how can i do this my marrige is on the rocks
he is 26 yearold and dose not wont to get his own life
move out on his own. but he calls his mother
to argue with her sress her out and take out on me?
2006-12-13 07:23:12 · 11 answers · asked by Richard R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to talk to him and explain to him that if he wishes to continue living in your home then he should respect your marriage as well as he should get along. If he can't show respect then help him look for another place to live. But don't kick him out on the streets because he is your partners son. Perhaps his mother is also influencing his defiant behavior towards you and your spouse. I was in a similar situation and had a step-mother and father and my mother was so jealous and hateful that she would constantly upset me and basically 'made' me hate them. I mean it was so bad that if I went somewhere with them and had a good time, she would punish me for days about it and cut me down until I did things her way. She also had my father fooled into thinking that I was a problem child for her and that I also had no respect for her etc. But really she hated me and she also hated them and didn't want any of us to get along. She is still this way to this very day but now I am married and grown with my own kids and she isn't in the picture as well as my husband hates her and knows that she tortured our family for years. So don't be fooled exes will go to many lengths sometimes to get revenge. This may not be the case with you but you should observe your ex behavior as well because children (of all ages) generally act out or follow what their parents teach them. If your son is always making trouble then he definitely learned it from somewhere. So be cautious but also try to let him know that you are there for him and that you will help him figure out what he wants to do with his life as long as he is willing to try and change his behavior.
2006-12-13 07:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You! move him out. Pack his bags and set them outside the front door. Hes old enough to be om his own,and survive on his own. Even mother birds will push there young out of the nest if they don't take the first step. Just because he is miserable doesn't mean he has the right to make everybody else around him miserable. Talk to your wife and tell her how you feel. Tell her that you know hes her son and that they have that bond but that she isn't doing him any favours by babying him or feeling sorry for him. By kicking him out it will give him the rude awakening he needs and appreciate what he had and what he has.. Good Luck....
2006-12-13 15:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by rush 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 26 he's a mamma boy. Tell him to get out, plain and simple. Give him a deadline and stick to it. If he doesn't move out.. put his stuff outside and change the locks. Call the police if you have to. Time to cut the apron strings.
2006-12-13 15:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by mayihelpyou 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck...talk to your wife. Set some ground rules for him...take control of your lives and your home again...give him a timeline to get a job and get himself together enough to get a place to live and go out on his own...it is time...but, it will never happen unless the two of you force the issue....
2006-12-13 15:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him a deadline to move. and if he doesn't want to, tell him he has to start paying rent, for food, for utilities. and entertainment.or you can tell him that he is an adult and we would like to see you achieve something in life. so you have two months to leave. that gives you ample time to locate somewhere to live ,get a job. and/or start school. we love you very much.we will support you in whatever you choose to do. but you have to go now.
2006-12-13 15:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is an example of many other problems to look ahead when you marry some divorce person~ Sorry you knew she had kids and now you sit here and complain~ Her son before you, Sorry~
2006-12-13 15:29:05 · answer #6 · answered by YO~NO~FUI E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a deadline. Be out by a certain date or his things will be on the street.
2006-12-13 15:27:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps his father/your husband can do something about it.
If not, he's an adult, serve him with an eviction notice.
2006-12-13 15:26:38 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You give stepmoms a bad name.
2006-12-13 15:29:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the home move and not tell him.
2006-12-13 15:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋