i'm a teenager, and i have certain personal problems in my life. sometimes i enter moods that make me feel like all i want to do is just runaway or spend the next 2 hours all alone. at summer, i used to wake up very early and just walk the entire beach line and come back. while im walking, i can't stop thinking about my life and what i would have done if i lived my life once more. i don't know if this is good or not, if this will help me learn from my mistakes, or make me less-confident. i cant resist the beach without promising myself to wake up the next morning and walk it end to end. sometimes i wish someone was there to talk to me while i walked, sometimes i just stick to my iPod, and sometimes i wish i would have my hours for only me and the beach.my cousins keep asking me whats wrong, but the truth is, i don't know. and in this position i think about it, and i find millions of answers that somehow dont fit. is this depression?or is it lonliness? or stress? or just pure rebelness?
2006-12-13 03:28:46 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Yes this is indeed depression. I went through the same thing. Except...not on the beach. What you have here is an alarmingly low amount of self-esteem. You need help.
Step 1
What you need to do is bost you self esteem. First find out what you treasure most in life. In other words, find reasons to live. What do you like? Pizza, Ice Cream, Boys, Butterflies, Babies, Music? Think about every thing you love and write it down.
Step 2
Let go of past experiences. I grew up with strict military parents. They always lowered my self esteem when they told me that I wasn't going to be anything. When they raised their voice at me and were constantly verbally attacking me. What you feel is probably from your past experiences. Such as your parents or mean people you've hung out with. LET IT GO. Pretend it never happened and just think of how wonderful it is to let off that heavy burdon from your heart. If you are currently experiencing these problems, then you have to let them go on the fly. If someone just yelled at you, pretend like it didn't happen the next minute. If you're sad because you don't have anyone to comfort you, its up to you to walk up to someone on the beach and have a friendly conversation that will, in turn, make you feel better and forget what is going on. Don't WANT to be sad. Be willing to change for the better. WANT to be a cheerful person. WANT people to see that fire of light burning inside you and showing on the outside! :)
Step 3
Talk to yourself. I want to tell you about a technique called "Self Talk". It will boost your self-esteem. Just take some time throughout the day to tell yourself that you are better than you think you are and you WILL be better than you think you will be.
Tell yourself:
-I will not let depression ruin my life.
-Theres thousand of people like me who have changed for the better.
-I'm a supastar!
-I don't care what people think about me.
-I can make friends on this beach.
-Life is a beach and I will walk on it all day.
-I am the ruler of my life and I will make my own decidion on who I will becom.
-I'm special and eveyone can see
-I'm drop-dead gorgeous theres thousands of boys who'd want to meet me.
-Its a beautiful day!
Your mission here is to boost your self-esteem, Not to be concieted. You can controll your feelings. Always want positive feelings. If you're listening to sad, self-durogatory music, I suggest you delete it off your I-Pod and never listen to it again. Listen to positive music. Be like Kelly Clarkson and BREAK AWAY! Practice self talk several times a day and you will feel better.
Step 4
Visualize. This is a technique like self talk that will help you with your self esteem. You have to imagine yourself in a situation that you win over. Visualize yourself in a situation that gets you stressed or depressed and imagine yourself having a positive outcome. Imagine someone special coming to see you. Imagine meeting a new friend on the beach who walks with you and talks with you and makes you laugh. Imagine living out on your own and having your own house with your own rules and partying every weekend. Let your imagination go wild with happy thoughts. Its Fun!
Step 5
Living with depression. I still have what I call "depression attacks". But its like I don't have depression any more. When my dad is yelling at me, I handle my feelings by telling myself that I'm better than him and he doesn't know it. When you find yourself in a depressing moment, feel free to walk away. "I have better things to do with my time." Tell yourself to move on. Its so much better to feel happy. Flirt with people. It feels good. Socialize with people who make you happy.
Cheah!
2006-12-13 04:10:20 · answer #1 · answered by Trill on tha Ville 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister would call it the identity crisis of the teenager. But if you ask me i'd i would say, nothing happens except there is a root cause. Such tendencies are conditioned and so tackling it would require understanding of the couse.
My advice is find someone who talks alot and spend time with them. think about people you admire and stick to them like glue. most importantly, dont stay alone. think about other people and try not to focus on yourself too much. find out what you think is good about yourself and others and talk about it.
this is a suggestion which can protect you from developing a reserved personality. m sure you dont wont that.
2006-12-13 03:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by marodee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be depression... stress.... im basicaly the same way... at times I want to be by myself.. I like to sit in my room and listen to hardcore/rock/depressing music... I would say you need to try and talk to someone about how you may feel every now and then because it does help... and counseling may work too... it dont work for all people though.. I think it just made me worse but people are defferent... GOOD LUCK WITH EVERYTHING!!!
2006-12-13 04:00:45 · answer #3 · answered by lil_miss_lynn33 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not depression. ur simply feelin sorry for yourself. do this : spnd time with people that put a smile on ur face. includin ur family. more often that is. when u spend time with ur self remember happy times. ur gnn ahave mood swings ye
2006-12-13 03:34:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
true depression has to be present for months...its normal fo teens to experience mood swings int he short term.
2006-12-13 03:33:17 · answer #5 · answered by David B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you sound normal... but if you feel horrid in winter and great in the summer get tested for S.A.D.
2006-12-13 03:37:47 · answer #6 · answered by A!mEe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋