I have a wonderful daughter who is 15 years old. She always gets good grades, she has started a dance team at her school and she has attened a School of the Arts on a scholarship for the last eight years in dance. She takes pictures for the school website and she helps everyone she can. She has tutored kids at school and she helps at her church.
The problem is we don't have money for any christmas presents this years. Between the house payment, the house insurance, the car insurance and the utilities (both insurances fell due in december this year) and her father not paying child suport, we are broke.
We make too much to get help from community resources or the salvation army but we don't make enough to do anything for her this year.
She says it's okay, that she understands. But it's not okay and it breaks my heart. She is such a wonderful kid, she helps me more than she should have to (I have fibromyalgia) and she helps everyone else too.
Please, if you can, help us help her
2006-12-13 06:42:09 · 14 answers · asked by Tliles419 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Christmas
Not all gifts cost money. Make her something, or have a mom/daughter day.
You can make her a coupon book for things you can do together - movie night, nails painted, hair, makeup, etc
2006-12-13 06:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You might want to start thinking about selling the house and moving into a smaller one to free up some cash. She should tutor for an hourly rate like $5.00 per hour. Take her father to court and get his wages garnished for the back child support there should be an agency that can help you with that. Also, contact her father and just ask him for the christmas money for his daughter. Maybe he will have a decent moment and do the right thing. Otherwise plan to sue him.
2006-12-13 16:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Church and see if they can help. I am sorry you are suffering in your own way,but at least you have a child who understands,she seems to be a very grown up young lady,and you should be proud of her for sure. Go to a Church program or a community program with her,they are free. Some organizations are having free will soup suppers this time of year along with a program too,and if you don't have money to put in the can,they understand,they just want to help in their own way. That way you are doing something TOGETHER which should mean more than a wrapped gift under the tree. She will be grown and on her own soon enough,enjoy the time you have together,and spend quality time,not quantity of money. Merry Christmas
2006-12-13 15:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by grbarnaba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already given your daughter the best gift in the world(a mothers love).Please give your daughter the credit that she deserves for being a mature stand up kid.If she attends church like you said,and assist all the people you mentioned,then she is blessed.You see,it is better to be able to assist someone than to be assisted,that means that the creator has increased you in areas over others.What you should do is be frank and honest with her like you have been,and explain to her the real reasons gifts are exchanged,and the fact that they may come in a non-material form.I would also remind her of the many people who do not have a house,car,food,mom or dad,and the horrible things that are going on in the world,after that,you and your daughter's gifts would seem to be too many to count.I pray that your financial situation and your health gets better,and may the creator continue to bless you and your daughter with gifts that can not be measured monetarily.
2006-12-13 14:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by lolo rachi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a child my mother and father would sell one of their most expensive possessions to a family member or pawn something then buy it back after xmas. Or just sell it all together. If I ever have children and I can't afford xmas presents I'll do the same thing.
2006-12-13 14:58:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say I know how it feels to fall through the cracks of the system. Have you talked to your church yet? maybe they can help in some way, when she is bible study for instance, your pastor can ask his other perishners to help out with gifts for her and recognize what a big help she is to the community because that kind of selflessness deserves to be awarded.
Have you thought about going to the court and asking for them to inforce the child support order against your ex? If you haven't try that they can always attach his wages.
Good Luck and MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-13 14:55:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel about the bills all falling due. But have you tries taking her to a play at a church, (they are free) or creating new holiday memories, like make ornaiment together, or cook together, go to a candle light service together, spend time together. She sounds like a great kid.
2006-12-13 14:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don t you make her a cool dance outfit or have a its all about you day. Also you can make her coupons with things like no chores day, cater to you day, pick family night out thing like that so when you do have money she can pick a going out night and it wont make her feel bad or you because she ll know when to use it and you wont feel bad by saying no.
2006-12-13 15:48:52 · answer #8 · answered by smartypants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you, by any chance, happen to be from Nigeria? Because we on yahoo.answers have no way to verify that your story is not a scam. If this is not a scam, then why not make your daughter a beautiful collage of photos and a written history of your family. Now that would be a wonderful gift that wouldn't cost you anything...
2006-12-13 14:51:01 · answer #9 · answered by mJc 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
try the Marine Corps League, a Church, or perhaps the parents of the kids she tutored might be willing to help. talk with your minister as he may have better solutions.
2006-12-13 14:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋