She says that our co-worker is someone she would love to date if she was not married. She says her husband doesn't pay her that much attention anymore and she feels neglected. I told her that she needs to focus on her marriage and not think about our co-worker. What advice can I give her to leave this guy alone and work on bettering her own marriage?
2006-12-13 07:08:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Keep on giving her the sound advice that you have been. She's lucky to have a friend like you.
2006-12-13 07:13:26 · answer #1 · answered by bandit 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the coworker is married too, your friend is on dangerous immoral ground, especially if there are children in the mix. Keep being a good friend and support her to do the right thing and honor her marriage vows. If her marriage is really bad and her husband won't work on it, then she should consider a divorce BEFORE starting a new relationship.
2006-12-13 07:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My best advise is, she is a grown women and must make her own choices, good or bad. Marriage is sometimes hard and can become mundane at times but she is the one who will have to live with whatever choice she makes regarding it.If you care about her then just state to her that if it was you, you would think about trying to better the situation she is already in rather than throw it to the curb for something that may be worse instead of better for her.
Either way if you try to much to steer her, she more than likely will just stop sharing her thoughts with you and do what she is going to do anyway.Like they say, "you can lead a horse to water, but you cant make them drink it".
2006-12-13 07:18:25 · answer #3 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her stupid questions like.
"Does your husband own a guy? So if goes postal and comes after the two of you I know how many bullets I'll have to dodge."
Point out the negative in her being selfish. Say things like with you being so selfish I can understand your husband deciding NOT to pay you much attention.
When she start questioning her own actions and stop making excuses you will know she's on the right track.
The answers to our problems are within us NOT outside.
2006-12-13 07:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your co worker is making excuses. She needs to focus on her marriage and not incur the destruction that comes w/ cheating. No matter how had you try you never really recover from it.
2006-12-13 07:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my! I would tell her, exactly what you said, to focus on her marriage and actually try to get attention from her own husband! she probably isn't getting attention form him because she's too busy thinking about yall's co-worker! that's kinda sad to me. if she would only focus on her marriage she will get attention from her husband...tell her that they should go on a weekend getaway! or if money is tight just to spend the day together doing fun stuff and spending time with each other! :)
2006-12-13 07:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
we all have at one time or another fantasized about someone nice at work,,someone we meet, I am sure she spends alot of time with the co-worker ( I spend 10 hours a day with a gal who is married who I think about ) and I am sure she spends limited time at home talking to her husband,
who is to say who is right or wrong, if she wanders or divorces she must not have been happy at home and sometimes the grass is greener on the other side of the fence
2006-12-13 07:35:24 · answer #7 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without sounding obnoxious I'd say mind your own business, don't get involved in office politics & keep your nose outta your co-workers marital problems. You'll end up the loser. It apparently is already two against one.
2006-12-13 07:16:59 · answer #8 · answered by Diablo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't make this decision for her. I would make sure that she new I didn't approve. I am single due to a cheating spouse. However, if she is determined to cheat, there is nothing you can do.
My best advice other than that is to pray for her marriage. God can change her heart if He wants to.
2006-12-13 07:17:24 · answer #9 · answered by Casey F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its takes two to better a marriage. If there is only one willing, it will never work.
2006-12-13 07:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋