I am a bi - married and still a gay with a friend (a bi too) of mine for the last few years (from before marriage). Me and my friend we are close & intimate and need each other many times. In recent times he started asking me to help him see my wife in nude. As a close gay friend , i did help him by allowing him to watch her secretly while bathing and dressing. I am afraid these days that he might slowly lose interest in me and start turning towards her. How do i retain his interest in him?
2006-12-13 06:29:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Wow.. what I think you should be asking yourself is how come you feel no remorse at letting your friend spy on your wife, who surely you have an obligation to be honest to, and whose privacy you should not actively violate?
2006-12-13 06:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by probablestars 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first off I would stop showing him your wife. Second do you realize that although it is rarely used anymore adultery is still against the law. On top of that does your wife know that you are bi. If not I would tell her.
After all that being said, I would also lose interest in you supposed friend. I mean you are married! You are supposed to have a complete trust in your partner; be it male or female. I would look at the reasons you married her and see if they still exist. If not, then get a divorce. If so reexamine your friendship. Your friendship should not be more important than your marriage. If it is then you need to change your life to adjust for that.
And remember, you're "friend" isn't gay he is bi, which means he's attracted to men and women both, just like you. Which would be part of the reason why he finds your wife interesting. There is also the whole "wanting what you cannot have" issue because he can't have your wife he wants her.
2006-12-13 14:38:03 · answer #2 · answered by ambr95012 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough question! I have to ask you this, why would you allow him to watch your wife bathe secretly. What do you think would happen if your wife found out. Does she know you are bi? You have to be careful because if you have not been open and honest with your wife, you risk loosing both. I suggest you stop letting him see your wife in that manner if you are worried about him loosing interest in you!
2006-12-13 15:02:10 · answer #3 · answered by Justice 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe he is lose interestin in you. cause one thing that he is bi then he can lose interestin in you and have interestin in your wife. For bi people they can change their mind and interestin a lot of time. And I think it wrong for him want to see your wife nude. Also it wrong for you to do that too since it your wife and you didn't tell her about it.. and you don't know if she ok with it or not.. so you are not faithful to her. you hidin thing from her. anyways , that all i need to say .. If he like you or still have interestin in you then he wouldn't need to watch your wife nude.
2006-12-13 14:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by Yomsorlanoun 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he may want a three-way with you and your wife? As he is already into you he might want to find out what you find interesting in her. Or it could be a test? Or he may just be messing with your head! Enter into this very carefully.
2006-12-13 14:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmm you got yourself in this one, but I'm not here to judge you, what you can do now is try to find some one else that you know he might be interested on and try to push him away with the excuse that you are trying to hoke him up. Not always work though... Good Luck
2006-12-13 14:42:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say to him, "I understand what you are asking. I like seeing her naked too. That one time (or a couple) is enough for you. So, no, you can't see my wife naked."
2006-12-13 15:43:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sam E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, why would you let his see your wife bathing. If i were your wife and I found that out....I'd leave you! Thats creepy!!!
2006-12-13 14:49:00 · answer #8 · answered by britt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your a ******* weirdo. burning in hell wud be too good for you. you must have no balls at all you sick homo. **** the wife and stop being a knob jockey. why are you so weird? can i have pictures of your wife? timtwomey@gmail.com
2006-12-13 15:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
uhhh.. your in some crap... thats all i know to say... don't show your wife off again.. treat her with respect..gahhh men!!!!
2006-12-13 15:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by matthewkeithsmart 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋