I was there in October, and I felt like an outsider. I'm full pinoy, and even though a lot of people were nice to me, I felt that they were being bola. Reasons Why I felt that way:
1. cannot speak tagalog
2. grew up in America
3. barely know my relatives
4. naiihya ako
I wish now that I had grew up in the philppines rather than chicago, I always wonder how I would be if I grew up there rather than here, maybe my life would of been a lot better. EWAN?
2006-12-13 05:22:28 · 12 answers · asked by BokBok 2 in Travel ➔ Asia Pacific ➔ Philippines
i was not born in America, I was born in the philippines raised in chicago. I left when I was 3
2006-12-13 07:05:39 · update #1
Two examples of americans here:-
The asker of this question is an example of an insecure, timid person outside the borders of his country, which is home to some of the most ignorant people on Earth.
This brings me to ASHER, who is a fine example of how moronic and ill informed americans can be, please don't ever travel outside your boundaries of intelligence and understanding.
As a matter of record, I'm English and have lived here for 14 years without having my head chopped off by the ABU SAYYAF, and many of my foreign friends are also still alive. I believe only one foreigner has met that fate in this country -Burnham.
You are also mistaken in suggesting that the Governor of a province can have you killed, they may not be above a little corruption, but they certainly don't get involved in murder generally.
A person is also not likely to attract that much animosity unless he is an ignorant, arrogant american, for example!
To answer the question would be futile, there is too much paranoia there, do what most americans do over there and see a shrink....
2006-12-13 07:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by fed up with stupid questions 4 · 12⤊ 2⤋
The movie "The Joy Luck Club" is all about the differences that come with growing up in one country while your parents grew up in another. Although it's about women and mothers, I think the same feelings and issues apply to everyone in these families, and although it's about Chinese people, I've heard stories like yours from children raised in America returning to the Philippines before and feeling lost. You may lament not being close to your family there, but your parents came to America because they thought it would be better for them and for you, that you would have more opportunities. Whether you did or not is up to you to decide, but you could still make changes if you wanted to. You could learn Tagalog, either from your parents, or Rosetta Stone software, or move to the Philippines, work there and get to know your family. Wishing won't help, but there is so much you can do if you want. Find out what jobs are in need there, pick something that interests you, and make that your career goal.
2006-12-13 14:24:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
They don't hate you (at least most of them don't), they just do not have much in common with you. The 4 reasons you succinctly listed above are the reasons why. It's almost like putting 5 nerds in a room with 5 jocks. I don't think these two groups would naturally form lasting friendships, because their differences outweigh their similarities. It's that simple.
The only thing you have in common with native pinoys is that you look the same physically. But you don't speak the same language, not interested in the same topics and discussions. You probably care about the Chicago Bears and the latest Ford Mustang. Your local pinoy counterparts couldn't care less about that and would rather talk about the local PBA team or discuss the latest Pinoy Dream Academy episode.
To develop a bond with them, the onus is on you to make the move to familiarize yourself with their interests and actually even develop a sincere appreciation for these interests. If you are not willing to do so--then don't expect much in return. They won't of you, hence the present stand-offishness.
2006-12-13 08:21:19 · answer #3 · answered by Well 5 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Lots of good answer here, Tequilla Mike and the gang..hooray for you.
The answer lies within you....
Did you accept or adapt to your surroundings? Once you are in, you eat, sleep, drink and laugh with them. They are nice, bola bola a little maybe, you got the USD with you but accept their hospitality.
BTW..I think Asher already lost his soul.
Me not American, but my wife a Pinay.
2006-12-14 04:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by SHIH TZU SAYS 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do as what they call as IMMERSION! im a filipaina who happened to grow up in a foreign counrty... whan i cme back here in the Pihl. at first i felt awkward but if you'll bnd with them... for sure the'll keep on clinging and bonding with you... Filipinos also love those who are humble ... so whnevr you try to speak to a filipino, be humble, use polite words and respect is very important....
hope this helps.....
2006-12-14 11:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by dong ai rui 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You wrote people were nice to you then you should appreciate that.Maybe get to know your relatives better and try to learn Tagalog they would appreciate that.
Then maybe consider going back to the Philippines to meet them again.
2006-12-13 06:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by john f 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tequila Mike i couldn't put it better thumbs up for you mate .
2006-12-15 00:22:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
When are you coming back???
Do email me....... i will give you the best hospitality Filipinos have......and i will not make bola with you... i am a real person... a proud to be one...... and i am proud of my countries origin and place..... you are welcome to our home..... all the time.... visit philippines again and i will take you BORACAY!!!!
2006-12-13 12:45:44 · answer #8 · answered by bugi 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
This is not an answer because I already answered your previous questions dimilar to this one.
I'd like to know whats the matter with ASHER. who is he/she? what is the issue with him?
2006-12-13 12:04:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
don't worry!!! philippines doesn't hate u... they like YOU!!! :D ahahha... especially if you are sum1 hu's from another country cuz they're gonna like you over there!!! =]
2006-12-13 09:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by trygvemarck02 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋