People, I have this problem that makes me look super-lame. I'm not able to defend myself. Let me be Right or Wrong, I just cant defend myself. I make myself look like a c*nt in front of people due to this inability. This is happening to me everywer and in front of almost everybody.
What do I do?
How do I correct this problem of mine?
2006-12-13 04:19:56 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think I'm low on confidence. Wat shud I do?
2006-12-13 04:31:58 · update #1
Grow some balls!
2006-12-13 04:23:36 · answer #1 · answered by GiGi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not super-lame. You are just being yourself.
Have faith and trust in yourself. You are just shy. I was for a long time, even after I got married took me a long lime before I would stand up for myself, always hid behind my husband. Some people use to tell him he married a nerd.
Don't worry about it, as you get older you will get more confidence into yourself....
2006-12-13 12:27:55 · answer #2 · answered by Angell 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont alllow people to make you look stupid! You need to toughen up and stand up for yourself. i know its easily said than done- but people will take advantage. Many years ago when i was younger (35 now), i used to let people walk all over me and talk down to me- now i speak my mind and i dont give a fck if i upset people now. If people treat me with respect they get it back, if not i can make their lives pretty miserable.
Just speak your mind and say whats in your head-fck it if u upset anybody! they should be nicer to you.
Take care ok
2006-12-13 14:25:23 · answer #3 · answered by Little Minx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't do it by yourself my advice is to adapt another role. Stop being yourself (I mean if you're really non-comfortable of who you are) Let behind that part of you that is so vulnerable. Pretend to be that person you want, if you act many times it would become a real part of your personality.
If by being you doesn't work, just be someone else!!
2006-12-13 12:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by Nathaly S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop putting your down, u r not a c*nt u r a human be ur self and make stimulating conversation with motivating and positive people so if u do make a mistake u wont feel bad they will only encourage u.peace and good luck.
2006-12-13 12:25:43 · answer #5 · answered by vee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to defend yourself! What is it that you are so afraid of? Think about this: Is your worst fear about what would happen if you defend yourself as bad as what will happen if you don't? I doubt it. You need to take up for yourself, no matter what happens it won't be as bad as if you don't.
2006-12-13 12:25:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dianna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karate
2006-12-13 12:23:38 · answer #7 · answered by The Pope 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell the ppl, back off, ***hole. train urself. get a friend 2 b the bully, and force urself 2 fight him/her. or just say, 'ur not worth my time dipwad' and walk away. sry if i seem insensitive but u need 2 BE insensitive to stand up 4 urself.
2006-12-13 12:23:29 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to check into taking an assertiveness class, or find a counselor who would be willing to work with you on that.
2006-12-13 12:24:57 · answer #9 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to start asking yourself why you believe in what you believe in. Once you are sure of yourself and what you believe you can defend those beliefs to anyone.
2006-12-13 12:23:34 · answer #10 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Defend yourself in what manner, physically, intellectually, emotionally? Give us more info so we can try to help you.
2006-12-13 12:24:47 · answer #11 · answered by leslie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋