my husband never has, and doesn't even say happy birthday, but yet I go all out for his. Am I acting childish?
2006-12-13 04:39:52 · 26 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No and No. We do not exchange birthday presents here either. Your not childish for being disappointed. If this bothers you then you should say so. A gift is not nessesary but sometimes it helps us feel loved, if he is unwilling to celebrate your birthday then you shouldnt celebrate his either, maybe when his b-day rolls around and he doesnt get a gift, he will think better about yours. Also men can be just as vain as us, in my case my hubby wants no part of getting older. His b-day was two weeks ago he turned 28 (2 from 30) and about had a melt down about me even mentioning his b-day. Another thing, guys tend to forget dates more than women. Maybe he is not remembering the date??
2006-12-13 04:43:53 · answer #1 · answered by Chasity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and teenage children forgot my birthday this year until 7:30 pm when my father called to wish me Happy Birthday. She felt awful she had never forgotten before.
You are not acting childish. Your hubby at least owes you a present and attention on your birthday. "All out" I think is a bit much, but I think you can have complete rights for whatever for dinner and whatever you do that day, within intelligent reason.
2006-12-13 04:47:02 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If he knows birthdays are important to you, he should get you something (even if it's just flowers or a box of candy or a bunch of balloons). Some men don't care about gifts, though, and need a nudge. I would tell him that birthday gifts are important to you and if he wants to make you happy he will get you some gold hoop earrings you saw at _______ store recently. (If he makes a mistake, though, and brings the wrong ones, tell him they are PERFECT and that you love them and thank you, otherwise he'll never try again. You have to give men positive reinforcement, not whine about how inept they are, you know.) If you still don't get a gift after reminding him of your birthday and telling him what to get, then your guy isn't very committed to his marriage. Maybe he needs you to drag him to the mall so you can pick out your gift. (Most men hate the mall and would buy a gift themselves before spending an afternoon in the mall with you.) Hahaha. Good luck
2006-12-13 04:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you are overreacting. its not a lot to ask that someone remember an important date once a year, if only to make it feel special for you. i know the feeling, my bf of 9 years usually forgets my b-day. i know he doesn't do it intentionally but it hurts me that he doesn't put much effort in to remembering. i would say if he has always been like that, then you know what you are in for, its not like he suddenly lost interest in you. however i think its also fair to ask him to come up with a method that will remind him the date is approaching. i think if you told him how you truly feel then it would make a difference. often times these guys have no idea how sensitive some things are for us and they need to hear it. you could also take the initiative and plan something over the top for yourself like a day at the Spa and tell him he's paying for it 'cuz you already decided what his gift to you will be!
2006-12-13 04:48:29 · answer #4 · answered by cami 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband always has given me better gifts. I intend to get him better gifts in the future than the ones I have. Some people are just not creative or attentive when it comes to birthdays. He has other qualities, so focus on those.
2006-12-13 05:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I do not exchange gifts. We decide if we want to go somewhere or purchase a big item and spend our money that way. We do celebrate birthdays and holidays by having dinner out or something but we neither one have ever been big on gift exchanging. It works for us. If you want your husband to get you presents, tell him.
2006-12-13 04:44:06 · answer #6 · answered by SKYDOGSLIM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no you are not. i would be upset if i did not get anything. i am not married, but my bf always gets me something. it is not always about the gift i would be happy with a card.
the fact that he does not even say happy birthday, i think is rude
you should try doing it to him. i know that will be hard because if you are like me you don't want him to be sad or disappointed even though you are. try it and see what he does. also you could bring home flowers or something like that you bought yourself and tell him that someone else did. go on and on about how nice soandso is until it makes him think.
2006-12-13 04:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by mel2430 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course my husband buys me something. Not only that but he spends the entire day with me doing whatever I want to do. He takes me out to dinner and for drinks that evening if I want. I would stop making any thing out of his birthday if he doesn't acknowledge yours. Its not fair.
2006-12-13 04:43:26 · answer #8 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes..... But last year I was so depressed with the gifts she was buying since they were more for her and not me I told her not to buy me a birthday present....
I already got my christmas gift and I love it.... I did help her a lot....
2006-12-13 04:44:30 · answer #9 · answered by JohnS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never...like yours he doesn't even say Happy Birthday.
He used to get me presents before we got married though.
I stopped getting him presents too...but I on his birthday he just gets a cake and a long night of sex.
I thik you shouldn't give much thought to his gift anymore.
2006-12-13 05:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋