Women only. Why does it upset you so much when your husband looks at porn?

Question

After all it's just pictures or is it?

Answer 1

Because you think that he doesn't find you attractive or sexy. And because of that, you think it would be easy for him to cheat on you if he found a woman that he thought looked like the women he finds so facinating. No woman likes the idea of their man lusting after another woman whether its just pictures or not.

Answer 2

I don't get upset by it at all. I even enjoy watching a porn movie with my husband. It gave us a chance to express ourselves with comfort. You know, when you want to "ask" for something in particular but you just don't know how. I am 43 years old and I am very comfortable in my own skin. Although I am mature I still feel like a little girl when I want to tell him things like, this feels good and that doesn't feel good...and so on. So watching and looking at porn gave us both the freedom to express ourselves through other sources, other then our own words.
However, when my husband started to "sneak" in different magazines and movies without my knowledge, that did upset me. Also, when I wasn't home, (I travel a lot on business) he would watch porn movies a lot, (and the only reason why I know is because he would leave the movie in the cd player or try to hide the magazines under the sink and such..) that upset me. It upset me because I thought it was "our" thing that "we" did together. Then it went to him trying to get me to look like some of those women. he would say things as such: "Try being a redhead one time". or "Where your hair this way". or "Put this on". I felt like I was losing my identity and losing the intimacy we shared together to those pictures in the magazine.
So I guess my answer to you is, it depends how the gentlemen uses the magazines and movies. Once it turns into a comparison thing, it is no longer fun, it hurts and makes you feel inadequate.
I hope this helped you?

Answer 3

I agree with you (and I am a woman, but I guess being French helps for that too...)
It is a question of being insecure or not. You have to realize that porn often shows a lot of things that your gfriend might not be and it will jeopardize her self confidence :
- women with perfect bodies, big boobs (if she has small ones, she's mad), nice asses (if she has a flat one, she's pissed), etc
- women who obviously (and I will say that really loud "OBVIOUSLY"...lol) have huge orgasms (if she can't reach that, she is now furious !)

So basically, it makes some women feel insecure or they also are afraid that you are not satisfied enough in your sexual relationship with them, which comes back to the same result anyway : insecurity !

So, talk to your girl, make her feel confortable that you are not looking for another woman and that, NO NO NO, you don't have the email address of that sexy girl in the last movie you watched (the blond one who was F...with 3 guys in a garage....LOL), make her feel beautiful and sure that everything is fine between you too, maybe she will understand better.

And i don't think that watching porn or reading porn mags is cheating at all, but this is just my opinion, I personnally don't care, I know that men have this need of visual excitement and this is the way they are, which doesn't mean they are bad or worse than women !!!

OK, so now, after reading all my long and boring answer, you are allowed to go get the DVD of "hot latinas swallow better" (ewwwww...lol)

Answer 4

Because it's like saying that your wife isn't good enough. Women get worried about men's expectations too. Models in porn are all skinny and beautiful and most wives (especially after having babies) aren't. It makes a woman wonder 'well if that's what he wants how can I possibly be enough?" Plus if she has stated objections to porn, no matte what her reasons, and he keeps doing it, it's a lack of respect for her and her feelings. It is just pictures, but it's also so much more than that. If he'll look at porn how do I know he's not imagining making love to one of them while it's really me? It makes women insecure to put in a nut shell.

Answer 5

Because, they change so much in the porn. The women on there are not natural. And any natural women looks totally different. Also it makes us feel like we arent sexy enough for you, and that you secretly wish we looked like what you see in the porn. If you want to get off, you should go to your women, not the computer. The fact that you would rather look at porn than us, is also depressing. Even if your women isnt enough to get you off, you should still let her think she is. If you TRUELY love her then it wouldnt matter what she looked like, her heart, and soul would be all the beuty you need to get off.

Answer 6

I dont think all women are that way, but I think the reason why they dont like it is because they feel that their husband might lost intrest in them by look at porn and it makes the wife feel bad about herself that maybe she isnt as pretty as she used to be by maybe gaining a little weight or maybe aging.

Answer 7

I personaly would rather have my husband watch porn than vistit a strip club. For one thing I would watch it with him it can be fun and for another it isnt really in front of you. I think its hard though for a lot of woman because the ladies in porn mag. always look so perfect and most woman are not perfect and It makes them feel bad about themselves and the fact that their man feels the need to cheat with his eyes. I concider going to a strip club close to cheating but porn is in....... Does that make sense? All it comes down to is if you really love the person you are with, you should respect the fact that porn may be out of the question. I sure wouldnt want to make my lover feel like their body isnt enough for me!

Answer 8

Because when it time to be with your wife/girlfriend, you are not nearly a performer... what you seen in porn.... get in bed and dont even last as long as the porn guys......then you sit there and fantasize about doing this to other women other than the one you with. you spend more time watching then performing its not fair to women ...who go and buy nice lingerie and to be rejected by their husbands/boyfriend...also, the husbands/boyfriend turns a fantasy to reality with some other chic...without the wife/girlfriend.

Answer 9

I never had that problem. My ex canceled the adult channel because he had me....why watch a movie when you can f-ck someone that looks as good and doesn't fake her orgasms? People who need porn need to really examine why they need it.....what are they lacking, emotion, sexuality, do they think their wife is a madonna and should do those things etc?

Answer 10

Is it really just pictures ?? From what men say as soon as they look at any women the next thought in their mind is how she would do in bed. So now take a completely naked women who has her snatch in your face. Do you see the problem ?