My goodness how can people be so vocal and adament about what they want the sex of a child to be!?!?!?!?!?!? You get what you get and that's it! Any living healthy child is a miracle!!!! Even if they aren't healthy they are miraculous!!! I understand that you might lean one way or the other, but GEESH!! To say before you are even pregnant to say "hopefully a boy"!??!?!? You people should talk to couples who can't have children and ask them if they'd care what they got!!! Or ask couples who have a sick baby if the sex makes a difference! Mean people, you sex choosers, you!!!!!!
2006-12-13 05:10:52 · 21 answers · asked by In Luv w/ 2 B, 1 G + 1 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I agree 100%. ask anyone who has ever lost a child or has a child that has special needs. we don't care what sex our child is as long as he or she is healthy!!!!! I lost my first and when I found out that I was pregnant the 2nd time I couldn't have given a rats behind whether I had a boy or a girl as long as this child made it into the world!! I now have a 4 month old beautiful healthy baby boy!!!!
2006-12-13 05:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting a certain gender of a child as long as when you have the opposite of what you want you dont act like its the end of the world or treat that child differently. Every person has a certain idea of what gender they want their child to be, but it doesnt make them bad people or any less deserving of a child.
I struggled with infertility for 3 years and had 4 miscarriages and still was hoping that if we got pregnant it would be a boy. We got pregnant and had a girl and I was thrilled...does that make me less deserving of my daughter?? I
I think you should choose your wording more carefully...NEVER tell anyone they dont deserve children over something as petty as wanting a certain gender.
2006-12-13 13:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by alexis73102 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So...just because there are people who cannot have babies, people who can shouldn't hope for a sex?
That is horrible. I feel bad for people who cannot have children. Really, I do but does that mean I cannot enjoy being pregnant? Does that mean I can't want a boy or girl?
I think it's more selfish of someone to complain about the happiness of others just because they cannot be happy!
2006-12-13 13:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by .vato. 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I completly agree with you. I am pregnant with twin boys after two years of infertility, and I have a four year old son. I have a friend who told me I needed to have my tubes tied because I have all boys. She is also pregnant, and is so terrified of having a boy she's a mess. I am incredibly grateful for the healthy children I am having, regardless of gender, I cannot believe people who think it is their "poor luck" when they don't have a child of the sex they want. People should be grateful to be given the opportunity to care for and protect something as divine as a human life.
2006-12-13 13:38:53 · answer #4 · answered by moonbrook1985 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to say someone doesn't deserve the blessing because they would hope the baby was one sex over the other isn't correct either though. i would like my next child to be a girl even though i already have a daughter, but with most people they all say that a baby is a baby is a baby and either sex is equally rewarding and even if i have a boy next time; my only prayer is that hes healthy and grows up to be an upstanding, caring, loving person.
2006-12-13 13:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
WOW. so angry. Its OK to want a boy or a girl. But when the time comes most people are just glad to have a happy healthy baby. With my first I really wanted a boy first then girls so the girls would have a big brother to look out for them. But just because it did not work out that way does not mean I love my girls any less.
2006-12-13 13:23:02 · answer #6 · answered by ohiomontana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my case it will ALWAYS be "hopefully a boy".
Why? I will bring no child into the world I don't love... and I'd hate to see someone I love suffer.
Between my husband & I, there are a number of sex-linked problems we stand to pass on to a girl (or at least have her be carrier for) which a son will not inherit.
Plus, a son cannnot get my endometriosis. (Lacking a uterus, you konw.)
If the child I'm carrying now is a girl (and I think it might be), I will be extatic to hold her and love her. And I'll have a little sick dread in my stomach about what she's likely to face as she grows up, and hope she has the strength to deal with it.
2006-12-13 13:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by Katherine Blackthorne 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are overreacting. If they were saying that if they found out it was the "wrong" gender, they would abort it, as often happens in eastern countries (did you know that in Bombay, India, out of a survey of 4000 abortions, 3,999 were girls, and 1 was a boy?...interesting, huh?)--that would be very wrong.
But I don't think there is anything wrong with wanting to have one gender or another. My husband and I have a four-moth-old boy, and we plan on trying for another baby in a few years, and I would love to have a little girl. However, if I were to get pregnant with a boy, I would be just as ecstatic, and love him just as much as if it were a girl--as I suspect the people you are attacking would their own child.
2006-12-13 14:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is some angry words. I totally agree with you though! I just never went on about it. Children are miracles regardless of there gender, sick or healthy. Love them all the same!
2006-12-13 13:14:12 · answer #9 · answered by cliffhanger 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I hoped and prayed for a little girl. I always wanted a girl. My husband wanted a girl. Thankfully we had our little girl! Would we have dumped a little boy off at the dump had we had one??? Of course not!
When somebody gets pregnant one of the first questions they get asked is "what are you hoping for?" So get over yourself- Just about EVERYBODY has a preference if the voice it or not.
2006-12-13 15:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋