I'm 14 and pregnant haven't told my parents yet what should i do?

Question

im finally pregnant me & my boy friend have been trying and finally i am and were both scared to tell ou r parents im afraid they will kick me out

Answer 1

If they really love you then they won't kick you out. Ticked off, yeah but not kick you out. Now enough with the sugar coating. You want to play grown up then you should act like one and tell your parents. Next , you should work with your parents to arrange an appointment with an adoption agency. Your baby needs a good family that wants her/him and will be able to support her/him. If you keep your baby, it will be a burden on your parents, on you and on the baby. You need to grow up and not by raising your own kid at 14 and your parents should not have to pay for your mistake. Obviously something was not taught at your house and this is why you should give it up for adoption. But first talk it over with your parents. Then think of the best thing for the kid, not you. You made a stupid mistake but that doesn't mean you have to make another. Again do what's best for the baby!

Answer 2

A 14 year old is nowhere near mature enough for having sex, let alone becoming a parent. You have to tell your parents now about your situation, there is no way you can hide being pregnant...and you should have thought about this before you TRIED to get pregnant.

Please read this:

ARE YOU READY FOR PARENTHOOD?

(1) Can you support the child financially? Children are
expensive. I always urge people to complete their education
and delay parenthood until they are self-supporting, in case
they should find themselves in the role of sole provider.

(2) Can you support the child emotionally? Babies are cute,
but they are also completely helpless and emotionally needy.
While some young women say they want a baby so they'll have
someone to love them, the reality is it's the parent's
responsibility to love and sacrifice for the child. In plain
English, this means the end of a normal teenage social life
because babies are extremely time-consuming.

(3) Are you prepared to be a consistent parent? Children
learn by example -- both good and bad. Are you prepared to
be a role model for the behaviors you want your child to
mimic? Because mimic they do. They learn more from what
they observe than what they're told.

(4) Have you read up on child development? Are your
expectations of what a child should be able to accomplish
as he or she reaches various chronological milestones
realistic? Ditto for your partner, whether or not he or she
is the child's biological parent.

(5) Are you prepared to put someone else's needs before your
own for the next 18 to 21 years? Remember, babies can't be
returned to the manufacturer for a refund if you're not 100
percent satisfied. Sometimes they come with serious challenges.
Can you cope with those realities?

If the answer to any of these questions is no, I strongly
advise postponing parenthood.

Answer 3

Hi,
I am not going to lie. I honestly feel that you are way too young to even be thinking about a child at your age. I am 19 years old. I am 26 weeks pregnant. I still don't feel that I am ready to have a child. I am going through so much just because of the fact that i am young. Another reason is because your body is not fully developed yet.
To get to the question that you have asked. I strongly feel that you both should tell your parents about the situation at hand. Maybe your parents can help out with the situation. Don't ever try to hide anything from your parents, regardless of how you feel they may react. Well, from my point of view I say you should let your parents know.

Answer 4

honey, you should be playing with dolls still, not boys. A baby is not a toy, it is a lot of work. I am 23 and married and it is a lot for me to handle some days, how are you going to deal with a baby, school and just being a teenager? When i was in grade nine there was a girl who got pregnant i think she was 14 or 15 and she left school and her life was a totall mess after that, social services tried to take her baby, but her parents stepped in and had to adopt her baby in order to stop her daughter from being taken into custody and the father actually did some time in juvenile hall. I am really sorry to hear that this is something that you wanted to happen.

Answer 5

Finally pregnant? Are you nuts kiddo? you aren't even old enough to take care of yourself let alone a baby!!! What were tthe 2 of you thinking? How do you plan on supporting the little one where will you go? What should you do? Ummmm a little late to be asking that question dont you think?
My daughters are 13 14 and 16, at this point they are all open and honest with me. I can only hope that if they were ever in this situation they would continue to be. Wow kiddo talk about having to grow up fast. your life just changed drastically i hope you are up for it. Good luck.
the only thing you can do is be honest and open.

Answer 6

Why on earth would you try to get pregnant so young? I feel for you. I'm only 19 and have a 4 month old and I think I"m too young sometimes, but atleast I live on my own and am married. Babies raising babies. I hope that you have the strength to tell your parents and ask for help. I'm sure your parents love you and will be there for you but expect alot of yelling. Hope I helped if you need to talk IM me.

Answer 7

My mom became pregnant at 16 so I know where you are coming from - it can be very scary at any age. I hope that this is something that you have thought through very well because this is a large step in your life. The best thing to do is be honest with your parents, I am sure that they love you very much and only want the best for you. If something does happen and you decide not to keep your child remember that there are thousands of families that want children that can't have them. Overall, be sure to treat yourself well and enjoy this time in your life!

Answer 8

That wasnt the smartest thing you could of done... why where you trying to get yourself pregnant? and at that age, its horrible hunny. You might have the hardest life from here on, I mean I hope not, but what are you going to do when your boyfriend leaves you all alone? he's young and he will eventually get tired of you it wasnt smart of you two to do that... not at all. You will be the one who will suffer most, Im telling you this out or experience, Im sorry if Im making you feel horrible, but I know you know you did wrong.

You have school to finish, besides your sooo young (body wise) to be having sex in the first place, I hope everything comes out fine with the baby growing inside of you... remember you wanted to get pregnant, so dont ever blame your baby when everything starts going wrong... Dont get an abortion, because that will affect you physically and mentally for the rest of your life... Ill be praying for you, that things will resolve with your parents...


Good luck

Just tell your parents right away, About being kicked out, you should of thought of that before you were working on you getting pregnant... but they might just take care of you... so again good luck.

Answer 9

Thank you tygernside. What is wrong with our youth today. Sometimes I want to say it is the parents. But you can't generilize. What is wrong with you....and your boyfriend?? Do you expect your parents to allow you to have this baby and then when it is too much for you both, you can just dump it off on them to raise this baby of yours? WAKE up smell the coffee. You are 14, if you were not adult enough to tell them that you were having sex and wanted to have a baby, what makes you think you are adult enough to take care of this babies needs? Your baby might be perfect, sleep through the night, not cry. But don't bet on it. Are you gonna be WOMAN enough to get up all hours of the night and handle the non stop crying???? How about your boyfriend? IS he gonna leave you when you are not so FOXY with your belly and then don't loose the baby fat right away? Have you really thought about all of the things that need to be thought about???????????????????????????????????????????????????? Do you know your parents as well as you think you do? Why would they kick you out, why would you get yourself pregnant anyway......what are you lacking at home??? SAD SAD SAD!!!!

Answer 10

Baby girl, you should always talk to your parents. Having an open relationship with your parents will be the best answer. Your parents will not feel like they are too hard on you if you are open with them. Talk with your mom and dad or just one at a time, tell them that you think you are pregnant and would like to go to the doctor. If you already been to the doc just tell them the truth. The truth will never hurt. Tell them that you are very sorry.