my fiance is a musican (not paid) who has been living off of his savings for the past 4 months. he has covered his portion of the bills, etc. he is running out of money & now has to make a decision as to what he should do. he also has a son from a previous relationship. i want to support him & his music career, but i also want to let him know that i really want to start planning our wedding/future & cant until he starts making money again. what can i do? what should he do?
2006-12-13 05:22:31 · 7 answers · asked by Kirsten S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You're making a mistake if you marry a guy who has been voluntarily unemployed for 4 months. This is a pattern that will almost certainly repeat after marriage. He has some serious growing up to do. I recommend you date other men until he has done it.
2006-12-13 05:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should get a job i mean being a musician is nice and all but it does not really pay the bills does it ? if not then he needs a real job like now . Yes if he gets a job he will have to have his child support paid out of his check as well so u need to be preparred for that as well. I would not start planning a wedding or a future untill you can see that he is a responsible man and does the right thing. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-12-13 05:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you better tell him to get a job! Im not saying that he shouldn't stick with his music but bills need to be paid and no woman should have to financially support a man who is perfectly healthy and is able to work. He has a son that he needs to take care of.
2006-12-13 05:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by Kokolicious06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Communication is the key to a good marriage. Sit down and talk with him about your plans and concerns.
Some topics to start with:
Are you willing to keep supporting him?
Is he prepared for a long engagement?
What are his plans for child support for his son?
2006-12-13 05:41:20 · answer #4 · answered by AnnieD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to get a job! Especially if he has a child - unless you want to be paying child support for a child you had nothing to do with bringing into the world
2006-12-13 05:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he's not earning money as a musician, then maybe he should consider pursuing it part-time so that he can earn an income to take care of his son and start to plan a future with you, otherwise I'd dump him, following your dreams is lovely, but being broke and mooching off someone else is downright disrespectful and neglectful of your responsibilities
2006-12-13 05:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start with him getting a paying job like the rest of the world.
2006-12-13 05:27:37 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋