we have been together for 8 years now, and have a 5 year old girl and a 4 year old boy, everybody tells us that we are complete, with a boy and a girl. but ever since i can remember i always wanted 3 kids. and just last week it hit me by the time the 3rd child is in pre-k the other kids will be 9, and 8. and my last 2 pregnancy, were not so enjoyable. so i want my last pregnancy to be "perfect". but then i start thinking who will take care of the baby while am at work? are we ok with money ( we are ok, could be better but its like a fear) how are things gonna work out??? i keep telling my self that everything will be ok...buts and ifs take over. with my fist pregnancy my husband and i were 17 y/o. and getting evicted. with the 2nd we lived in this little room that we were renting to a home owner, she kicked us out as well, because we refused to pay her $50 dollars per day that we were late on the rent. we are good now. but so confused, please help!
2006-12-13 07:21:54 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
hunni the only advise i can give u is too go with you heart.
if you alwaysdreamed of having 3 children then go ahead ad complete that dream.
you had problems in the past when pregnant wih your other 2 and you got through them i'm sure you will get through any problems that may arise if you get pregant again. which i'm sure there wont be.
if you can afford to have another child then do it. work part time and have relatives or close friends babysit. or be a stay at home mum.
i hope you make the right choice in whatever you want to do.
2006-12-13 07:28:59 · answer #1 · answered by babytots 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I to am thinking of having another baby and this is how my rule of thumb works. Things will never be perfect, you'll never have enough money and, in one way or another, timing stinks. But you should also wait to have another baby when there is less doubt...that's when you know it's a better time. Ask yourself why you want another baby? Bored? Miss having a baby to cuddle? Then take a step back and look at your life. Will another baby make things harder for everyone in your family, ie financially, etc. Will your life be better with another one or are you happy with your family/life as it is. I have one child. I am completely happy with just her but coming from a family with 3 kids, I know how important it is for her to have a sibiling and the thought of having another "her" makes me happy. That's where your mind has to be.
ps...my friend has 3 kids and is financially strapped, tired, stressed, and still thinks about having another one. But would never dare.
2006-12-13 15:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
why don't you do volunteer work with babies. one more nowadays means a lot financially. if you think about it. and as for a perfect pregnancy - there is no such thing. good luck there are many ways to fulill your baby need ( babysitting, foster parenting, volunteering)
2006-12-13 15:28:31 · answer #3 · answered by worldstiti 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have another child. The financial and psychological factors are too great, besides the world is overpopulated and we don't need anymore people.
2006-12-13 15:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by expatmt 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whether or not your family is complete is up to you and your partner ... if the two of you feel comfortable and ready then I say go for it.
Do talk to your partner.
2006-12-13 15:43:44 · answer #5 · answered by bb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please be sensible and build a nice comfortable home for the children you have now.
2006-12-13 15:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No more babies hot mama.
2006-12-14 01:18:07 · answer #7 · answered by walmartsunshine@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋