2006-12-13 03:34:19 · 23 answers · asked by del72 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
going threw this myself right now caf cas chap from the court involved so messy i had a really great bond with my kids on of 9 and step daughter 13 now the ex is saying they dont want to see me she left because she didnt love me anymore took kids moved into her parents who have there spirtuil cult and ive got to fight for custody or accsess when ive done nothing bloody wrong the law stinks its an out of date unfair system making my blood boi l and im a ordinary laid back guy who was happy 3 mnths ago aaaagghhh
2006-12-13 08:41:35 · answer #1 · answered by rabbit18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they don't, not always. My friend is a single father of his 2 year old daughter (my God daughter). Her mother carried her for 9 months, tried to raise her for 6 months and then said that the baby is getting in her way of being free so gave him there daughter and left. Now she wants to be a mother but is completely unfit. She doesn't feed her, she's homeless now, and she is a liar. No matter what the situation is with this girl it always gets worse. After the courts saw all the proof that he was taking care of his daughter full time (doctors visits, receipts for diapers, clothes, etc.) and finding out her mothers background he got full custody of his daughter. So Fathers don't always lose out with there kids its just that the courts give more sympathy to the mother because they have to carry the baby and etc. But there are a lot more cases like this where the father does get full custody.
2006-12-13 03:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by The Plague 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has been the trend for the longest time but the courts are getting smarter now and in some cases, the men get full custody......
The reason why I believe the courts gave custody of the kids to the women was since most wifes stay at home and are with the kids everyday to raise them and the father tends to work a lot and is not able to raise the kids as well...
2006-12-13 03:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by JohnS 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Don't know what you mean I didn't lose my kids. I could have had 50/50 physical custody but choose 2 days a week and every other weekend because I divorced her becasue I don't think I'm cut out to be a family man. Fathers have choices nowadays. If you want shared custody ask for it. You will never get full custody unless she is an unfit mother, but the same goes for her, she will never get full custody unless you choose to give it up or are a unfit dad.
2006-12-13 03:40:10 · answer #4 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, it isn't fair. I think it is because traditionally the dad goes to work and the mum stays home to raise the kids. In this day and age that is not always the case.
I am a divorced mother who works full time. I have custody of my two because he only wanted them when it suited him. They see him on alternate weekends, holidays etc and I never deny him access to them or vice versa. I think that women who deny access to their ex out of vengeance hurt the kids as well as the ex but are too blinded by anger to see that.
2006-12-13 03:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goes back to laws that were written in the 1920's that slant all children issues in the favor of the mother. As a father you will have to work twice as hard to stay connected to your kids. Make every effort and when you need to seek a lawyer to insure that your rights as a father are protected
2006-12-13 03:52:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't always loose out just most of the time. My dad raised me and my 4 sisters when my mother walked out on him for a new fella.
I was just a 6 mth old baby when my mum left, as I was growing up there were a few court case where my mother was tring to get us.
The court knew it was best for us to stay with our dad so we did.
My dad done a great job raising us girls.
I kind of get what your saying though, I think it all to do with the woman given birth to the babies and the man being the 'breadwinner'.
2006-12-13 04:45:31 · answer #7 · answered by ***Missy*** 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know Del. Sometimes Dads move on and find other interests. Sometimes I believe society dictates what's right for our kids. There are men who make better parents than women......and vice versa. Seems that men are, more times than not, made out to be the 'bad guy' when a marriage ends. I think a dad just has to constantly let his kid/kids know he loves them......always support their decisions and when the kids are old enough, they'll start figuring things out. Good luck to you.
2006-12-13 04:20:16 · answer #8 · answered by Lovinlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not fair. I think it's just old stereotypes again...that the mother is the nurturing one, etc. For the most part (and I'm shooting myself in the food by saying this), the mother seems to have more of an "instinct" to care for her young. But I've seen some horrible mothers and some dads who could outdo most moms!! Times are a changin!!
2006-12-13 03:40:16 · answer #9 · answered by muscgrad2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't always. However what is worrying is that you call it loosing. It's not a game, a competition or a fight. You are both adults and you have to work together for the well being of your kids. Too many times parents fight over this and gain shared custody....a real nightmare for kids.
2006-12-13 05:56:30 · answer #10 · answered by Stef 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋