Her mom and dad are in the middle of getting divorced and her dad has no place to go her dad drinks and sometimes he sllep in a tent.She told she can feel when he is in the tent and she feels that she needs to chck on him.I feel bad for her she gose through all this and sometime well most of the time she gets yelled at by her mom for no reason.
2006-12-13 03:26:52 · 11 answers · asked by Barbara N 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I am 16 years old, and my parents went through a divorce when i was only 6 years and my brother 8 yrs old. my mom done (still does) the same thing to me, always screaming. I don't really understand what your question is, but your friend should just try to stear clear from her mom and try to talk to her dad, take it from me, i know thes things now. Wish her the best of luck, and tell her that you are always there for her, especially if she needs to get away from her mom
2006-12-13 03:33:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please try to assure your friend that she is not responsible for her family. Be there for her and encourage her to draw on her own strength. Her mom is under a lot of stress and takes it out on your friend, which is not right but just happens sometimes. I would hope that your friend could sit down with her mom and tell her that she is trying to be a good daughter - could they have a "private signal" when her mom is stressing out?
If she needs to check on her Dad, let her. It is a sad thing when a kid has to be the adult.
If there is a decent counselor at your school, your friend should set up times to talk with her (or him). That's what they are there for.
2006-12-13 11:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.... you didn't exactly ask, but you want to know how to help your friend.
Her dad is an alcoholic and that has likely led to a great deal of family dysfunction. I was a daughter of an alcoholic father, so I can relate to this one.
Many years ago, a school counselor referred me to Alateen, which is a group to help teens living in families with alcoholism. Her mom would go to Alanon, which helps adult family members. These groups can help, even if the alcoholic isn't in AA or trying to stop. They teach a person how to cope and deal with things that are not ideal in their life, and how not to be taken advantage of because of the co-dependent relationships that form.
Your friend is a child, not a parent. It is not her job to check on her father. She's not responsible for him. He should be responsible for her! Her actions are common with children of alcoholics. Alateen will help her learn to be a kid again.
Here's a website for Alanon/Alateen where you can get more information for your friend and find a local group:
http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-13 11:35:28 · answer #3 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her sleep over at your house for a bit, if possible. her parents need to work this divorce out.
also, her dad should apply for an AA checkin. Who wants to be broke and homeless?
Her mom is frustrated and she needs to lighten up. This is the worst thing that could happen to a kid, so she should be more understanding about it.
Your friend should also see a counselor, and so should her parents (together, the whole family, or separated). Just in case...
Kudos to you for trying to help your friend!
2006-12-13 12:24:44 · answer #4 · answered by cattys_cats 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a good friend and dont judge her for it. Dont make her talk about her problems because it might embarress her. Just be there for her when she needs a shoulder to cry on and let her talk to you first. Try and relate to her somehow even in a little way...express something to her that makes you down about your life so she feels less alone.
2006-12-13 16:06:24 · answer #5 · answered by jennyve25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most important thing that you can do is stick by her. allow her to spend the night with you to get away from the stress. it sounds like her mother is trying to make her be the reason for the divorce and she doesn't need to be burdened with that. do normal stuff with her to get her mind off her home life. support her.
2006-12-13 11:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by *~*Jon-Jon's Mommy!!*~* 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
comfort her and try to go over to her house as much as possible and help her with things around the house and invite her over a lot to protect from any harm
2006-12-13 11:53:52 · answer #7 · answered by Autumn B. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorice is hard on everyone involved. Does she have a relative she can stay with until her parents get everything settled?
2006-12-13 11:31:05 · answer #8 · answered by mdoud01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then whats the question....
anyways
mom and dads do get mad at eachother during their marriage and moms do get frustrated and take it out on their kids
2006-12-13 11:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by mina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to him when he is sober and tell him how much he is hurting her and he needs help maybe if he gets it their family will work if not he might get ajob and take care oif himself and all.
2006-12-13 11:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by crystal b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋