my boyfriend wants to have a bay and so do i but how do we make sure it will be ok with our parents?

Question

i really dont know what to do we want one so bad and we think that we could be really good parents but its our parents that dont think so and yet we have been together for one year on the 22 of this month we want to take the next step wit each other and we talked it over and at first i thought he was jokin around but thats all we can think about everytime we turn on the t.v thats all we see so really i just need sum help on tellin me how we will be able to tell our parents wat we are goin to do or shoould we just wait and tell them after i am pregant which will be better

Answer 1

When you have a proper grasp of the English language and how to spell, then you may want to consider bringing a child into the world. Until that happens, please for the taxpayers sakes wait.

Answer 2

How old are you and your boyfriend? If you're concerned about your parents being ok with it, then you're not ready to have a baby. Sorry, but you need to make sure that the two of you are ready, not anyone else. When my husband and I decided to have a baby, we didn't ask anyone if it was ok. We just knew. And if you've only been together almost a year and you want to take the next step, why not live together or maybe get married. Make him your husband before you make him the father of your baby. There's a better chance that he stay around if he's your husband. That all depends on your relationship. He may not be the type to leave while you're pregnant.

I would make the next step living together or getting married. A baby is a lifetime job. You can always move out if you're living with each other and you can always get a divorce. If either of those happen, then you're obviously not ready to have a baby.
But you can't always get rid of a baby that easily.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

What is most important is that you and your bf are financially, physically, emotionally and spiritually able to take care of a baby.

What I will recommend though is probably considering marriage first. I know that nowadays this is not a pre-requisite but it will be a more solid foundation- family wise.

I have a 3 mth old. My bf wanted a baby and I had told him not until we were settled because we had and still have a lot of family issues. I found out I was pregnant April this year, both my parents were upset and do not even ask about his. My dad has still not seen my son (who's 3 mths) and his parents only got to see my son last week becuse my fiance was going abroad.

my mom came around though, the night I went to have my baby.

No one here can give hard and fast solutions but only advice. Remember that a child is a great responsibility but also a great joy.

Good luck in making your decision and remember that what you decide affects a circle of ppl.

Answer 4

the next step? honey, you're skipping one!
the basic steps are: get through school--get a good job--settle into an apartment/house/whatever--meet someone great--GET MARRIED--start a family

I once have a bf for 2 years who said the same things. Thank GOD i didn't sleep with him cause he was cheating on me and we just found ourselves within 2 years of being with each other.

You may think your bf is all that, but you've only been together for a year. If you're not old enough to get married WITHOUT parental consent (some places let you get married when you're 16 w/ parental consent), then you're not old enough nor ready to have a baby.

Think about this first hon. If he loves you, he'll wait, and vice versa.

But still ask your parents. Tell them whats goin on cause they should know regardless. To know that theyre child is craving a baby of her own would concern them and they'll help you any way possible, whether taking you to a therapist or buying you a crib. (hopefully neither, but consider talking to a counselor)

Answer 5

so your talking about taking the next step...LOL okay well here it goes. I'm assuming that the two of you are not even considered legal yet, but I'll still go over the steps with you. 1. first you meet..ok you have that covered. 2. you go out on a few dates learn you like each other, then become a couple. 3. You want something more in the relationship, then get engaged. 4. get married. 5. and lastly start your new family. That's how it should go.

Answer 6

first of all your question shows how immature you are.......yeah and you think your ready for a kid??? Have you even finished school? What about life experiences? How about you grow up a little GET MARRIED and then have a baby.

How are you going to pay for it?
THe average no problem vaginal delivery is $9,000.00
That doesnt even include your 10 months of check ups and ultrasounds.
Where are you going to live? Average apartment will run you $600 a month + utilities $150
Food-$150
$diapers-$75
Formula-$50
So with just your living expense for a month not including your phone, or any other luxuries is around $1000.
and with you two not having graduated college(obviously) the highest paying job you'll be able to get is around $9 full time you would only make $720 a paycheck and then taxes takes around 150-200 out ....so the paycheck you see is around$575 ....

ITS NOT LIKE PLAYING HOUSE LIKE YOU SEE ON TV......YOU ARE DEALING WITH REAL LIFE AND YOU ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR ANOTHER HUMAN BEING....

do you even know what happens during childbirth??? Your vagina actually RIPS or the doc cuts it...

Answer 7

Maybe you should get married first, that way you will not have a bastard child!!! A year really is not enough time to know if a person is going to be a good parent. Why the rush? Enjoy each other, a kid is going to complicate things. Maybe the reason your parents have that opinion, is because they are older, wiser and know more than you two. If and when you do have a kid, send it to school, so it does not spell like you do.

Answer 8

First off, how old are you two? Secondly, having a baby when you are older and married is a whole lot easier on you, if you are too young. I had a child when I was a teenager, it was tough. Just wait a little while longer, if you are really dedicated to having a baby, the thought will still be there in a few more years.

Answer 9

The next step is marriage, not making a baby. You've only been together a year, aren't married, but think you can handle it? Try commiting marriage to each other before commiting 18 years to raising a child. Then your parents would approve.

Answer 10

1. How old are you?
2. A lot of teens say they love someone, and think they really do love them, but they don't. That is what they don't understand. THEY ARE USUALLY NOT IN LOVE! What if this guy is just trying to get in your parents? At least wait until you are eighteen. And yout tell him that if he really loves you enough to have a child with you, then he ought to really love you enough to marry you. (If you are above eighteen.) I'd get married before you have a baby. Just think of it! You're boyfriend breaks up with you since he finally got into your pants, and you are stuck raising that baby alone. Let's see...no prom, no dances, no dates, no life! You will have trouble getting a new boyfriend, because NO guy wants to take a baby on their honeymoon with them unless it is THEIR baby. Trust me, you will not regret it if you wait.

Answer 11

having a baby is not a joke. i agree with almost everybodywho answred youre question. How old are you. From experience im a teenager and already a mommy. i just had my twins 4 months before my due date and theyre trying to survive. its not a joke. mke sure you are really ready to be a mom its not that easy especially going to school nine months pregnant like i did. if you can wait then wait girl what's the rush. and if youre boyfriend wants a baby he will wait till you are ready. its nice to have the support of youre man like i have.