Im 17 weeks pregnant. I was always led to believe that the 2nd trimester was wonderful, when u feel great with loads of energy etc. However, this is not the case for me. I feel overwhelmed with the changes going on with my body, lonely, tired, moody and very tearful. i try to explain this to my partner, who has been great throughout the pregnancy, but he just doesn't understand and keeps saying is it something he has done? I try to explain its not about him, its about me and the changes but he really doesn't get it. did anyone else feel like this in 2nd trimester, does it go away? This is my first baby.
2006-12-13 07:29:13 · 15 answers · asked by Serry's mum 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If it's any consolation, I'm going through it now. This is my husband's first baby, and my second. I imagine that he's ready to strangle me by now.
I'm also seventeen weeks, and I'm telling you, it's rough. If anything, I have less energy than I did in my first trimester, and am moodier than I have ever been in my life.
I feel lonely, insecure (like my husband will find someone who's not moody and pregnant), and pretty angry, actually.
So, yeah, I'd consider it normal. If you start feeling depressed, though, talk to your doctor, as depression is NOT normal.
Congrats and good luck.
2006-12-13 07:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's different for every woman. I'm 26 wks and I feel pretty good, except heartburn. I also get overly emotional sometimes (which is weird because I didn't during my first 20 wks or so). It may get better, but it might not.
I feel less fatigue than the 1st 14 wks, but I'm not feeling a burst of energy. Don't worry about your partner, at least he cares enough to show concern! Just try to explain the best you can -- he'll never understand, it's a man thing. Congrats and remember this will all be over in a few months.
2006-12-13 07:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rwebgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is normal. Your hormones, though leveled out, are still going crazy. While I felt better during my 2nd trimester than my first, I was moody and tired too. Just reassure your partner that he did nothing wrong, but that your hormones are nutty and you just need some support and understanding during this time.
One thing that helped me was getting in contact with other pregnant women. You could check out http://www.babycenter.com/boards/bcusbirthclubs
This a listing of the Birth Clubs Boards where you can 'talk' to other ladies going through the same stuff you are. Just go off of the month you're due. HTH!
2006-12-13 07:46:32 · answer #3 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately everyone and every pregnancy is different. It should get better as you go along but it may not. I would love to tell you what you want to hear but I can't. Most times during the 2nd trimester it does because the nausea eases and that makes a big difference in how you feel. Try to take more naps, eat healthy (if you can) and be patient. All of this sounds like a load of crap but it does help. What you are feeling is normal, so don't stress yourself out over it. Try as best as you can to enjoy your pregnancy it will be over soon enough. good luck to both of you.
2006-12-13 07:35:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I totally understand. I kept hearing about the "magical second trimester"-- but I didn't have one!!! I was also feeling overwhelmed, fatigued, moody, etc.... and yes, it does go away. Tell him that the hormones in your body are rapidly changing-- like PMS or even menopause-- and it is hard for you to keep up! Even though I was uncomfortable in the 3rd trimester, the emotional ups and downs were much better. Try and hang in there-- it does get better!
2016-03-13 06:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in my 3rd trimester and I have hated everything about being pregnat (other than the fact I'm about to have a baby). In my opinion pregnacy sucks. Just remember it is only temporary and you will have something amazing at the end of it. Your body will go back to normal. There are a lot of fears that come with being pregnant and it def. can cause a lot of stress, especially if it wasn't planned (mine wasn't). All I can say is stick to as much of your normal routine as you can and do as much as you can now. Men don't understand and they never will ...maybe try talking to your girlfriends who have been through it before. That helped me. Good luck your half way there.
2006-12-13 07:36:29 · answer #6 · answered by volcomgrly23 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh girl your in for a long hall. I was the same way. I hated being pregnant and I wanted it most of my life. I cried almost every night. It is definitely not a pleasant thing and if I had to do it all over again I probably would never have done it. Anyways, try to take it easy on your boyfriend he is very uneasy about it and confused. Just take it day by day and soon it will be over. You will have really good days and then again you will have really bad days. You just have to take it in strides. On them bad days go out and treat yourself to something special. Just think to yourself that this is not going to last the rest of your life. It's only for a short time. Good luck and congrats.!
2006-12-13 07:41:29 · answer #7 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, honey. You're only 17 weeks? You have a long way to go, 23 more weeks.
Go buy a copy of "What to Expect When You're Expecting." Let Daddy read it, month by month. It will explain everything he needs to know.
I'm 35 1/2 weeks, and my husband says if I cry one more time, he's gonna glue my eyes shut. I'm crying all the time! Just work on making your boyfriend feel good, and yourself, too, and it'll be fine.
2006-12-13 07:35:22 · answer #8 · answered by tinkerbell24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey..I'm almost In my 3rd trimester...I feel the same way..Yesterday, I had a breakdown..I just cried for 6 hours and couldn't control myself...I had thoughts just like u did..but u know what? I talked to my Dr. and he said that I'm already going through post partum depression..better now before my son comes...what your feeling now, Is completely normal..my Yahoo! Is superkisses86 if u wanna talk to me ok? just realex and take It easy...It's hard for me to explain to my husband how I'm feeling, and he don't understand, he thinks It's something he done..sono worries :-)
2006-12-13 07:37:41 · answer #9 · answered by superkisses86 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I haven't felt that way in my second tri but I bet there are a lot of people who have. It is tough for a partner to understand what is going on. They get frustrated because it sometimes seems like there is nothing they can do. They feel so helpless.
Hang in there and remember every pregnancy is different. You may not feel this way in future pregnancies.
2006-12-13 07:34:32 · answer #10 · answered by bb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋