I Love my boyfriend so much, and I want to be with him forever. He had some past girls ever since I left him last year, now he's in trouble with some guy, then he comes and sees the girl he was seeing before me and him got back again (we got together again in november of this year). However, she called him, and can you beleive she invited him over and he told me she kissed him but he pushed her back and said he had a girl, but then im like 'why did you go?' and I just get so frustrated. What can I do, he says he trully loves me and wants to marry me some day. I also want to marry him because I love him, but all this gets in the way and
I haven't even been able to sleep. This may seem confusing, but if you have any advice I'd really appreciate it, or anything that you can tell me to make me see or make things better
2006-12-13 03:25:16 · 16 answers · asked by Candy_T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If he pushed her away when she tried to kiss him, then he is a good guy and all this stuff that is getting in the way you can push out of your relationship. It will take work on both your parts, its not going to be easy, but if you really love each other then you will get over these obstacles in your way. He went because he probably has a past with this woman, and maybe he needed some closure so that he can get on with his life and be with you. If he went with the intent to be with her he wouldnt have pushed her away, he would have slept with you. Just try to figure out if you both feel that its worth the fight, and if you love each other then it is.
2006-12-13 03:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by Mary S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok did she tell you this or that is what he said? No offense guys but guys are sometimes very idiotic. They just really dont think about things before they do them. Just because he went over there doesnt mean he had intentions of cheating (necessarily). You can be in relationship with someone, break up but still really care about the person. Not in a way that you want to be with them but in a friendly way. Some people can not remain STRICTLY friends after dating but others can. These are some questions to ask yourself... Did you feel like he was lying when he told you the story(BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF).. Do you feel you can trust him... Have things like this happen before.. Does he have a habit of hanging out with old girlfriends....My advise would be to play it cool but keep this scenario in your back pocket because later down the line the story may change or something similar may happen. Here is another question.. Did he leave after she tried to kiss him or did he stay? If he went over there on a friendly note and she came on to him then he should have seen that she was up to no good and left. Plus he definitely shouldnt be going over her house anymore because she is not a friend. She obviously wants more. Good luck
2006-12-13 11:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your right! There is no way in hell he should of went over there. When i'm in a relationship I stay away from girls i know or used to talk to in that way. And if he went over there then he went for a reason, and there is no way he backed away from a kiss. He prolly is using the kiss thing to distract you cause its something little. That way you keep thinking about that and get pissed about that, but all in all its not a big deal. You dont really know what happened, so the only thing to do is to find out what happened and go from there, or just let it how it is, and decide from there if you wanna be with him or not. Maybe he will make better decisions in the future now that he knows.
2006-12-13 11:33:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be to let him go - you need to. If he truly loved you and thought you were the only girl for him - there wouldn't be any "other girl" in the picture. Real love isn't confusing. It doesn't make you run back to someone from your past. It doesn't make you kiss other girls (if she got close enough to kiss him he wasn't objecting).
He may like you a lot - but he doesn't love you or he'd be treating you so well you wouldn't be confused at all.
2006-12-13 11:32:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she thought that there was still something there. Not trying to validate his actions but it is a bit confusing. For you, it doesnt sound like you guys are ready for marriage just yet. I would work out the reasons you broke up in the first place and then see a chaplian or a professional who can help you guys make sure marriage is something for you guys. Once your married "breaking up" isnt as easy.
2006-12-13 11:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Liza R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, I have a man just like him and he does love you it's just that some times he doesn't know how to tell you. We've all had some problems in the past so live love and forget!
2006-12-13 11:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by michelle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you see yourself with this man as your husband?I don't think so.I understand you want to be in love, we women always want to feel loved, but you aren't feeling loved because you know he's not loving you the way you need to be so what 's the question?Do you compromise what makes you happy for what? Hmmmmmm?
2006-12-13 11:29:34 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool down. Talk to him about it when you're rational. Then hopefully you can come to a conclusion such as: no meeting exs unless its in a public place. If you really love him, it'll become a footnote in time. Unless of course, he does this alot. Then its time to drop him.
2006-12-13 11:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Calm down,I'm sure he loves you.He just went to see how's she going or so...as just a friend not as a crush.He proved that when he pushed her,that means that he really loves you.Believe me,just forget and appreciate his loyalty.Good luck.
2006-12-13 11:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...he told you what happened with that girl that should tell you that he does want to be with you and that he wouldnt cheat.
he probably didn't expect her to do that.
to me your story sounds a little shady and i dont know what to say so sorry i cant help much. justknow that if he tells you that she kissed him then he is being faithfull and telling you what happened so you know and so that he wont have to explain it to you later when you have less trust of him cause you heard it from a friend
2006-12-13 11:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋