2006-12-13 08:02:25 · 37 answers · asked by Lucky L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You don't need to have a "head" of the household. Families work best when the husband and wife are equal partners and consult each other on important decisions.
2006-12-13 08:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by ez_cheez 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Each and every situation is different. what works for some may not work for others. In my experience the only time there is on defined "head" of the household is when one partner is bringing in all the money and holds all the responsibility. This goes both ways. I know a "house-husband" who has very little say in the home because he does not work and he doesn't have a large bank account to compensate for his unemployment. Yes, in a perfect world the husband and wife would share everything 50-50 but the contributions need to be 50-50 for that to work and no marriage is so sublime that each partner is a complete 1/2 in every aspect.
The way I have seen it is that the women are responsible for certain aspects of the relationship and men are responsible for others and on all the other stuff they compromise. Guys may make MORE decisions but those decisions are not necessarily more important than the one's the woman makes.
2006-12-13 08:18:37 · answer #2 · answered by SL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a shared responsibility, just because you make more money does not make you head of the house. Remember it takes two to tango. Unless you think your wife is horrible at handling the household and finances, then take over. In many families the wife stays home to take care of the kids while the husband works, in this scenario most assume that because the husband is working he is the head of the household. But think about it, being a mom is the most underrated and unappreciate 24x7 job (yes it is a job) with no benefits, no sick leave and no vacation. Hope this enlightens you ;O)
2006-12-13 08:30:31 · answer #3 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why does one person need to be the head of the household? I believe husbands and wives should be best friends. But in order to be best friends, you need to be equals. How can you be equals if someone is the head of the household? Negotiate and work things out together. The way you make a decision is to go along with whoever the issue is more important to. If you want to do something this way, do the other thing her way, etc. Compromise and if you can't, just take turns! Cooperation is what it's all about!
2006-12-13 08:07:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The husband and wife should both be the head of the household because the husband goes to work and provides for the family and the wife takes care of the household and family. It is a team effort and it should be 50/50. Also, the Bible says for wives to be submissive to their husbands meaning that she should cook, clean, love and cherish her husband, you know make him feel like a king and he makes her feel like a queen. So I say both should be considered the head of the household.
2006-12-13 08:07:07 · answer #5 · answered by frakmomma04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hold a more traditional role in believing that the male has the responsibility of being head of the household. I don't think this means that the wife has no say at all, they should agree on everyday decisions and try to make them together. However, when it comes down to the big issues, after having talked over the situation & pros/cons, with his wife he can make the decision. This is a big responsibility considering that the decision could be life changing. (This is my opinion of course but I sure wouldn't want the responsibility of doing that).
2006-12-13 08:10:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neither. In this day and age, most women are working and they are very likely to make as much money as men do(in response to the guy who responded first) I actually wrote a research on this and found that in the modern life, BOTH people runt he household. Women primarily are in charge of the financial aspect...budget and such. It's good to have an equal contribution in the household that way a couple could better undertand and target issues that arise a lot sooner and more easily.
2006-12-13 08:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by Alicia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It should be equal. A husband + a wife = ONE. Both are in charge and can make decisions as to what should go on in the household. Both were mature to make the vow of being together for the rest of their lives therefore both are mature to lead the household.
2006-12-13 08:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There shouldn't be a head of the household. It should be 50/50, it's almost 2007, not 1940.
2006-12-13 08:07:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They both should be. Except for my case...LOL!! Not funny really my fiance works out of town M-F and is home on the weekends. I hold our household together, take care of the kids make sure the bills are paid and everyone is fed and taken care of. So I would consider myself as the head of our household. And if it were the other way around I would consider him head of household. :)
2006-12-13 08:13:39 · answer #10 · answered by mare122870 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋