Relationship Problem?

Question

I need help, I am currently involved but breaking it off, with a girl who has cheated on me 7 times in the span of 2 and a half years, I love her to death but there is absolutely no trust there anymore and I can't believe a word that comes out of her mouth. But I'm having so much trouble breaking it off, everytime I go to do it I always feel lost, and very empty and it's hard... I always told myself she was the one... and to face reality I'm scared of being alone after this, like no one will want me and that this in the end will be a mistake.... WHAT DO I DO?!?!?!

Answer 1

You are right..once the trust is gone there is nothing left.
Why would you want to put your energy and love in to a woman
that has no regard for you or respects you and your relationship.
dump her! then work on improving your own self-worth.
You deserve better!

Answer 2

Trust your gut and carry out your intentions to terminate this relationship. Maybe it would be easier to do this gradually. You could start putting distance between you...have more nights when you go out with your friends (without her), don't call so often or accept her calls, develop new interests (w/o her), make a plan for when you have broken up. Keep going in the direction you want to head--I think you're doing the right thing. There will still be pain following the seperation....and the journey you'll be on to learn how to be independent (and learn to love yourself) will have some difficult parts. But you need to learn how to be a solo act at some point in your life anyway....and when you do you'll be that much better of a partner for the right girl. So, do it! Good Luck

Answer 3

I know you've heard it before, but time is a healer.
You MUST break it off with her. I truly believe that once the trust in your relationship has been broken, there is no repairing it. The damage has been done. You are always going to feel suspicious and anxious, why would you want to put yourself through so much stress?
Sounds like you're in a comfort zone right now, and you're scared to death to be alone.
I understand TOTALLY!
As time passes, you will begin to discover things about you that you had no idea about. You'll grow, and then someday down the track I'm sure you'll find someone who will give you the love and respect that you truly deserve.
You need to command respect. Staying with this girl, is not commanding respect. You need to step up to the plate and put you first!

Goodluck to you.
:-)

Answer 4

Well, she has made it plain that she is not going to be true to you. So unless you want to live with that type of relationship, I would say you are just going to have to bite the bullet are break it off. I know that you have feelings for her and you will feel bad and miss her for awhile, but it does not sound like she feels the same way about you. You won't find another girl tomorrow, or even next week. But sooner or later a woman will come along that is looking for the same things that you are in a relationship.

Answer 5

If you are not ready to break up with her ask yourself if you are willing to take all her lies...what if she cheats on you again?? Can you handle that?
Personally I think that she does not deserve you, if she cheated on you so many times its obvious that she doesnt care for you....if she cared about you she would do that sort of thing to you. Maybe once its okay you can get over it we all make mistakes but dude come on 7 times???
There must be something that you provide for her and that is the reason why she is with you I am not trying to be mean but sounds to me like she wants to keep you so that you provide for her.
Now, if you fear being alone after this then take her crap. I am sure that there is someone out there for you who will appreciate what you do and will appreciate you for who you are!!

Answer 6

well if u cannot trust her u should just do it i know it will hurt but u will get over it i went through the same thing and every once in a while u will get to thinking about her and then u will feel sort of bad but then u will think of your current relationship or if u r not in a relationship u will think of how much better u feel and how much more confident u feel now that u can trust the people around u to tell u the truth without worrying if they r lying good luck i hope everything works out for u

Answer 7

Break it off with her. As scary as it may be - you'll never have the opportunity to meet a girl who loves you with her heart and soul, respects you, laughs at your lame jokes and is 100% faithful to you if you continue to stay with someone who doesn't.
If this chick has cheated on you she doesn't love you or respect you.
I'm sorry you're hurt - but the sooner you distance yourself from this nightmare of a girlfriend the better. You deserve better.

I broke it off with a guy and had the same fears - that no one would want me. Funny thing was - after I broke up with him I poured all of that energy into making me a better person. I worked out, ate better, read about healthy relationships and enjoyed my own company. Then I met someone. Someone I knew would love me as much as I loved me and would make me 1000 times happier than that old boyfriend. After six months I have come to realize that this new guy is my Prince Charming - my everything I have always wanted. The person I was meant to be with. Don't settle - there is someone out there who wants nothing more than to have someone like you.

Answer 8

Hey man honestly!. There are plenty of fish in the water!, would u rather stay with her and have no trust having to be hurt countless times!. Having to know she is cheating on u!.. i mean 7 times!!. She is playing u for a sap buddy!. Do u think she cares about u as much as u do. I don't think so!!. Just break it off bro!! it's only in your best interest man.

Answer 9

Be as honest with this girl as possible and let her know how your feelings of trust have left the relationship and that you have been hurt too many times in this relationship for it to continue. Certainly you'll need time to grieve the loss of this girlfriend, but trust me when I say that you will not be alone as someone else will come into your life to fill that void when the time is right.

Answer 10

Dude you need to break up with her!!!!!....i know you love her but she doesnt love you. If she willing to cheat on you 7 times, she got other things on her mind. I know your scared of being alone, alot of people are worried about being alone. But you cant think that way, when someone is going to treat you like ****. She cheated on you and she is always going to cheat on you. Do you really want to be with someone that going to take advatage of you and use you. Do you want someone that will walk all over you and do whatever they feel like without caring about ur feelings. You need to end this realtionship ASAP.....When you feel nervous or doubtful, just think about all the guys she *ucked and how you are being treated like you were stupid. You are doing the right thing ..break it off and you will find somebody that will love you for you, and you cant think negative that you wont, or you are going to never find somebody, You will find somebody and you will be happyier.

Answer 11

Do you really think this girl is the only one on the planet who would want you? C'mon. Give your head a shake.

You're doing the right thing by breaking it off with her. She's proven that she's ill-intended.

Trust me, there will be other women. Join a site like www.plentyoffish.com. It's entirely free and I guarantee you, you will find someone else (probably several 'someone else's'). You deserve better...now, go get it.