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I was valuing peoples opinion in my journey to whether or not that I should get a divorce because my wife is mean to me with no respect. she currently is in college and i know that she has allot to do, been there done that. anyways, she doesnt do anything around the house as far as cleaning goes. doesnt have time to make out the bills, and when i talk to her she is constantly in a bad mood. she doesnt want to talk to me on the phone and she never appreciates anything that i do. im stuck in a point in my life to where i think i need to find a girl that will appreciate me. what does it sound like to you that i should do?

2006-12-13 03:44:48 · 29 answers · asked by astone 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

29 answers

get out now before it's too late, you deserve someone to show you as much respect as you show them. Don't have kids with this women. Good luck

2006-12-13 03:47:09 · answer #1 · answered by jibjab1978 2 · 0 1

Well you say "been there done that" did you have a wife and a house at the same time, or did you only have yourself to worry about? Does she really have no time or is she lazy? She may just be stressed out! Mabey she doesnt like to talk on the phone. Sometimes when my husband calls me I want to get off the phone either because I am busy or I have 5 min. to myself and I want it for myself! I think when your wife gets done with school things will get better. I do think you need to talk about it but dont start the conversation off with "have you done anything today?" or "What's your problem anyways?" You need to say it calm and when you are both in a good mood. Mabey after sex or something. Just ask if she happy and tell her what you are botherd with. Sugest you split up some of the chores because after all you work a full time job.... I would assume and you dont have that much time either.......

2006-12-13 03:56:09 · answer #2 · answered by runzwsizorz 3 · 1 0

Well she's in school and working,

and you want her to :
she doesnt do anything around the house as far as cleaning goes. doesnt have time to make out the bills, and when i talk to her she is constantly in a bad mood.

What are you doing?
And what are you doing to:
Help with the cleaning, help pay the bills, and help to put her in a good mood,

And frankly if you weren't so busy with your expectations, maybe you could start to meet hers,

I would not want to talk to you on the phone if all you did was complain and threaten to leave, i would not waste one minute when i had so little time to myself,

You should start worrying about what your doing to ruin the marriage , and what you are contributing . NOT MONEY>

, I think you should divorce her, so she can find a better man.one who will appreciate her, and help her out, support her emotionally ,financially, and physically.

Because its obvious your not interested in 50/50-
Good luck

2006-12-13 03:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Tell her in a very nice way that you want to talk to her and get some things discussed. Ask her when is a good time. Be very clear on your feelings about how she treats you. Just remember to always fight fair. She may get mean but don't retaliate. Just be as nice as you can so you can get some real answers. If she doesn't give you nice answers I would ask her if she wants to stay in this relationship and how important are you to her. Tell her communication is key in a relationship and see how you might improve how you treat her if that is the problem. But tell her you really want to make things better in the relationship and you are not just trying to make her mad. See what happens. I hope that helps.

2006-12-13 03:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by newroch1986 1 · 0 0

if you have tried your best to talk to her and it has not worked then maybe divorce is in the air.i get mood swings and am men to my fiance and we have three kids and i stay home while he works so we both have a lot on our plate but we still love each other and understand the mood swings we both have and we sat down and made a contract that would help us both change the things we hate about the other.we both agreed to stop doing 4 or 5 things the other didn.t like and it has helped us out alot.now i am not saying it is for you.but maybe you should come right out and ask her does she still love you cause you feel alone in the marriage and it,s not working or tell her things have to change or you want a divorce

2006-12-13 03:54:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Did she support you through school. Marriage is give and take. You should try counseling before you jump into a divorce. Rather than pointing out her flaws try asking for help she may understand that more. She may feel like when you are talking to her you are not treating her like an equal.Do you still love her? she may not know how to handle the stress and this is the only way she knows. Good Luck Don't give up to soon.

2006-12-13 03:51:50 · answer #6 · answered by daisygirl 3 · 1 1

I do have faith that a number of your regulations are enormously some distance fetched for a sixteen 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous in this era. The curfew isn't too undesirable, she's in college and could have lots of time to commit to homework, analyzing, ect. No makeup? Why? She's sixteen and if she is taught a thank you to ideal stick to makeup it somewhat is going to look as though she's no longer wearing any in any respect. i do no longer disagree with the clothing wanting to be "regulation length" yet including your regulations i'm assuming her skirts could desire to flow under the knee? extremely of a tshirt over a washing extra healthy why no longer have her placed on some thing modest? i do no longer see having her study bible verses as being strict, yet having them recited seems somewhat plenty. If the verses pertain to what she is presently coping with in her existence, enable her study them and mirror on her own. i'm confident she has a boyfriend..you merely don't understand approximately it yet. cellular telephone regulations are somewhat harsh, and limiting her communicate time to half-hour and monitoring is ridiculous. She's sixteen no longer 10, if she hasn't given you a reason to no longer believe her then you could provide her the coolest thing approximately the doubt. choosing her pals and not allowing her to communicate to those that you deem immoral is incorrect, if she isn't allowed to come back to a determination what's solid and incorrect on her own how will she understand who to believe while she is out on her own? Church could be a call, no longer a call for at her age. the alternative could be open, and she or he could have the skill to voice her opinion on no remember if she desires to attend. The extra you push her to be a "ethical individual and a powerful Christian" the extra she will riot and combat lower back against you by using way you manage her. provide her some area, duty, and a few strategies. My mom replaced into VERY controlling and that i rebelled, stressful. you're maximum in all possibility going to finally end up with a similar form of consequences or a baby who won't desire something to do with you later in existence.

2016-12-30 08:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0 0

Dude, get out as fast as you can, specially now because you don't have any KIDS. Nobody deserves to be treated like that. Go find yourself a nice girl that cares and is there for you and takes care of your home. It sounds like she might be knocking boots somewhere else too, How long have you been married? If you don't have any kids, GET OUT IF YOU WANT TO LIVE.

2006-12-13 04:06:25 · answer #8 · answered by hecc24 2 · 0 0

how long has this been going on? u need to talk to her and make it clear that you have been mistreated and deserve better and seek her improvement and changes. give her some time and help her out with chores since she's busy. you have to do everything to save it before you let it go otherwise you will encounter the same thing again sometime in the future with the same problem and solution!

2006-12-13 04:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by xyz 4 · 0 0

Talk to her and tell her how you feel, help her and become a team help clean the house pay the bills and help her get thru college, you have been there remember?? It will help or it won't but it does not hurt to try.

2006-12-13 03:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by twinki 2 · 1 0

Wait until she's done with college. College puts lots of stress on a marriage. In the meantime, try to sit down with her and gently tell her what's on your mind and some ideas to make things better for you both. When she's finished with college and you both work normal hours, see how things go. If she's still being difficult, get rid of her.

2006-12-13 03:50:24 · answer #11 · answered by bewitching_green_fairy 3 · 1 1

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