me and my friend, (we'll call her barbera) have been friends for a long time. but throughout our hole friendship she has not been the nicest person ever. she will tell me things people said about me and it makes me feel really bad about myself, but i later find out she made it all up just to make me feel bad. It also sucks because she is friends with my other friends and i constantly trying to turn them against me. i dont want to talk to her cause she will twist it and make other people mad at me. What should i do?
2006-12-13 06:57:12 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
This is not a friend. Friends dont hurt other friends. With friends like that, who needs enemies. She seems like she is on a mission to hurt and belittle you to the people who are in the circle that the two of you hang out in. If i were you, I would remove myself from the equation and explain to your friends that you value their relationship, but you can no longer take the abruse from Barbera. Tell them that you would love to get together with them when she is not around. Do things with them minus her. Try at all cost to avoid her. Here's a question...What happened between the two of you for her to want to hurt you. Did you do something to her? Stay away from her at all cost. You might regret it later. Believe me SHE IS NOT A FRIEND. Good luck.
2006-12-13 07:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by queentasingtao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just cut all ties w/ her.What kind of person does stuff like that after middle school?If you have mutual friends they should realize,or at some point in time will come to realize that "barbara" is a complete *****.When you make plans w/ your other friends simply state that you would not be interested in having "Barbara" join you,if they aren't happy then they are not true friends.You should not interfere in their relationships w/ her,just set your ground and they should respect that.
2006-12-13 07:03:13 · answer #2 · answered by molliehollie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends come a dime a dozen and she is not one of them. First you must change your classification of peoples titles in your life. If you have one friend you are considered to be lucky if you have two then you are considered to be extremely lucky. Your "associate" is not someone you need on your team anymore. So regardless of how you think you may feel it will make you feel a whole lot better once she is out of your life.
2006-12-13 07:05:07 · answer #3 · answered by Swan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a "friend" like that. I use the term loosely. For me, what made it worse was my husband liked her...and I had learned not to like her. However, for me, avoiding phone calls, and invitations finally did the trick---at least temporarily. Start having an excuse ready to not hang out with her. Your peace of mind is worth more than a "friend" like that. Good luck.
2006-12-13 07:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who do this are people who are very self centered and insecure with who they are.Truth is she will more than likely dig her own grave eventually with the other friends.I would just not take to much she has to say or tell you to heart.She has already proven herself to not be very credible.And I am sure if your other friends deal with her wrath enough she will be out of your group of friends in no time.But,Sometimes you need to step up to people like this though and put them in their place.Sometimes you can get them to see that they are not going to have to many good people in their lives if they keep treating everyone like they are disposable.
2006-12-13 07:07:28 · answer #5 · answered by vmaxer85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having the same problem with my friend Krista. I think that maybe you should just keep your friendship with her really casual and not tell her personal things like your deep feelings or your opinion about your other friends.
And if you're religious, pray. It will make you feel stronger.
2006-12-13 07:04:41 · answer #6 · answered by Faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you are just goign to take it a step higher do everything worse then she does and thenafter a while she will think you are better and call it a truth or you could just hang out with a new group of people
2006-12-13 07:46:37 · answer #7 · answered by bkewlv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her our of your life. If she makes you this miserable why would you hang around her. You dont have to ruin her to do it just choose not to speak with her. Your other friends will realize that also in time.
2006-12-13 06:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by Believe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever heared of the saying
With friends like that you don't need enemy's.
Well in your case you don't need any for sure.
2006-12-13 07:17:14 · answer #9 · answered by Jinxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she dont sound like a friend. she sounds like someone that needs to grow up. she is using hurting you to boost her own ego
2006-12-13 07:07:04 · answer #10 · answered by sweetpea 96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋