If you're divorced, did you find it to be a traumatic experience or was it a relief?

Answer 1

I am not divorce yet because my soon to be ex has dragged it out for over two years and your question is posted the day before my divorce trial so I think I can answer this. It is very traumatic and I don't wish it on anyone. The amount of money and time wasted on lawyers etc is overwhelming. I didn't think it would come to a all out trial but my ex is very vindictive and needs to get the pound of flesh and publicly humiliate me with no regards to anyone including our children. I wish that the ex would seek professional help dealing with the anger issues that push it to this level. If people had to take classes and watch people go through the system before they would be granted a marriage license then I would think that more people will not get married in the first place. I am hoping that after this there will be some relief. Life is too short for this type of pain...

Answer 2

It was both because children were involved. Divorce is not an easy thing to go through. Even though I wanted to be apart from my ex, I must have lost 20 lbs. It hasn't really been a relief until just recently because our children are over 18 now and the ex and I do not really have to talk to one another as much as we had to when they were younger. We have been divorced for 10 years now. I was however a relief that I finally found my soul mate and have never been happier.

Answer 3

Both. It was a learning experience that brought a lot of growth. And remember, growing is a painful process. Once you heal, it will be a relief so remember to pamper yourself for all of the accomplishments and sacrifices.
Check out some Divorce Recovery programs if you have some free time. Local churches some times will hold a 12 week program on this subject. I found it to be very helpful.

Answer 4

It was a relief and it was absolutely the Right thing for me, but of course it was traumatic too. People don't enter into marriage expecting it to fail. I have never re-married and it has been almost 15 years. I would advise anyone to give it another try, you don't want to live with the pain of wondering if you should have given it another chance. And don't let another person break up your marriage, it gets complicated and happiness doesn't come out of that kind of ugliness - trust me.

Answer 5

Both. It was a huge relief to be out of the marriage, but the process was painful. If I had to make the same decision again today, though, I would do the same thing. It was worth it. I have remarried and am very happy now.

Answer 6

It was a wonderful relief! I had my moments of stress going through the legal process of divorce. But in the long run, it was the best thing that I could have done.

Answer 7

Relief would be the world's biggest understatement. Now, the marriage, it was a traumatic experience.

Answer 8

I have been divorced once - back in 1997 - and we had no kids so it was a HUGE relief. Thank Goodness I didn't have children with him. It depends entirely on your situation too... is he abusive? Controlling? Is he easy going?
If he is abusive and controlling then it WILL be traumatic. If he is laid back and easy going, then it shouldn't be too bad.
Good Luck!

Answer 9

Both. For me, I was tormented by the oath I made to God to be with her "till death do us part".

Looking back on it now, it is a relief. I am no longer in a relationship that is filled with arguing, fighting, sleepless nights, or worry.

I went to see counselors, followed their advice, compromised my butt off, and yet the marriage still failed. It happens, unfortunately.

You have to make your own choices, but do so with as much advice and wisdom you can muster. You will view things completely different than anyone else, because it is YOUR situation.

Good Luck

Answer 10

This all depends on the reason for your divorce. I was devastated when I found out my husband was leaving my son and I--- but once I found out he had cheated- it became a huge relief. Either way you learn from mistakes.