I have been dating a married man for about two months, its been really good for us both, as it just happened and we followed our feelings, however last week everything was okay then he came over to my house which he organised to do and we were fine and we were about to have our first sexual experience together and he stopped. He kept saying he really wants this, but he can't as its playing on his mind, then left without any explanation other than saying Sorry. I feel so bad, I have spent the last 7 days absolutely depressed that he has now walk away from me without the respect of just talking to me. I will be seeing him next week on a business lunch, and I want to say something to him to try and close all of this, but im not sure if it will make me feel even worse than i do, but I want some answers from him, to why he instigated, chased me only to walk away from me. I have told him i respect him for his decision, but I feel so sad.
2006-12-13 04:55:04 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow don't you just love how people are putting the blame on you... What about him he was married, he is the one who broke his wedding vows, true you didn't help matters but still. It hurts when someone you believe betrays you. Just take it as a lesson learned, I wouldn't meert with im for lunch I would keep myself busy so I don't have to think about him. Just pretend as if it never happened. As hard as that is to do he walked away now that is what you have to do.
2006-12-13 05:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by his wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is like a hard job that pays well. If you put a lot into it, it goes well and it is fun. If you goof off, people get angry with you - and you risk getting fired. You are RIGHT about the sex part being hard. However after 20 years I like sex with my wife as much as ever. We just do it a little less often than in the beginning. The first ten years we average maybe 5 times a week. Now 2 times a week. But each time is good to great. I think for her also - I sure try to make it that way. Never cheated. Hopefully :) :) never will. 1. Marry someone you are attracted to or sex will be something you avoid and you will both be miserable. 2. Stay in shape/stay in shape/etc. Or find a guy who doesn't mind overweight women. And there are many guys like that. However - sorry for this but it is true - most better educated/higher income guys do not like heavy women. Don't know why that is just the way it is. 3. Marry someone who is adventurous and fun and ideally funny. Lets face it those factors are part of the bedroom experience. 4. Marry someone who makes an effort to bring you to cl***x every time. Some people end up in sexless marriages - if that happened to me I would either have open affairs - I would not hide affairs if my wife would not sleep with me - or get divorce. How some men live without sex is a mystery to me.
2016-05-23 18:50:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you mean he did not respect you?Did you respect that man's wife...Any stupid person who gets involved with a married man, take that risk of getting hurt.....You are hurt, how does this man's wife feels and how have you impacted this man's family....You need to feel horrible for participating in a stupid relationship...The only reason he started cheating because something he does not want to talk to his wife about, or you was being a trick and prancing and kept coming on to him.....I hope you don't think you are going to get any symphathy from any of us wives...You need to hurt....Don't you know "What comes around, goes around" and yours' just came back faster...You just need to leave this mess alone...I am glad he could not get up for you as he should be hurting as well as you stupid a** girls, not women go out there and mess with another woman's husband, why, no one else wants you....
You need to feel really bad....Also, remember, you will be judged for this wrongdoing and all the other nasty a** things you have been doing when you face GOD...I guess you will bust hell wide open.......
2006-12-13 06:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why on earth would you want a married man??? Has it ever occurred to you that you are inheriting someone elses baggage?
This idiot of a man is going through mid-life crisis better termed in my country as penopause! You madam are playing with fire and I am glad he came to his senses. Did you ever think you were the answer to his problems which would only become yours to have and to hold from this day forth. Run away from this. Hes not worth it! He is married.
Can you bear being tied to a man whose money has to go to his ex wife and children so they can live. Month after month! With odd calls from kids (who hate you because you took their dad away), rude to you and probably wishing you dead. Then there is the wife who having sacrificed most of her life to support this man
doing his washing and ironing and feeding him creating exquisite meals deserves this behaviour from her man! Did it ever occur to you that you are breaking the hearts of everyone in his home, destroying the family unit. Did you ever think that he might just do the same with you when you get a bit older and you bore him! He did it once but the 2nd time is easier.
Grow up and stop being foolish. Do you really think you can build a future on someone elses misery.
2006-12-13 05:17:11 · answer #4 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all the man is MARRIED!!! usually in these situation the other person hardly ever leave their spouse. It seems as though u have had feelings for this person for a while. u can't expect him to give u a reason &/or anything else to that matter because u already no the answer. just be glad that it didn't lead to anything else. go off and shead your tears and forget about it. think of his family... what if the shoe was on the other foot...
2006-12-13 05:16:11 · answer #5 · answered by 2b-nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you look at your self in the mirror? Thank god hes smart enough to realize the error of his ways. People like you have no respect for commitment and no value for love so you dont deserve to have it in my opinion.
Sadly he is more at fault as you didnt make the commitment but in my opinion your morally bankrupt to begin with. If you ever experienced being cheated on and having your heart splintered you would feel like a worm right now.
Merry Christmas.
2006-12-13 05:07:11 · answer #6 · answered by chcknbizkit 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you expect you are wrong for trying to lure a married man anyway so in every sense of the word you got what you deserved . Is he the first married man you have tried to get ? something tells me no that you have done this before . Shame on you and your alley cat morals. I am so glad my husband is in love with me and would and could not stand a woman like you.And kudoos to him maybe he knew his family was worth more than a role in the hay with you.
2006-12-13 05:42:03 · answer #7 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do not deserve any explanation. It seems clear to me.
He was tempted, you were willing to cheat with him, he had second thoughts and bailed.
My advice is if you don't want to feel like a cheater, if you want a guy to treat you like Number one woman then stop messing with married men and go for someone available.
So suck it up, respect his decision, and respect yourself enough to stay out of such situations in the future.
2006-12-13 05:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm someone who's husband cheated on them. I always wondered what kind of woman would do that? We have a three year old daughter who I have to try and explain things as nicely and comfortable for her as I can and keep my sanity together around her. I feel so torn up inside over all this. People like YOU should not exsist. At least he did the right thing.
2006-12-13 05:05:01 · answer #9 · answered by fairiesinstars 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What go around come back around just think if it was you married and your husband went out on you .How would you feel you not only hurting his wife but his kids two. I just fount out my hubby been cheating and it end up hurting my whole family. I know it take two but you know as well he is a married man
2006-12-13 05:08:56 · answer #10 · answered by Belivia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋