Would you stay for your three year old?
2006-12-13 04:01:56 · 22 answers · asked by fairiesinstars 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I found out when the woman called the house a couple days ago.....she told me everything because apparently he threatned to tell her husband...grrr....
2006-12-13 04:11:49 · update #1
If I do leave him, what do I tell her?
2006-12-13 04:17:14 · update #2
A lot depends on your husbands attitute. Is he willing to stop? Is he willing to do what it would take to gain back your trust? If the answer is 'no' then you need to move on for both you and your child. A counselor can help you talk to your kid about daddy. If you stay with him while he has extramarital affairs you hurting yourself and you will never feel like a happy person should feel.
2006-12-13 04:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by Cyber Stalker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to worry about STDs and once the respect and trust is gone, is that really a good invironment for a 3 yr. old to be brough up in? I think that if you do seperate from your husband, you will start dating but only expose your daughter to a man that you are serious about. You can each make a meaningful contribution in raising your child. It's emotionally hard, but once you gain your confidence and self esteem back, because I'm sure after what he has done it must be low, you will be fine. You will be happy again. There is someone out there ready to give you their undivided attention-don't settle for less. If you forgive him, just be careful with your body and health honey, because someone has to look out for you, and that is you.
2006-12-13 12:09:34 · answer #2 · answered by E! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know i have been in this situation before I just did not know it until after he left and everything happened to come out . At the time i had said I could stay together for our kids ,but we ended up splitting any ways .Now that i think about it i do not know if i could have or not I would always wonder if he was still doing it and i think it would have eventually made us crazy
2006-12-13 12:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by SAHM and proud of it 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a cheater always a cheater and plus you said he was going to tell her husband that tell you its getting serious plus your daughter is young so she probably wont be affected too much if she was older now you would have to deal with the 101 question but don't just put this on her do you really want to stay do you want to put up with this mess now that's the real question?
2006-12-13 12:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by smartypants 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear that I think once he cheat he would do it again i just fount out that husband was cheating again after 12 years together it's over now because he is going to keep on doing it. He never what to leave but i think he want his cake and eat it to. Good Luck on what every you do.
2006-12-13 13:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Belivia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey..Thats a very hard decision to make..My husband and I agreed that once we made the committment to each other that was it and no turning back. If he was cheating on me I would really have to dig down deep to forgive him that is only if he was truly sorry and wanted to make things work. If not it's not worth it. It would not be healthy to raise your child with that sort of relationship.You would be miserable and unhappy and that would effect your child. "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." (1 John 1:9) Hope this helps!!
2006-12-13 12:16:07 · answer #6 · answered by tifyxoxo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't stay just because of the child. Stay because you BOTH want to work it out. Because you love him and he is sorry about what he did. You can work on building the trust again. No, you never forget but you can forgive. If you don't work it out because you want to, then make plans to build a life on your own with your child. It is not fair to them to grow up in a household that is unhappy.
2006-12-13 12:14:33 · answer #7 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if your husband is steady cheating then no i would advice you to leave because if you stay only for the child then you and him will only start to hate each other and in return you both hurt the child and the child will have their own issues in their future relationships when older.but if it only happened once then try to work it out and try to do for you and not the child cause the child will be more happier with parents who respect each other in and out of the relationship.
2006-12-13 12:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is willing to end the affair go to marriage counsling then YES!! devorce is so hard on children and ofcourse. My husband & i spilt up when my girl was 3 and that was 2 yrs ago it is still terribly hard on her. I always recommend working it out if possible and I wish someone would of encouraged me to do the same just for the sake of the kids. I really wish you thee best and free to contact me if you need to talk
2006-12-13 12:08:59 · answer #9 · answered by wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!!!
If you're husband is cheating then he is obviously not thinking about your three-year-old. The best thing you can do for your child is be strong enough to do what is right for you.
2006-12-13 12:05:35 · answer #10 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋