i think i lost my earge to **** my fiance. i love her and she turns me on but when we get down to it i am easily turned off. i've been thinking about having sex with someone else or maybe having a three but it's difficult cuz i'm femme and i want 2 studs in the bed my woman is'nt going she want a femme- but we already did that. and if i were to find this third person and my girl approves then how will that affect our relationship? the last time we did a three w/ a femme she was concerened cuz the girl kept calling- so where do i even look for this person without connection? i dont want her to get hooked(on one of us) is it me? i need help and yes we both believe sex is essential to a healthy relationship and we are devoted and faithful to one another we are just experencing bordom- help someone.
2006-12-13 07:35:05 · 3 answers · asked by cecy27 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Try Craig's list, or maybe Yahoo Personals. Sometimes when people are in long term relationships it gets a little monotonous (BORING). If you bring someone else into the bedroom, be clear that you want NSA (no strings attached). I'd also suggest getting a strickly voicemail number (like AIM Phoneline), and use *67 (caller ID blocking) when calling people that have answered your ads.
2006-12-14 11:38:20 · answer #1 · answered by Nate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been with my gf for 3 yrs...believe the same that sex is and can be an essential to a healthy relationship. espically mine since she loves sex. she is easily turned on and there are times when im not n the mood for it but theres always something shell do to switch my sex light on and it doesnt even take her 10 min to get me in the mood. you would think being with her for so long i would get bored and the sex wudnt be n e different. but its always new and more exciting. like looking at a karma sutra book for new positions or we will role play. its hard to get bored in my relationship. we also talked about having a 3rd person for a 3 sum..but i cant stand peopple looking at her or even trying to talk to her, so having some other girl touch her would put me on a rampage and prolly the same with her if sumone touched me..dont turn to other people for sex, find new things to do with ur gf, such as toys, costomes, books, games, just about anything. hopefully that works
2006-12-13 07:43:34 · answer #2 · answered by orange_crush_05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really don't get the point of being a lesbian and being attracted to someone that looks like a guy, but sex isn't everything in a relationship. It's important to be physically attracted and be able to at least be mildly satisfied, but if you love her, just stick it out. Get some toys, make stuff in the bedroom more exciting.
2006-12-13 07:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋