2006-12-13 07:27:56 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You know, I got pregnant with my first when I was nineteen. Just like you, I thought that I wasn't ready.
My first is now eight, and ready or not, I'm SOOO glad that I stepped up to the plate. He's the best thing in the world to me, and I don't think that I would have made it through the past eight years without him around.
When that baby's born, you're not going to care. You're going to see a little you, and that baby will become your world. I hope that's what happens, because technically, it's your girl's choice, and she may not be pro-choice.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-13 09:48:41 · answer #1 · answered by <3 The Pest <3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, even though you have a say in it, (adoption/abortion) it is her choice. If you already know that she really wants the baby it would probably be best not to even mention those options to her so not to upset her. Really, there is nothing you can do if she is keeping the baby. You can stay with her and support her and just live with whats been delt to you or you can leave and pay child support and be there for the baby on weekends and holidays. Just remember it's not the baby's fault and it deserves to have loving parents that will support it as it grows up. Maybe you should consider talking to a family counselor together. Talk with your family and friends about it. They will understand what you are going through and support your feelings and try to help.
2006-12-13 15:34:38 · answer #2 · answered by Hayley C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
AWW you will be OK. No body is ever really ready but you will get better as you take care of your new baby. You are old enough to be a mature father. If you are in college, stay in college. If not try to find a decent job. Just be there for your girlfriend try to stay close with each other
2006-12-13 20:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by lovebug512 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...so im kinda having this problem with my boyfriend right now...i mean he wants the baby but doesnt think hes ready for it either...he knows how to handle himself around kids & everything she he knows he can do it...but he just isnt sure if hes ready to be a father...all you need to do is sit down & think about what you need in life & if what your doing is going to make a problem in your future...i do not recommend leaving your girlfriend...she needs you now more then ever...& im sure after she has the baby you will more then happily help her take care of it...especially if its a boy lol...you can raise him up & teach him all the good stuff like riding a bike, etc...it could be a very fun experience...of course im sure you know it will be hard at times...but as long as you have a job & can be supportive (hopefully she has a job too) then you guys should be alright...there are programs you can get on that will help you with medical & food, etc...look around & just keep your mind open to what you could do for your babies future...i dont know what else to say...but i hope everything works out for you & your girlfriend...good luck!
2006-12-13 15:46:23 · answer #4 · answered by Twinkle in My Eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes we are not ready to be parents, but we have to keep in mind that your child didn't ask to be here. Sometimes it seems that we are not ready but as the months go on and as you get use to the idea of being a parent and that's the exciting things about it. I felt the same way that you did and now that my son is here i don't know what i would have done. In my opinion my son has made me the happiest person on the world and my life would be nothing with out him.
2006-12-13 15:35:59 · answer #5 · answered by sweet face 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dit back relax and breathe. my boyfriend panicked too. it is a very normal thing to do especially for a young man who has his whole life ahead of him and then has this thrown on his chest. discuss your options with you girlfriend and then decide what is best. you have to remember that this is a very scary time in her life as weel and the worst thing that you cuold possibly do would be to leave her. she needs your support and you are the one that she probably feels most in touch with because you are the baby's father. when i got pregnant all my boyfriend did for a week was say im not ready im not ready i cant do this its the end of the world but what was very important was that he didn't leave my side and he was very supportive of my descision. i am greatful that he was there for me throught out the pregnancy and birth of our daughter and as my pregnancy progressed he got involved a lot more and extrermly excited. just wait until that ultrasound when you see that little baby on that moniter and you realize that he or she is yours. you will love it. congrats even though your having a rough time. i wish you well.
2006-12-13 15:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by dnea63 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not goignt o be like alot of these other ppl and tell you that u need to keep it in your pants but honestly like someone else said you will never be ready to have a baby until the baby is here but really i think you need to stick by her side im 17 years old and my boyfirend is 21 and already has a 3 week old kid and another one on the way but he still sticks with the other babys mom hes not with her but hes helping her out with him so if you dont think that you are gonna marry her just tell her that but i still think that you should be apart of the childs life either way GOOD LUCK!!
2006-12-13 15:50:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh... you know what everyone is going to answer to this question right???
Well i am not going to be hard on you.. I do suggest that you stick by your girlfriend and raise this child together. Keep in mind that their is a baby that is going to suffer the consiquences of your actions... Do the right thing and give this baby a great family and a happy home....
2006-12-13 15:31:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
then you should have thought about that before you did anything now its your turn to step up like a man and take care of YOUR child it is not the babys falt that your not ready like it or not its on its way love it cherish it care for it and you wont be sorry but if you dont you will regret it for the rest of your life and have you thought about how she feels she might feel lost scared you should be together for this it will make you stonger and you will feel good about yourself step up it take nothing to be a father but it takes a real man to be a dad think about it
2006-12-13 15:55:39 · answer #9 · answered by jab 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you want a baby you're still never going to be completely ready for it until the baby's here... talk to your girlfriend... and i don't mean like a guy talks ... have genuine concern and she will help you decide what's right.. it takes time to get use to... but you'll figure it out once ya'll get to that point. good luck.
2006-12-13 15:32:01 · answer #10 · answered by nickstnblueangel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋