She has taught kindergarten for 20 years now and faces racism on a daily basis by parents and even the administration. One parent who is 19 and has a 5 year old son took a key and scraped "White B****" on the side of her car, this lady is being charged for a hate crime, 4 ministers haave come to her aide believe it or not. My wife loves children NO matter what color they are, this year alone she has purchased with her own money 6 winter coats, hats gloves etc..because their parents won't. At the beginning of this year a parent walked out of her class room (1st day of school) yelling NO WHITE B**** will teach my child. The children (5 years old) always tell her how bad white people are...my wife explains that not all white people are bad (5 year olds don't know she's white) she explains that she is white...these children actually comfort her and tell her that she's NOT white...your just light skinned, try to comfort her.
These children are taught to hate from birth.
2006-12-13 05:10:08 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
She bought a coat for one child 2 weeks ago, the mother called her and asked her to return the coat for another sports team on the coat, she would prefer another team (NOT once did she thank my wife) so she returned the coat and got the team she wanted...a week later the child didn't have the coat...we found out she sold the coat to another child's mother. The administration is ZERO help, they are nearly all black and the princible is a bigot and a racist as well (that's a story you wouldn't believe what a racist pig he is against white people)
What would you do?
2006-12-13 05:13:54 · update #1
Dana...but WHY do they teach them to HATE...it's like the black KKK version
2006-12-13 05:17:57 · update #2
that is horrible and if i were her, i would leave because she should not be subjected to that kind of cr@p. i think the young black mothers are not raising their kids right because they are too young to really know about life. however, i am a 31 year old black woman and my daughter is 5 years old and my husband and i would never allow our daughter to act up or say racial cr@p to anyone of any kind.
and another thing is that most blacks are not taught to hate anyone but they see so much racism pointed towards them that have to defend themselves by giving the racism back.
i don't think white people really realize what blacks go through. i am so sick and tired of being stereotyped that i refuse to fall into any of those dumb stereotypical traits. i refuse to speak broken up english, i refuse to allow my daughter to speak broken up english, i refuse to die my hair blonde, i refuse to wear ghetto gear, i refuse to have gold teeth, i refuse not to have a career, and i refused to have child @ an early age and not be married. i believe i have overcome the stereotypes in a way, however that does not mean racism still does not occur both ways.
please tell your wife KEEP HER HEAD UP AND I ADMIRE HER FOR AT LEAST TRYING. DON'T WORRY HER REWARD IS NOT HERE ON EARTH IT WILL BE IN HEAVEN. GOD BLESS HER!!!!
2006-12-13 05:38:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
This is very sad. I feel very sorry for your wife. I also feel sorry for Dana A and her ignorance.
The truth is, no matter how much your wife wants to remain where she is, she probably isn't going to be able to make anything get any better. Even though it's almost 2007, racism is still VERY much alive and well. I don't know how long this has been going on, but chances are that your wife's best bet is to teach at another location where she doesn't have to deal with this type of racism.
Depending on where you live and what the need for teachers is around there, it may take a while, but I would suggest supporting your wife as much as you can, and see if she'd be willing to start looking for another teaching position at a different school.
2006-12-13 05:29:42 · answer #2 · answered by Mister 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm black and I know that decent black parents do not teach their children to hate. You wife has ended up teaching the worst of the bunch - kids with ignorant parents. Unfortunately, when hatred is that far gone, there is little that can change it. Your wife will never be able to please these parents no matter what she does. The parents will hate her just because she is being nice. The parents will think that your wife is looking down upon them (even thought they are being good parents).
These parents are just as bad as terrorist who teach their children to hate and kill. The truly bad part is that it is the innocent children who will suffer as they grow up and take on the ignorant habits of their parents. All your wife can do is teach positive things to her class in hopes that the children come away with something different; and report to the police any instances of vandalism. People should not be able to get away with that.
2006-12-13 05:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by truly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a very sad story, unbelievable and unfortunate. Children being hateful and parents being ungrateful. Children leaning hatred and racism. Wow! Is this a true story? I am really appalled and shocked by this. I think your wife should go to the media. No, not really. But to the administration above all of the schools. And she should place a letter for each teacher within their personal file, which follows them to each and every job, under there lisencure. Discussing their actions or lack of during these incidents. I am going to put your wife and family in my prayers. I pray this all works out for the good of God may he show love and mercy. Where is this at? What state, is this in the United States. Oh, may God show love and mercy on this situation. God bless****
2006-12-13 05:27:41 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your wife is teaching children of parents who were taught to fear and distrust white people, much like you know some white people who hate blacks because on TV we are seen as gangsta rappers, hoes and jail birds.
The first thing your wife needs to do is some general research into race relations in America, then break down what she learns into a format to teach small children. Its gonna be up to her to teach tolerance and FORGIVENESS to the kids, YES, there are not so nice things whites have done in the past that she should address, acknowledge and move forward from.
She may want to look into more cultural teachings, not only black Americans had it bad and these kids are not only being taught to hate whites but to insulate themselves from other cultures and learning how other oppressed people made it through.
As for the parents, well, maybe the kids will show them the way.
She has a lot to deal with. These kids attitudes started with great grandma who learned it from abuse in the south and North in the early 20th century and its been passed down like hatred in the klan to the point where whole neighborhoods are blinded.
Your wife need to be the light...we all need to be the light because this is a black problem on the surface but is really an AMERICAN problem underneath.
2006-12-13 05:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
It's no different than any racist ideology. Blacks are just as guilty as whites and other races, as well. It's hard working in an inner city school. My mother taught in a rough school for years and had the same types of ignorant parents threatening her and calling her stuck up and B***'s too.
People are just ignorant sometimes in the inner cities. It's a vicous cycle that doesn't seem to getting any better. It's sad for the children, though. They tend to pay for the hatred of adults.
All I can say is for her to not give up on these children. IT's the adults who are the morons. Children are taught negative characteristics by the adults in their lives so it's up to your wife to instill in them some morals and values. Otherwise, the cycle will continue.
Millions of whites are doing this very thing all over the world, as well as blacks. IT's up to the good people to fight to change the negativity in this world, even if we get called a few names in the process. In the end, it's all for the better good.
2006-12-13 05:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by 11:11 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I respect your wife for staying as long as she has. She is doing a lot of good for those children, and may be helping to break the cycle of racism. However, one person can only do so much. With 20 years experience, she'd surely be able to get a job in a school without so much hatred. If she likes working with black children, she might try a private and/or parochial school in a predominately African American neighborhood.
2006-12-13 05:20:46 · answer #7 · answered by Nicole B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My children go to a school that is racially mixed. One black student said that white students didn't belong in this school and should be stabbed with a pencil!!! If he was white he would have been in a lot of trouble. Black people use the "n" word all time and it's ok but they act insulted if a white person says it. Give me a break!!
2006-12-13 05:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by briandjoesmom 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What your wife faces is truly a challenge. If I was her after this year I would not go back to this school. These people always want things handed to them on a silver platter and not work for it. These people the more you try to get along with them the more they turn you against them. Finally I just said it is time for me to move on and try to deal with these people as little as possible.
2006-12-13 05:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rooster 1972 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your question proves that racism comes in all colors. At some point, I think your wife is going to have to pick her battles. This does not seem to be a situation that is getting any better. I think she should look at all her options and maybe try a different direction.
2006-12-13 05:19:21 · answer #10 · answered by clarity 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋