2006-12-13 05:48:39 · 29 answers · asked by INOTFRIEND 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
To some degree - I call it compromise, not change. You are who you are and have to be true to yourself, in the long run it will not work out, someone will resent the other.
2006-12-13 06:00:14 · answer #1 · answered by strtat2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok ok, my initial reaction to his is a big fat NO.
But then I was thinking about it... people make compromises all the time. When couples get married they're constantly making compromises and changing to make living together a good thing and functional. I think that you will make some changes for people that you love, especially if you do something that makes the other person feel badly. Changes can seem very slight and small to you, but they can mean everything to someone else.
If I did something that I knew hurt someone I love, then I would try my best to change that.
2006-12-13 13:53:47 · answer #2 · answered by sorcha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what is to be changed.
You can change things to make improvments for yourself, but if someone wants or is trying to change you and you do not want to be changed it won't happen.
Have you ever changed anything like your eating habits? You can make personal changes too.
2006-12-13 13:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by I am Crystal S. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you can certainly TRY to change for someone..but unless you ACTUALLY WANT to change, it cant happen...the alchoholic is the perfect example...a loved one will say"you have a problem, you need to stop." The alchoholic will stop drinking for a short period of time...but then start again rationalizing that they "just wont drink as much"..this can go on and on until the alchoholic decides for themselves they need to stop. I think even in less serious instances, a person can act/be a certain way...but do they truely change?...More than likely, they are just stifling that behaviour...
2006-12-13 13:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by ~LAX Mom~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! I fully believe anyone can change but they need to do it for themselves in order for it to work! I believe anyone can do anything they desire but they have to want to do it deep inside their own soul! And if its for someone else- its just not going to work really well. PLUS if the someone is someone who claims to love u- then they should accept you for who u are and stop trying to change things! I had friends who were married for 11 years and she spent so much time the first 2 years telling him- dont do that- stop this and quit that. She divorced him after 11 years and why? She said he wasnt the man she married! Of COURSE NOT! SHE SPENT THE 11 YEARS changing him! So of course he is not the same man! Know what I mean?
2006-12-13 14:07:59 · answer #5 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you can, however this doesn't nessisarily mean it's a good idea. It's all about perception. If someone wants you to change a 'bad' habbit like smoking, it could be a good thing. However if you're changing your whole personality for somebody it's probably a bad thing.
2006-12-13 13:58:40 · answer #6 · answered by jacque_sue89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can change for anyone. You can't force yourself to. But if you feel this certain person is worth changing for then you can. Changing, however takes alot of self-evaluation.
2006-12-13 13:53:01 · answer #7 · answered by I used 2 love Him 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, not if you are set in your ways, but lets say you could make an effort to change for someone if you love them enough.
2006-12-13 13:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by may s 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could and I have to some extent, but I look at it like this, people can accept me as I am or not accept me at all. I use to care what people think, but that wasn't making me happy. I am happy with myself now. So, it's like this, I am me and I am not changing.
2006-12-13 13:53:59 · answer #9 · answered by pinkcasperartweety 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I only change for me.
2006-12-13 13:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by That Girl You Know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋