My wife and I got divorced about two years ago. I didn't really want the divorce it was her idea. I have always regretted letting her go. But I wanted her to be happy and at the time I wasn' making her happy so I did what she wanted. I went through a drastic change. I became mean and disagreeable. I did some things that I shouldn't have. I used our five year old son to try and get her back. That was a mistake.
It took some time, but now she has come back to me. We talk and laugh together. She even took care of me when I was sick recently. She has moved back into my home and we have a date this Sunday. We have begun to put our life back together. We have agreed to date for now.
The thing she has even started sleeping next to me again. That is right I let her share my bed. It feels good to have her near me again. I want her back so bad.
I want to ask her to marry me again but fear rejection. I don't know if she is willing to go that far right now. Do i ask her or not. Plz help
2006-12-13 06:29:01 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You didn't really say why the two of you got divorced. You didn't really say what caused you to become mean and disagreeable either. I commend you for wanting to make her happy at your expense. It shows what kind-hearted man you can really be. At least you see and admit that you made mistakes. I agree trying to use your son to help get her back was a mistake. It could have caused some emotional damage for him.
It is great to hear that you two have re-discovered one another. It sounds sweet to hear that she thinks enough of you to care for you when you weren't feeling well.
Time is what it will take. It sounds as if your problems are behind you now. But I caution you to always be honest with her. Tell her how you are feeling. You may discover that she feels the same way. Perhaps that is what really brought her back to you.
I say keep dating for now. Give it a few more months and then ask her. Look to her for clues as to how things are progressing between you two. You may be surprised. Don't push her though. Look what trying to push her got you last time. BE PATIENT.
but more importantly BE YOURSELF AND BE HONEST.
She will let you know when the time is right.
2006-12-14 02:09:52 · answer #1 · answered by bikini bandit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-08 06:57:57 · answer #2 · answered by Devorah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't include the time frame since you two have been getting along, but I think you should give it more time. Don't jump the gun because things are going well, for now. Be patient and continue talking and make sure everything is out in the open first. You should get the root of why she wanted to leave in the first place, you didn't mention that.
If you do get back together and you both want it that's fantastic. Best Wishes
2006-12-13 06:35:26 · answer #3 · answered by Pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when two people share a life and it stops and then one day it starts up you start to fit back into the place you use to be and hopefully you learned from your mistakes so that you will last forever. boy having her next to you feels so good, yes loneliness is a terrible thing and yes be honest with her. wait til your laying in bed and have total privacy. she will answer you i have no clue what she'll say, but if your sharing a bed then maybe she feels the same way. by the way it will be worth the rejection than to live a lifetime of regrets good luck
2006-12-13 07:38:02 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People stay together because they BOTH choose to stay together. Maybe by NOT being married it means more to her because its a choice you both make every day.
The thing is this freedom is not just for unmarried couples. Every couple married or not makes this choice, just for married people the break up is more complicated with legal paper work. How about you enjoy your relationship and not worry what its called. You can even get her to enjoy it so much she asks you to marry her. I think that should be what you should be working toward. FYI, don't forget to still be yourself. Confidence and Independence is very attractive to the opposite sex.
2006-12-13 06:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slooooooowwww brother. You too maybe back together because of familiarity. Did she date any in those 2 years? Did you? If not I would be cautious. What mad you mean and disagreeable before? Are you sure whatever it was has passed and you can be a better spouse this time? Think long and hard before jumping in again my friend.
2006-12-13 06:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you broke it off without going for help the first time. It looks like she determined that the grass was not greener without you. She realized despite your faults you are the one for her. Tell her you want to make a go of it. If she thinks its a good idea wait two months see if its good then pop the Q. DO NOT SLEEP WITH HER! Sexual memory is a powerful thing. Make sure its her you want and not her "lovin".
2006-12-13 06:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopfully you both know each better now. You have nothing to lose, ask her. Sounds like she's ready to accept your proposal. But if not, it's not the end of the world. She could need more time. If that be the case, continue to enjoy each other.
How's your son doing???
2006-12-13 07:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why ruin a good thing? She is living with you and sleeping with you. Dude, you HAVE her back, why push marriage? There's nothing in it for you except potentially higher spousal support payments in the future.
2006-12-13 06:36:41 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say ask her. Give it a hot minute though, go out on a few dates, then ask her.
Best of luck to you both-
2006-12-13 07:11:43 · answer #10 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋