How do I respond to family members who are totally apalled at the fact that I do not wear makeup?

Question

My mother and various other relatives are constantly scoffing at the fact that I do not regularly wear makup and use hair products. I will wear makeup occasionaly for a special event such as churc etc. but not on a daily basis. My philosophy is that after I clean my face, apply toner and then moisturizer I hate to put all the stuff on a clean face and then what is the purpose of cleaning your face when you are going to glopp it up with all of those products. Even though many products are oil, I love going through the day with a clean face and clean hair, today I used no product in my hair and my hair feels great. (I do have makeup on thought my my internship instructor paid a visit to the site where I was doing my internship).

Answer 1

tell them to f off.

Answer 2

I don't wear make up either. I am may be older than you, but when I was younger (in my 20s and 30s) I mostly did what you did- I wore a little blush and powder and maybe some mascara, not much. I am now in my early 50s and I have been told that I look like I'm 30!!!

I don't like having all that stuff on my face, either. I like the products that keep my face clean.

As for your family members, tell them what you told us- you like yourself the way you are. You aren't wearing tons of make up or looking older than you should be. It's an individual decision and they should stay out of it.

Thank them very much for their input (although you probably are tired of it) and tell them the discussion is closed.

Answer 3

I had people for years that told me I should wear makeup. So, I got in the habit of telling people that I don't wear makeup but probably should. Finally, one day I said that to a skin care professional and she said that I should not wear makeup. She said that my skin was so pretty and smooth and wearing makeup would probably just take that away.

So, now if someone says something about me not wearing makeup, I just say that I like my skin the way it is and don't want to run the risk of causing problems down the road.

I wear makeup sometimes - like you said, for special occassions - but I prefer to care for my skin so that I don't look 10 years older. Plus, a lot of the time people look so fake with makeup, but that's another story.

I also like my hair natural because it's usually softer. During the winter I put product in my hair sometimes because it get so dry, but even that's rare.

Be proud to be who you are and let your family know you are proud of it, too.

Answer 4

I wear make-up on a daily basis but I also try not to when I am not working or doing anything special. Whether you choose to wear make-up or not is your business. I don't know why they would be apalled. I think the clean/natural look is beautiful and we should not feel pressured to cover it up. Sure, wearing make-up looks great but I've seen some bad make-up job which makes people look just plain awful.

Answer 5

My mother does not wear makeup or use product in her hair (with the exception of shampoo and conditioner). She is nearly 50 and has beautiful skin because she has never needed to use harsh cleaners or makeup removers. She doesn't have any gray hair either.

They should leave you alone as long as you don't look like a slob. I see no reason that you should feel obligated to wear makeup. If your hair is unruly and you are going to an event, tie it up!

Answer 6

I don't wear makeup either - and my family does their scoffing because they are envious that I do not have to cover "blemishes" that they have. I am now 31 and look like I am 21. My sister is younger but took my mother's route and now looks older than I do because of clogged pores and skin problems from wearing so much makeup. Be proud of clean skin and tell your family what I do - "If you tell me I am beautiful just the way I am, why are you making fun of me?" It never fails to put them in their place.

Answer 7

Why should your family members care whether or not you wear make-up? I use to wear alot but to me less is more. I even wore eyeliner everyday but no more. About the only time I wear makeup is to church or when I am going someplace special. As long as I have a clean face who cares if I don't have on makeup.

Answer 8

You'll look years younger without plastic surgery in later life if you continue your routine. I am frequently mistaken for someone in my mid-thirtieis which is great now that I am in my mid-fifties.

Makeup clogs; your skin needs to breathe. Don's smoke and don't get tanned.

You may never get your family members to shut up about it. The most they'll do is wait until you're out of earshot.

Answer 9

Tell them it's more money in your pocket because you're not wasteing it on makeup that has to be re applyed every couple hours AND you save money on pimple reducing medications and pore clogging cleansers because your face is nice and pure!

You are also saving your hair from the drying damage of gel and hairspray not to mention AGAIN you are saving more money!!!!

Answer 10

respond by saying:

I feel that I am beautiful enough without make-up. then say: "mom I thought you thought I was beautiful as well". Tell her you like the natural family traits she gave you.

Most moms are not going to deny that their daughter is beautiful. She may say, "you could be MORE beautiful".

Another thing you could say is that you feel that people should be loved and respected for who they are, not what they look like. then say, "I am a beautiful person" with a beautiful family.

Answer 11

Don't worry about what anyone thinks of you. If you don't feel like wearing make-up, then don't. Just let them know that you appreciate their concern but feel comfortable enough with yourself to make that decision. Hopefully they will back off!