My buddy and I and our wives are in our late 20s. My buddy and I like to do guy things and our wives do their own thing. Other than watching and playing sports and hanging out at the bar, we also like to watch porn and masturbate together. I guess it brings us back to our college days. Is engaging in this activity sorta like cheating on our spouses?
We did jerk each other off once when we were drunk but it never happened after that.
We just did it to see what it felt like.
2006-12-13 03:37:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
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Come on man. You've got to be kidding me? Are you cheating??? The better question is "Are you gay?"
I'd call it cheating because another person (might I add male) touched you in an intimate way. That's unacceptable when you're in a relationship with someone else. You can call it experimenting, you can say it only happened once - but what happens when you guys get curious again and decide to go further???
Stop the madness.
2006-12-13 03:45:34 · answer #1 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That was cheating anyway you want to look at it. It is one thing spending time with your buddy, "buddy night out". But that was no excuse, "we were drunk and we ****** each other off". And watching porn to boot!!That is a big crock of bull. As a matter of fact even going to the bar is BS, as you can't handle your beer. If I was your wife, you would be in so much trouble with me. I think you and your buddy just needs to grow up. Oh you did say you were in your 20..late 20's, it is time to grow up, your not a kid any more.
2006-12-14 02:18:32 · answer #2 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time that you jerked each other off drunk or not that I would consider cheating because you was with someone other that your wife, engaging in a sexual activity. The other things the porn etc. I don't feel is cheating at all.
2006-12-13 03:43:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends on how your wife feels about it. I assume she doesn't know about it. Ask yourself: If she did know what was going on, would she be upset? If you strongly suspect the answer is "yes," then I would consider it cheating, or at least being disrespectful of the trust she has in you. You need to be respectful of her needs to feel close to you and that she is special to you.
On the other hand, she may be perfectly fine with it. I know that my ex-girlfriend would have been just fine with it if I had done things like this while I was with her.
Also, if you jerked each other off once when you were drunk, that doesn't make you gay. It means that you were drunk and wanted to know what it felt like.
2006-12-14 10:32:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not know if it is cheating but it is kinda weird. I hang out with some guy friends but in all my live I can say the idea of getting together to masturbate has never come up. I spent 6 years in collage and it never came up there either.
2006-12-13 03:47:10 · answer #5 · answered by Brian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably
you might be gay too
my own feeling is that there isn't much wrong with mutual masturbation, some people just watch each other doing it. Would that be cheating.
I think you should tell your wives about it. If they are ok with it, then its not cheating.
2006-12-13 03:41:54 · answer #6 · answered by kurticus1024 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you're a guy I'm gonna and you assume you wouldn't mind it if your wife and your buddie's wife did the same (if you could watch!).Would you mind if your male buddy masturbated your wife?Personally, I don't want anyone jerking off my old man except for me.
2006-12-13 03:54:28 · answer #7 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, I don't think it's cheating..you're only dealing with your own penis !
But, it might be a sign for you and your friend that something is missing in your sexual relationship with your partners and maybe you should try to think about it and then discuss it with your wives.
It is a little imature though (you say it yourself, it reminds you your college days...) but you are not hurting anyone and not involved in any kind of relationship on the side of your marriage, so I cannot call this cheating
2006-12-13 03:47:33 · answer #8 · answered by Flofy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out yes. If you went as far as to jerk each other off at one time.....absolutely YES. I understand liking to watch porn.....but with another man??? Sounds like there is a little more to this story.
2006-12-13 13:50:48 · answer #9 · answered by c_my_blueeyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say if it's cheating or not...but it IS kind of warped. If I knew my BF was doing something like this, it would bother me. If you must do it, watch porn and masturbate with your wives!
2006-12-13 03:40:46 · answer #10 · answered by Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋