i need help please well i am 25 weeks pregnant and i had a car wreck like 2 weeks ago and the doctors said everything was ok but i aslo stress out a lot. and well my grandpa passed away this weekend and my boyfriend and the father of my child also cheated on me and i am now in the hospital crying and having contractins and i dont know how to stop. what should i so?? i want to leave my boyfriend but i dont want to do this alone and i dont want my baby not to have a father. what do i do?? i talked to the girl he cheated on me with already but i didnt yell at her b/c i was more concerned about her b/c my boyfrined gave me hpv and they didnt use a condom and so now she has it but she was just a ***** and didnt believe me cuz he already denied it i dunno i am just really stressed and it is to early for my baby to come and i dont know what to do about the father. all i do is cry i am hurt real babd we have been together for 2 years and i love him still could i get some advice?
2006-12-13 05:08:13 · 21 answers · asked by Bree 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Girl you need to just take one thing at a time..the stress is what is going to make you have this baby early..take a deep breath and try and focus on you and your baby..don't worry about every thing else...morn your grandfather but don't let it consume you..and LEAVE ur bf...you have family like your parents and aunt and uncles to help you even a close friend can help you with the baby....trust me not all is lost...you need to RELAX..feel free to contact me..i like to help and talk to people...:-) i have my ims open and my e mail is on my profile
2006-12-13 05:14:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety....your better off without him! Your baby will have a father...whether your with him or not, he'll still be dad. Whether or not he "steps up" an IS dad may be another question. He doesn't love you, if he did...he wouldn't cheat on you! You need to focus your life on good surroundings...good people...find a support group that you can be a part of...you need to do everything in you power to be positive for your baby! Losing your Grandpa is hard..I know....been there...but look at the positive. Your grandpa is in a better place...he's happy, he's not suffering.....and the last thing he'd want you to do is stress over his passing. Look to God....and maybe even to your local Church for some free counseling, and how to deal with grief. As for the loser boyfriend.....as I said..You don't need him...You're better than that...You can find someone who will love you with all their heart...be faithful and honest...and treat you and your child like a LADY deserves to be treated! Lots of prayer lil lady! Hang in there...it's not the end of the world....you've got a lot of life ahead of you....Live Happy, Live well!
2006-12-13 05:16:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For you unfortunetley if you dont have family support behind, you it may be better for you to Dump the man and give your baby up so he or she can have a healthy non stressfull childhood.
I have this problem occasionally at 26 weeks now and my stomach hurts like crazy but my hormones level out I stop crying and I am fine. You are just adding piles of more stress on top of you that you cant seem to bury out of. You need counceling to help talk out your problems and if you were in the hospital they would have already given you a sedative to help you calm down.
I am not sure exactley what they could give a pregnant person for anxiety but I suggest getting something.
2006-12-13 05:16:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're now in the hospital but online asking questions? I do agree that you sound too young to be a mother, but that's kind of beside the main point right now. I also agree that your bf sounds like a real piece of work and not having him as an influence in your child's life would be a better option than having him around. men don't change over night, and he's not likely to be settled into monogamy and fatherhood in 15 more weeks. Focus on yourself and the health of your child and let the bf go where he pleases, don't let him drag you down too.
2006-12-13 05:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by desiderio 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to try and be strong because of your unborn child. Quit worrying as that is really bad on baby and yourself. sounds like the father of your unborn is a complete idiot. He's not worth the effort. But make sure he helps money wise for the baby. Sorry about your grandfather as its so bad when someone dies. Good luck and hope everything gets better for you and you have a fine healthy child.
2006-12-13 05:16:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bryangarita: you have been reported.
Honey, you need to let go of the father. He is obviously not what you or your child need right now. Women take care of children on their own all the time, you don't have to have a man! And if you feel like you really can't do it on your own...either ask family to help, or consider adoption. The best thing for you to do right now is to relax, forget about your ex and focus on your baby. You say you are in the hospital...ask for some funny movies to watch, or fun baby books and magazines to read.
2006-12-13 05:27:01 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first want to apologize for the guy that said, "have you thought of suicide". I am so sorry that your grandpa passed away, and am equally sorry that your bf is cheating on you. I dont know how old you are, but you sound very young- consider placing your child for adoption- it would be the best for you and the baby. Do not give up- you are not alone- God created that child you are carrying, and He created and loves you. Do you have support from your family?
2006-12-13 05:15:47 · answer #7 · answered by AdoreHim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are in a tough spot...one of my good friends had her boyfriend cheat on her all throughout her pregnancy and off and on...She was very full of stress...You really need to calm down and think about the safety of your baby inside of you though...The most important thing in your life is you and your child...I realize you might not want to deliver alone....but wouldn't you rather know that yoru baby is only being surrounded by people who care about her...Try to forget him and the other girl and focus on whats best for your baby...I'm sure you want the best for your baby...and you don't need a dad who would cause stress like that right before you might be giving birth...Call onto a friend or family members...someoen from church....just one person who can be a positive influence for you and your baby...Goodluck...Relax and just think about keeping the baby as healthy as possible
2006-12-13 05:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by mrsfornkohl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u sound really really young and really really immature because not once did i hear any concern about your unborn child. that is where ur thoughts should be if u are in the hospital at 25 weeks having contractions. and if all of this is really going on, i wouldnt even continue calling him my boyfriend. u need to worry about u and your baby and leave all the other nonsense alone because u dont even matter anymore. u need to make all decisions based on whats best for your child.
all though i doubt that this post is true, i hope u wise up and start making smart moves in ur life.
2006-12-13 05:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by Nina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are truly worried about your baby, You WILL stop obsessing about your boyfriend. F him and whatever he's done. This is about keeping your child healthy. I'm sorry to hear about your grandfather and the car accident, but trust me your grandfather wouldn't want you to lose your baby over his death.
As for the BF if he was truly worthy, he wouldn't be doing this stuff to you in your condition, therefore isn't worth your time and worry.
There is no better time than now to practice prioritizing your feelings, discarding the bad and relishing in the good.
2006-12-13 05:16:56 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋