racism in my own race?

Question

i am a 26 year old black female and i am 6 feet tall. i am very self confident and love myself. i model, act, sing and dance. i love to wear nice clothes and love take good care of myself and my family. i am a geniuinely good person and would do anything in my power to help any person who asks and needs help. what i dont get is why does it seem like the nicer i am, the worse certain people are to me? i love all people seriously. but i have noticed that the majority of black people i meet and come in contact with on a daily basis seem like they hate my damn guts. i try so hard to be nice and go out of my way to talk to them but i almost always get the same response. they just turn up their noses and some laugh in my face. i wear 3 inch heels alot and they laugh at my height, they laugh at how i talk, ask me why im trying to be white! how the hell do you try to be white? by using correct english? why do my own people hate me so?! i have never been asked out by a black guy either!!

Answer 1

It is jealousy. If they were in your position, which they wish they were, they would feel the same. Jealousy turns people into the most ugliest creatures. Ignore them and be secure with the person you are. You have probably not met a black MAN who is secure with himself to ask you out. Beauty, brains and inner strength are features recognized immediately which scare people who are weak. Hold you head up high and be proud of yourself and the things you have accomplished.
Keep up the good work.

Answer 2

You mentioned that you model, act, sing, and dance. Those are all things that typically require an audience. Maybe you tend to come across as a drama queen. Also, you are pretty tall, so that is automatically going to attract attention. You also said that you are very self confident, which might be mistaken as being cocky. You are probably just too overwhelming at first, and of course when someone is overwhelmed by something, their first instinct is to recoil. Therefore, they don't get to know you completely and have nothing left to do, but find fault in you. I have this problem also. What I have found helpful is instead of going out of my way to outshine people, which is totally appropriate in certain situations(ex. interviews, auditions, performances) I now go out of my way to be warm, or make it my goal to make people feel comfortable, not competitive, with me. Anyways, I wouldn't take it personal. I hope this helps!

Answer 3

Possibly you have your head so far up your own rear you dont really notice it!
OR maybe you should change the company you keep, and surroubd yourself with people who YOU consider on 'YOUR LEVEL". I myslef am an attractive, classy, well educated, pleasant "black" woman. But I've never HAD those problems. I can talk to everyone and everyone can talk to me. It seems that you may be a little to busy worrying about people liking you. If your proud of your height, WHY CARE that someone else is NOT. As I said above. Your head may be to BIG for itself. Therefore giving the opposite value of arrogance shown through in your energy!

Answer 4

i am also black, but i am short, i have long hair and i only wear bebe clothes. most of the black chics i know are simply jealous haters who do not have what i have so they hate me. i too am nice and will do anything for anybody. i also am well-spoken and often get accused of "talking white". don't let it bother you. keep being who you are and GOD will bless you and curse them. do not let anyone change who you are. it sounds like you are a great person so don't let people use you because you are nice. some people hate you and still wanna be your "friend" just to get what you have or destroy what you have. be nice to those that are nice to you and the others DO NOT GIVE THEM THE TIME OF DAY. and i know how you feel because most white guys ask me out too! GOTTA LOVE IT I DO!!!

Answer 5

Easy, they're racist.

Unless you act like they do, and degrade yourself, they feel inferior to you, so they act in a negative way to try and justify their own pitiful existence.

A few friends and co-workers of mine that had black skin faced this problem as well when we would go out for drinks after work. They were well educated, successful, and proud of who they were as people, so of course the black people that preferred to act like idiots and wanted all blacks to be segregated accused them of trying to be white as well.

Of course, there were some white co-workers that felt the same way about their own skin color and asked me why I would want to hang out with a black person. I would usually feign shock at their question, then pretend to get all upset and rant and rave because my black friends hadn't been honest with me up front and told me they were black from the start.

It was always good for a laugh, and laughing at those type of people is about all you really can do.

To be honest, I'm not a nice friendly person, and I'm as racist as the next person, I just don't limit my racist views to any one particular race, but rather to those individuals who bring it on themselves.

Try to seek out intelligent people, regardless of their skin color, and I'm sure you'll start to realize that the ones that are making fun of you really are as worthless and insecure as they appear to be.

Answer 6

That's a good point. Why do people think that just because I talk properly, I'm educated, or don't dress like some black people, that I'm trying to be white? They are probably are intimidated by you. Just ignore them, they aren't worth listening to. People have told me that I "talk white" too. One time last year, 2 friends of mine asked me why do I talk proper and white. Then this year, this one boy asked me "You're not fully black are you?". But don't change yourself for a group of people who just need to be educated.

Answer 7

I see that where I work. If a black person uses good English they are ridiculed by other blacks. Hate is a problem in every race. Other races accuse people of acting black or white. Sorry the world is like that.

Answer 8

IM WHITE AND I HAVE THE SAME PROBLEM. I WENT TO ALL BLACK SCHOOLS, HAVE ALL BLACK FRIENDS, HAVE A BLACK BOYFRIEND. I DONT TRY TO TALK A CERTAIN WAY TO IMPRESS ANYONE, BUT I EVEN TRY TO START A CONVERSTION IN A STORE LINE OR ANYWERE ELSE AND THEY JUST LOOK AT ME LIKE IM STUPID. WHEN MY BOYFRIEND IS WITH ME, ITS WAY WORSE. I GUESS ITS BECAUSE WE ARE A BIRACIAL COUPLE. ITS OK TO BE TALL AND CONFIDENT. I'LL TALK TO A TREE IF IT WOULD TALK BACK, I DONT CARE. I DONT UNDERSTAD WHY PEOPLE JUST CANT BE NICE TO ONE ANOTHER. IVE ALSO NEVER BEEN ASKED OUT BY ANY WHITE GUYS. IM GLAD I GREW UP WITH SUCH A DIVERSE BACKGROUND. I ACCEPT EVERYONE NO MATTER THE RACE. IM ITALIAN AND GERMAN, I HAVE COUSINS THAT ARE HISPANIC, ITALIAN, PUERTO RICAN, GERMAN, POLISH. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP GIRL, STAY TALL AND CONFIDENT. :)

Answer 9

Yes, I will have to say that it is jealousy also, especially if you are the "beautiful" and glamorous type and have intelligence. Instead of being proud of you or cheering you on, some people would rather criticize you and make you feel like you are not being "true" to yourself and your race. Jealous people will always spew hate every chance they get. All you can do is not let them get to you. If you are a polite and decent person, ignore them. They just want what you have.

Answer 10

They may be jealous of you dear. It sounds as if they may be ignorant about what it means to be "white." You sound like a successful person with a good head on her shoulders. Don't let ignorant people drag you down.