i have had so much going on in my life. it all started when my daughter passed about almost 2 years ago. and then i got married. i thought this man was wonderful. was i wrong. things were going good we decided to have a baby together and then it all hit the fan. he wouldn't love on me or show me any attention or affection. i felt so hurt so alone and plus i had post pardum depression form having our baby. so he told me i need to get help. and i did just for him. then he turned around and called me a nut case, took my baby from me and said i can never see here again. i never thought i'd be an ex wife. all that sounds kinda typical but to top everything off he has fooled my whole family to think that i am the worst person. they have left me with nothing and give him every thing they think he needs. i'm to the point where i don't think i can go on. i don't even know the number to a sucide hot line. where do i turn when you have noone to turn too? (this is still only part of the story)
2006-12-13 06:34:53 · 14 answers · asked by Amber 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its not easy to just go to court and get her back. . . . we are got devoriced casue i made a mistake because he didn't treat me right so i found someone who would. i realized what i done was wrong. he said it was okay we would work it out we loved each other. he went to a party with a girl and five days later i had divorce papers i had no idea it was comming so i signed papers i didnt understand. now i have to live without her and him and he was sleeping with his girl friend in my bed, with my sheets, my pillows, and under my blankets. now he has my mom and dad aginst me. they believe everything he says. he's living with them they gave him a car and im living from house to house out of my car 9 months pregnant.
2006-12-13 06:46:51 · update #1
yahoo! anwsers loves losers like you
2006-12-13 06:37:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 6⤋
Your first line of support is always someone that knows you well and someone you can trust. Like a good friend. You need to get out of this emotional stress before you can think of doing anything to get on with your life.
You definitely have been through a lot. I see one other guy who answered this question thinks you are a loser. I think you are a winner already. Just by being expressive and opening yourself up for suggestion and help is a big first step.
Though we're hearing your side of the story, from what you say, you definitely need help. If you don't have much local help, please go to a church nearby or a school or even the police station for help. Try and not be by yourself. Try and always surround yourself among people. And keep communicating. That helps.
Trust me. Take one day at a time. Focus on the moment and try your best to keep yourself occupied and busy. Pretty soon, you'll find something that gives you purpose and reason to live and be happy. Best wishes.
2006-12-13 14:48:09 · answer #2 · answered by houstonian352000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about yoru situation. You are not alone. Please go to a local Woman's shelter. They can help you and your soon to arrive baby.
Even when it hurts, even when you feel that you have no energy left in you, you have to START making the right decisions, if you are serious about getting yoru baby back and getting your life back on track.
The best advice that I can give you is to seek help. There is no shame in asking for help wen you need it. YOu cannot afford having a meltdown right nowm you have a baby on the way and one little girls that also depends on you.
Firts, you have to stop being homeless. This is not going to help you in court. The iea is that you have to demostrate that you are a fit mother and that you are emotionaly stable and financially resposible to be able to take care of yoru child. Go to a shelter or apply for goverment housing inmediatly.
Secondly, get your act together and find legal counsel. In the women's shelters sometimes they have legal assistance and they can point uyou in the right direction. If your are now homeless and emotionally stress is because of your sneaky backstabing husband and family, but again, you cannot aford to lose it right now! Trust me! You have to be calm and gather strenght where there is none.
Third, apply for unemplyment and WIC or food stamps for you and your baby while you get back on your feet. There is no shame to have yoru basic necesities taken care of, the idea is that you have to demostrate in court that if you get visitation , the child will be safe and taken care of. If you tell the judge that you are homeless and jobless thay are going to side with your ex-h.,
Act now, the more time that passes, the worse. You can get another bed and other sheets, you are not the only one in this situation. Put yourself together and get yoru chin up!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-13 15:38:15 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok I am adding on to what I said earlier. Go to a woman's shelter in your town. Contact your local church. Get on your feet. Then when things are settled.. contact a lawyer.. You dont need your family with you to do all this. You can do it. Besides you have another mouth to worry about soon. You need to take care of you!!.. so this is the time to do it.. AND YOU CAN.. keep up your chin.. and if you need help with this let me know or e-mail me.. I can see what I can do to help you out.
You can do it!
you turn to a good Lawyer,
Girlfriend.. there is nothing wrong with you. Stand up!! Do you love your daughter.. That is what you have.. Your child.. If there is anything in this world worth living for.. it is her. Children are the best remedy.. You have every right in this world to see your daughter. And no court in this country will deny you of that.
Go to a window and look up.. Look at how much you have in front of you.
I have been in your shoes.. and my children kept me going.
That is your past.. Look for tomorrow.. . You can do it..
You can not change what happened in the past.. but you can change what is going to happen in the future by thinking of ways to do so..
I would contact a lawyer, I would let them know what is going on. Then I would contact a your inner self..
There is nothing in this world you cant accomplish if you put your mind to it.. But you have to be the one to take the first step and do it. You have to put a stop to the past and move to the future. ..
Keep your head up.. you havent lost.. your just in a hole.. Here is the rope.. grab on.. and pull yourself out.
2006-12-13 14:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Lost a child to its the hardest thing you will every go through the rest all you need is a good lawyer to plead your case for you if you need someone to talk to try the phone book there is hot line numbers in the front of the book
2006-12-13 15:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by teadropsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to be alone if your thinking of committing suicide, what you should do is get some counseling. You know what, suicide will not solve your problems you have a child that needs you, do the counseling and then look for some attorneys that can help you get you child back. But remember one step at a time!!!!
Good Luck!!!
2006-12-13 14:55:26 · answer #6 · answered by maya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have all of that going on then you shouldn't be looking for real advice from the nut cases on yahoo Q+A. I wouldn't take any ones advice on here serious.Go back to the shrink.
2006-12-13 14:51:50 · answer #7 · answered by irishlad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry Hon. You should continue with your therapy because you need to stay healthy. Consult with a lawyer regarding custody of your child.
2006-12-13 14:44:56 · answer #8 · answered by CAITLIN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you got yourself in quite a mess. Sorry I cant help
2006-12-13 18:46:37 · answer #9 · answered by xquis81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what kind of advice to give, but you can always email me just to vent if you want. 1-800-suicide is the hotline.
2006-12-13 14:47:12 · answer #10 · answered by project achieve 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone you trust like a Church leader.
2006-12-13 14:43:37 · answer #11 · answered by walking s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋