Me and my friend are trying to have a baby. I am twenty years old and never been pregnant before. Everyone I know has either gotten pregnant before or are pregnant now. We have unprotected sex for about six months now and nothing. I feel like we been trying for almost a year and I am scared that I may not be able to have kids. Me and a former boyfriend also had unproteted sex a alot and I never became pregnant by him either. I delibertly tried to get pregnant and I feel that I can't give my man the son or daughter that he wants. Could me starting to have sex at a young age (15) have something to do with whats wrong with me
2006-12-13 03:22:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Starting to have sex early doesn't affect your fertility.
There are clinics that can check to make sure that you are fertile.
Go and find out. There is always a chance that it is just the guy who's not making able soldiers.
2006-12-13 03:24:19 · answer #1 · answered by The Ascending Serpent 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok at 20 do you really want the responsibility of a child?! I had children at your age and I don't regret it by any means cuz god knows I love my children but I wish I would have waited! As far as your situation goes I am firm beleiver that everything in life happens for a reason and when the time is right especially when it comes to being preg. No having sex at 15 has nothing to do with it. I did and I have had 2 kids! I think that if you are totaly committed and serious about having a child now go see a doctor and get checked out to make sure there isn't any reasons medically why you can't get preg. If you check out fine then consider this...maybe he can't produce and children himself. He should go get checked out as well to make sure he is potent!! Good luck!!
2006-12-13 03:31:07 · answer #2 · answered by MLP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would say, you will become pregnant when the time is right. You are so young, I think you should enjoy your life as a young adult first, before settling into a full time life as a mother. And no, whenever you start having sex is of no issue. However, are you sure....this person wants a child now. Children are not to be taken lightly, they need constant care, constant love and constant support both spiritually and financially.
Don't rush you life....don't rush the life of a child who you may not be ready for. Go to a family planning group somewhere, in every city, and seek advise and plan accordingly. Often they can also help you medically if in deed you are ready for a family.
2006-12-13 03:33:02 · answer #3 · answered by SHADY LADY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to be sure it is the right time for you. Just because "everyone else is doing it" doesn't mean you should be. A baby isn't a puppy. Children are a LIFE LONG commitment. I guess you need to not only see a DR. but talk to a counselor and find out what is driving you to have a baby right now....I'm nopt saying you shouldn't..or you are too young, I was 21 when I had my first. I just want you to be wanting a child for the right reasons and to KNOW the responsibility that lies ahead of you. Your life WILL change. A Dr. can talk to you and run some tests to see what could be physically preventing you from getting pregnant.
2006-12-13 03:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by PennyPickles17 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and have 1 child it took a year to the month to get pregnant with him......we have been trying for over a year now.....nothing. I hope you are ready to have a baby and you just don't want one because your friends already do. Trust me you might think you know they are a lot of work but it is 10 times harder......I had my first baby at 29. I really believe if it is meant to be it will happen.......Good Luck
2006-12-13 09:31:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no sex at a young age has nothing to do with it. i'd go to a gyno and get checked out. ask for help and they maybe able to give you some to make you more regular. there is always a possibility of invtro. keep trying and don't stress. try have a bit of fun. my friend tried for 18 months and nothing, but when they decided it will happen when its right, thats when they got pregnant. good luck
2006-12-13 03:28:37 · answer #6 · answered by Moony Black 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You musn't worried a lot, because you're really young and you have enough time to get pregnat. You have to try see an gynecologist and tell him/her the situation, you will have to take many exams but i recommend you go with your boyfriend too, it will be safer that both make a check and test to know if you really can't have babies, this issue has to be responsability of you two not only yours. Talk with your bf and he will understand, Good luck and take care! ;)
2006-12-13 03:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by Delosly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep trying. It takes a while. Took me 8 months with first and 1 year with this second one I am carrying now. Good luck.
2006-12-13 03:32:39 · answer #8 · answered by doodersmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say "me and my FRIEND are trying to have a baby..".. Is he just a friend or a b/f or what? And you're only 20!!!!!!! Do things for yourself while you still can.. enjoy a relationship, go on vacations, treat yourself to a new outfit, be spontanious.. That's what 20 year olds should do.. not be having children.. You have plenty of time for kids.
2006-12-13 03:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i am in the exact same situation as you except i am 18 and have been trying with my man for over a year and nothing...i have no clue what it is and its not him cause he has a kid..so i know its me i think it might be related to an underactive thyroid...check that out im going too...good luck with that
2006-12-13 03:26:36 · answer #10 · answered by nawti969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋