherever with their "BFF". i just want everyones opinion. should i have a serious discussion with the hubby about wanting less time with him and my son, and more time for me?
2006-12-13 08:07:14 · 6 answers · asked by i rock 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
nope, no shirking from responsibilities. im the best damn mom and wife out there. maybe i sound whiny and whatnot but i can only explain my situation in so many words.
2006-12-13 08:18:06 · update #1
and im a stay at home mom, so theres no missing out on my son growing up
2006-12-13 08:18:49 · update #2
It is VERY important you retain a social structure. So many make the mistake of investing everything in thier partners and children, if/when something happens to dissapate that part of thier lives either through accident, death, marriage breakup or simply that the children grow up and leave home. At those times we feel our lives are over and that we have no-one to help us through the most difficult time. Keep your friends, keep family friends, and encourage your partner to keep his friends, REASONS WHY? if ( and I really am not casting doubt or aspersions on your marriage) you do become estranged. Friends of the family feel they have to CHOOSE between you, and stay away (usually) If you have Friends Independantly of eachother then you both have support should the worst happen. What about this negotiate time for yourself as independants ( both of you ) as a family (all of you) and as a couple.
2006-12-13 08:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by Cff 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your child will only be young once. You will regret missing out on those moments. There will be more time for you later. Life is about sacrifice. For you husband make a date with him once a month and make it a double date with another couple. The clubs for a married women are just trouble waiting to happen. You can have the same fun at the clubs with your spouse and include him in the fun. No secrets, everything open, let him know what you feel you are missing. As long as neither one of you are jealous types you can have lots of fun right in front of the other.
2006-12-13 08:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with a girls night out, your husband and son can turn it into a "guys night in" bonding experience at the same time. I wouldn't recomend this more than once a week or so but I don't see the harm in wanting to have some fun. Just remember you're married, don't do anything to compromise your relationship.
2006-12-13 08:58:07 · answer #3 · answered by Meems 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a wife and mother carries certain responsibilities, and it appears you are trying to shirk from those responsibilities. If you are thinking about it, don't.
2006-12-13 08:10:38 · answer #4 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
as long as you can balance having a family and a social life without it causing any problems then give it a try.
2006-12-13 08:13:17 · answer #5 · answered by S 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think so. you married people couple with married people.
2006-12-13 08:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by cinnamon43212002 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋