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So I am eleven years old. I go to a catholic school and I hate it. My friends are ALL switching to the public middle school when we go to sixth grade....except for me. My mom doesn't want me to because she doesn't think I will do good there, and she thinks that the older kids start fights! I beg all the time which is a big mistake. I cry my eyes out all day because I hate my school. Everyone is mean, and by next year I won't have any friends there! PLEASE HELP! PLEASE! PLEASE! PLEASE!

Answer 1

I understand how you feel. The same thing happened to me when I was younger. I was so mad at my mom but I eventually got over it. Being in the private school was so much better for me. I had smaller classes and the teachers spent more time teaching the class then disciplining the class. When I graduated high school I had a very close group of friends and a college scholarship that paid for my four years of college. My friends who went to the public school couldn't even write a five paragraph essay and they all complained about each other all of the time. In the end my mom was right and did what was best for me. I am doing great in college, my public school friends however had to take college prep classes because they were not ready.

Answer 2

You should be so lucky to have parents who care and love you enough to put you through a privet catholic school. Your age and mentality won't let you see just what your parents are doing for you but you will realize this when you get a bit older and you may or may not know that it cost's a small fortune to send you to this school so you can have a good and safe education so you can get a job that pays more than minimum wage.I was raised in the same situation your in, privet/catholic school and public school and there's a world of difference between the two. heck, my step daughter took a step down hill just when she changed public schools...the third best out of the top ten To the rich, most popular school. In the harder school, she carried a 4.0 average, at this more popular school, her grades dropped and now she's kickin butt, trying to catch up. This second public school is the same school I went to and believe me...it has changed and for the worse. the drugs, fighting, all the malfunctioned kids from all around go to this school and they leave very bad examples. When you combine that with someone your age, it spells diaster! If you count how many times I said "you" or "your" in this answer, you will find the word 21 times. the reason for this is your parents are spending the money so you can have a safer, better education...get it? it's all about YOU. I'm not going to tell you that you will fail in the public school but you stand a very good chance to do worse and get mixed up with drugs and the wrong kind of people. I've seen it with my own eyes. you have a great oppertunity here, wipe your eye's and go tell your folks Thank you for loving me so much. oh yea, as far as people being mean...wait untill you get into that public school, you'll learn a new meaning. good luck to you.

Answer 3

On a weekend, when you've had a break from school, calmly address your mom. Make sure she's in a good mood, and don't beg her; simply tell her your views and opinions on the subject. Maybe write her a letter saying why you'd like to switch to public school. Give her more reasons than just "my friends are going!" Give her a reason that mother's will agree with, such as academic success.

Show your parents that you really want to switch schools by improving your grades at your current school and doing everything they ask of you :)

Answer 4

I really feel for you. I went to a school I hated. Fortunately I was able to switch schools and I enjoyed my senior year.

I know that your mom is doing what she feels is best for you. She may be protective of you and doesn't want you to be exposed to the fighting she feels takes place at the other school. But I hope she listens to your feelings. Let her know that you are really upset over this, and worried about having no friends next year. Tell her you have been crying about this. Ask her to help you find a way to either go to the other school, or to learn to deal with the current school.

This might sound odd, but one thing that might help you is to give up hope that you can ever go to that other school. If you ask your mom and explain to her all these feelings you have, and she still does not let you switch schools, then you have to give up hope. I don't mean be hopeless and depressed. But stop thinking that there's a chance for you to go to the other school. As long as you think there is a chance to go to the other one, you will never ever be satisfied with your current school. Your desire for the other school will blind you to any good that is at your current school. Try to find the good in your school, if you must go there.

But I do hope you get to go where you feel most comfortable. It's tough as a kid going to a school you don't like, especially if you have few or no friends. Good luck to you!

Answer 5

Believe it or not, your mother is only doing what she feels is best. We cannot judge your present school or the public school in your area as we have no idea where you live. In the grand scheme of things this is small potatoes although I know to you right now it is the end of the world. But there is nothing we can do or say to make your mom change her mind and I wouldn't if I could. She is looking out for you and choosing to spend hard earned money on a quality education for you. Where is she going wrong? No where. Do as she says for she only has your best interests at heart.

Answer 6

St. Francis of Assisi's prayer says "Lord, grant me the wisdom to accept the things I cannot change, change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." It definitely applies to you right now.

You haven't said what it is you hate about your Catholic school. If it has to do with religious education, and your mom is in agreement with what the school teaches, she probably won't budge. Chalk it up to option "A" above and find ways to deal with it without wallowing in self-pity. A bad attitude won't hurt anyone but yourself.

If it is a quality of education issue, do some research. All public schools are required by Federal law to make public information on standardized test scores, graduation/retention (failure)/dropout rates, and teacher qualifications. Do a Web search on the district that serves the public school to which you would be assigned. Doing this kind of work on your own might impress your mom.

If it is a social/behavioral issue, convincing your mom may take a little longer, but I think it can be done. Do you have friends who attend that public school now? Invite them (frequently) to your house. Let your mom see what students who attend that school are like. If she is impressed, it might change her attitude. If you have to wait until next year to have friends who go there, you will just have to be patient. Keep remembering St. Francis!

Now, from the mom's perspective, let me give you a little hope. I teach at one public school (one whose students have a bad, but largely undeserved, reputation), but my 6th grade son attends a school in a neighboring district with a good reputation. Shortly after school began, he began asking me to allow him to go to my school. Knowing that the other school offered more elective choices, had a better reputation, and was closer to home, I said "no." He kept asking; I kept refusing.

Last week, he came to his dad and me in tears. It turns out that he is being bullied unmercifully there with no response from the principals. He is the shortest kid in the youngest grade, and he's being abused on a daily basis! That did it. I have already completed the paperwork to transfer him to my school (where he will not be the shortest, and where bullying is not tolerated). All we are waiting for is for him to complete his semester finals.

To make a long story short: if it means that much to you, and your reasons are logical (not emotional), and you don't give up (but don't nag either), your mom WILL do what is best for you. I wish you well.

Answer 7

I went to a private, non-denominational Christian school...Maybe your mom will compromise with that. I loved it...friends were great and the teachers really care. They usually have a higher quality of education. Although, you would probably have to do some research in your area. I grew up in Los Angeles and the name of my school was Western Christian.

Answer 8

hey if ur mom loves ya she will let you go to public school what u should do is quit begging her